Heart Work After Betrayal | Infidelity, Marriage, Forgiveness, Loneliness, Trust

Julia Carlton - Relationship Coach & Infidelity Recovery Mentor
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***TOP 5% GLOBALLY RANKED PODCAST*** Heart Work After Betrayal For Christian wives rebuilding trust after infidelity Are you a Christian wife trying to rebuild trust after infidelity? Do you feel alone, triggered, and torn between healing your marriage and protecting your heart? Have you been asking questions like: - How do I heal from the pain and broken trust after infidelity? - How do I rebuild trust after cheating? - How do I know whether to stay or leave? - How do I forgive without losing myself? - How do I find emotional healing and safety again? - How do I reconnect with God, myself, and my spouse after betrayal? If that sounds like you, this podcast is for you. Heart Work After Betrayal is for Christian wives who are married, have walked through infidelity, and want help navigating the pain, confusion, triggers, trauma, and loss of identity that often follow betrayal. Maybe you struggle with intense loneliness because of the broken trust by the one who was supposed to be your partner for life and feel like a rug has been pulled out from under you. Or you feel overwhelmed with the pain but still having to show up either for your kids or at work. Or you feel like you should be further along already since it’s been a few months or even years ago when you found out about the betrayal. This space is here to help you feel seen, supported, and grounded. I’m Julia Carlton, Relationship Coach and Certified 5 Voices Practitioner. After experiencing the pain of infidelity in my own marriage, I learned that healing after betrayal does not begin by trying to fix everything overnight. It begins by rebuilding trust in yourself, rebuilding your spiritual foundation, and rebuilding relational trust with wisdom, honesty, and emotional safety. Each week on this Christian marriage podcast, we focus on: rebuilding trust in yourself after betrayal rebuilding your spiritual foundation and restoring your identity in Christ rebuilding relational trust and discerning reconciliation wisely emotional healing and safety after infidelity how to trust again after cheating move towards healing your marriage without ignoring the pain healthy boundaries, forgiveness, and communication finding support when you feel alone in betrayal recovery HEART WORK after Betrayal is about doing the deep heart work required to rebuild trust with yourself and God first, restore identity, walk in forgiveness, and move forward with strength and clarity.  If you are looking for faith-based support after infidelity and want personal help rebuilding trust and discerning your next steps, I also offer private 1:1 Heart Work Coaching for Christian wives healing after betrayal. Healing is possible. Trust can be rebuilt. Emotional safety can be restored. And if reconciliation is right, a renewed relationship can be pursued with wisdom, faith, and truth.

  1. 17 hr ago

    45 | Ready to Finally Stop Feeling Stuck In Healing From Marriage Betrayal? 4 Shifts I Made That Can Get You There

    Have you been exhausted from trying to fix your marriage doing everything you can to hold it together and quietly wondering why nothing seems to be working no matter how hard you try? Are you battling the shame of being another Christian couple with infidelity in the story telling yourself this was not supposed to be your testimony and desperately trying to fix it before anyone finds out how broken it actually is? Have you been so focused on him getting fixed, his healing, his recovery, his progress, that you have completely lost sight of what God might be trying to do inside you? This month I am celebrating 25 years of marriage and 5000 podcast downloads and as I reflect on this Sabbath season of rest and gratitude I want to share the moment that changed everything for me. Not when the marriage got fixed. But when I finally stopped trying to fix it and let God renew my mind instead. In this episode I am sharing 4 false beliefs that were keeping me completely stuck after my husband's betrayal and what the renewal of my mind actually looked like for each one. Drawing on Romans 12:2, Dallas Willard's concept of the renovation of the heart, and my own turning point in a support group where I finally saw the pattern I had been living in, this episode is for the woman who is exhausted from fixing outward and ready to let God do something real on the inside. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Romans 12:2 "Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”  📖 Psalm 51:6 "You desire truth in the inward parts" 📖 Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard : the renovation and reordering of the heart🎙️ Episode 43 —  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 📞 Apply for a 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Call with Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON””" A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Come find us, the link is above.

    26 min

  2. 5 days ago

    44 | Do This Simple 2 Minute Practice Every Day So You Can Stop Losing Yourself and Start Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

    Have you become so focused on your husband after the betrayal that you've stopped paying attention to your own heart? Do you spend more time monitoring everyone else's emotions than noticing your own? What if one small daily practice could help you reconnect with yourself and with God? After betrayal and/or infidelity, it's easy to believe your job is to keep being on the alert. Watching for warning signs. Watching your husband's behavior. Holding the marriage together. Managing everyone's emotions while quietly losing yourself in the process. In this Monday Heart Check, I’m inviting you into a simple two-minute Sabbath practice called The Shift, a gentle way to turn your attention away from managing everyone else and back toward your own heart. Drawing from Dallas Willard's picture of the heart as the command center of our lives, you'll learn why healing begins when you stop asking, "How is he doing?" and start asking, "How am I doing?" This practical exercise will help you: Notice what you're actually feeling instead of staying stuck in survival mode after betrayal. Identify what you need without guilt or shame. Create space to hear God's voice above fear and anxiety. Begin rebuilding trust in yourself one honest check-in at a time. If you've been longing to experience true rest and want to start rebuilding trust and experience true healing instead of constantly carrying everyone else's emotional load, and worrying about the future, this episode is for you.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist : A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON*** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist

    14 min

  3. 3 Jul

    43 | Healed From Betrayal & Infidelity: What 25 Years of Marriage and Rebuilding Trust Actually Taught Me

    Do you wonder if healing from infidelity and betrayal is even possible, or if your marriage is just going to survive instead of thrive? Are you still wrestling with whether staying or leaving was the right decision, even years after the betrayal happened? Do you find yourself waiting to celebrate any progress in your marriage until trust feels completely rebuilt? In this episode, I'm celebrating two milestones: 25 years of marriage and 7 months of this podcast by getting honest about what healing from infidelity and betrayal, and rebuilding trust, actually taught me. If you've ever wrestled with lack of trust, felt alone in your healing, or wondered how forgiveness after betrayal really works, this episode walks through the real, unfiltered shifts that took place in me over these 25 years. This is not a formula for how to trust again, but a testimony of what emotional healing and safety can look like when you stop striving for perfection and start rebuilding trust to yourself, to God, and eventually, to your husband. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard Proverbs 4:23 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist : A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON***:  A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist

    18 min

  4. 18 Jun

    42 | Forgiveness After Marriage Betrayal Is Not What You Think It Is | Continuing Q&A With A Therapist, Part 2

    Have you been trying to forgive your husband after betrayal and wondering why it never seems to stick, maybe you say the words and mean them in the moment but the anger and the hurt keep coming back? Do you feel confused about what forgiveness actually means? Whether it means reconciling, whether it means pretending it did not happen, whether it means you have to trust him again before you are ready? Are you longing for the kind of freedom that people talk about on the other side of forgiveness but you have no idea how to actually get there? In this episode I am continuing my conversation from last week with a licensed marriage and family therapist and this time we are going straight to the heart of one of the most misunderstood concepts in the entire healing journey after betrayal: Forgiveness. We will discuss the following questions:  What if you would view forgiveness as a shift of focus and responsibility? What if forgiveness is the moment you stop asking back for something that can never be restored and take ownership of the loss yourself? What does real forgiveness actually cost? Why is forgiveness only possible after honest grief? Why is connecting with yourself the essential first step? What does moving forward truly look like? What is the hope here you can cling to?  This is Part 2 of a two part conversation. If you have not listened to Episode 40 yet go back and start there first.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 🎙️Episode 40 - 7 Truths About Grieving After Betrayal —> That is the first part of this conversation, go back and listen to that one first! 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist  A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here  CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE **COMING SOON** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist     DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

    24 min

  5. 15 Jun

    41 | Why the Gap Between What You Know and What You Feel About Forgiveness After Betrayal Is Actually Holy Ground And How Honesty Before God Changes Everything

    Does your head tell you that you should forgive because you know that is what God wants while your heart is still carrying anger, fear, and hurt that just will not go away no matter how hard you try? Do you feel guilty for the gap between what you know theologically and where you actually are emotionally like a bad Christian because your feelings have not caught up with your faith yet? Have you been performing okayness before God, maybe you are bringing Him the version of yourself that has it together instead of the real, divided, struggling version that actually needs Him most? In this Monday Heart Check we are standing at a threshold moving from the grief series into the forgiveness conversation. And before Thursday's powerful episode with Rafael I want to give you something that I believe is the missing piece for so many women in this journey: The gap between what you know and what you feel is not failure. It is not a sign that something is wrong with you spiritually. It might actually be the most honest and holy place you have been in a long time. In this episode I am walking you through a guided reflection rooted in Scripture from David's cry for truth in the inward parts in Psalm 51, to Paul's commitment to a clear conscience in Acts 24, to Peter's call to keep a clear conscience even in suffering to help you understand what it actually means to be honest before God right where you are. And how that honesty instead of performance, pretending, or forcing your feelings to match your theology is the very thing that opens the door to real grief and real forgiveness. This is a short, quiet, contemplative episode. Find a still moment. Bring your honest heart. That is all you need.  RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Psalm 51:6  "You desire truth in the inward parts"  📖 Acts 24:16  Paul: "I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man" 📖 1 Peter 3:16 Peter "keeping a clear conscience" even in the middle of suffering and injustice 📖 1 John 3:20 "if our hearts condemn us God is greater than our hearts and knows everything" 🎙️ Episode 40  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist — A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE **COMING SOON** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist

    13 min

  6. 11 Jun

    40 | 7 Truths About Grief After Betrayal And What Can Get in the Way | Q&A With a Therapist, Part 1

    Have you been wondering if you are grieving the wrong way or not grieving enough, or too much, or in the wrong order and quietly judging yourself for how messy and unpredictable your healing has felt? Do you find yourself reaching for busyness, distraction, or anything that keeps the grief at a safe distance and then wondering why you still feel so stuck months or even years later? Have you ever asked yourself how long is this going to take and felt frustrated, ashamed, or hopeless when you could not find a satisfying answer? In this episode I am sitting down with a licensed marriage and family therapist who has been on this show before and together we are having one of the most honest, reframing, and practically helpful conversations about grief after betrayal that I think you will ever hear. We are covering 7 truths about grief after betrayal and what gets in the way of it including why we avoid grief without even realizing it what unprocessed grief actually does to us why the word healthy might be making things harder not easier what functional effective grief actually looks like in real life He also shares a perspective on grief that completely reframes the whole process not as something you endure but as something you actively participate in by identifying what your needs are first and then taking ownership over how to meet those needs. This is Part 1 of a two part conversation. Part 2 drops next Thursday where we continue the conversation and cover the connection between grief and forgiveness.   RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED Grief Series: Episodes 33-39  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here   CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE **COMING SOON** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

    31 min

  7. 8 Jun

    39 | Why Staying Busy After Marriage Betrayal Is Actually Keeping You Stuck, The Number One Thing I Did Instead

    Are you sick of being ambushed by your emotions, triggered out of nowhere, overwhelmed in the middle of an ordinary moment, and wondering why you still cannot seem to get ahead of the grief? Have you been staying so busy, so distracted, so focused on everyone else that you have barely had a moment to sit alone with what you are actually feeling after the betrayal? Have you ever considered that what looks like coping on the outside might actually be avoidance and that the grief you have been postponing is quietly fueling the triggers that keep catching you off guard? In this Monday Heart Check we are wrapping up our grief series and before Thursday's special guest episode I want to give you one simple practice to prepare your heart for what you are about to hear. In this episode I am sharing a simple three step reflection practice called What Am I Reaching For? I encourage you to see honestly what you have been using to avoid the pain of betrayal and take your first step toward something different. Honesty gets you connected to reality. And nothing disconnected from reality will ever truly work. That is something we will learn more about on Thursday, as I just directly quoted the therapist I will have a conversation with on Thursday. This practice is your first step toward that honesty. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist — A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here  CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? If you are tired of carrying this alone — together we will work on rebuilding clarity, learning to trust yourself again, and taking your next step with God, yourself, and your marriage. → Apply for a 1:1 Private Clarity Call with me HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE **COMING SOON** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

    11 min

  8. 4 Jun

    38 | What Grieving the Loss After Marriage Betrayal Looked Like For Me | The Real Way I Healed And You Can Too

    Have you been wondering what grieving well after betrayal actually looks like in real life in the daily reality of being a wife and a mother and a woman who is trying to hold everything together while her heart is completely broken? Do you feel like you have been trying to heal but nothing is really moving like you are doing all the right things but there seems a deep disconnect?  Are you longing to hear from someone who has actually walked this road and come out the other side really and truly healed? In this episode I am setting the teaching aside and just talking to you, sharing what grieving the loss after my husband's betrayal actually looked like for me. The beach walks. The prayer journals. The first time I walked into a support group and cried because I finally felt safe. The photo albums I had to put away. The scheduled cry in the car with classical music playing. The raw, searching, honest prayers. Underneath all of those stories I am going to show you the three connections that I believe made healing not just possible but inevitable: connection with yourself, connection with God, and connection with others. This is what I know to be true: the only path through grief after betrayal is moving toward connection when everything in you is screaming to run away from it. RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 the Psalms 📖 Proverbs 4:23 "You are the keeper of your heart like a vineyard keeper", the throughline of this entire grief series 📖 Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard: spiritual formation and the heart as the executive center of the self 🎙️ Episodes 33-37, the “Grief Series”  💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist : A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH ME AND NEXT STEPS Contact → hello@juliacarlton.com Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? If you are tired of carrying this alone, together we will work on rebuilding clarity, learning to trust yourself again, and taking your next step with God, yourself, and your marriage. → Apply for a 1:1 Private Clarity Call with me HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE  **COMING SOON** A private healing community for women doing the hard holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you will be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist   DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

    33 min
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***TOP 5% GLOBALLY RANKED PODCAST*** Heart Work After Betrayal For Christian wives rebuilding trust after infidelity Are you a Christian wife trying to rebuild trust after infidelity? Do you feel alone, triggered, and torn between healing your marriage and protecting your heart? Have you been asking questions like: - How do I heal from the pain and broken trust after infidelity? - How do I rebuild trust after cheating? - How do I know whether to stay or leave? - How do I forgive without losing myself? - How do I find emotional healing and safety again? - How do I reconnect with God, myself, and my spouse after betrayal? If that sounds like you, this podcast is for you. Heart Work After Betrayal is for Christian wives who are married, have walked through infidelity, and want help navigating the pain, confusion, triggers, trauma, and loss of identity that often follow betrayal. Maybe you struggle with intense loneliness because of the broken trust by the one who was supposed to be your partner for life and feel like a rug has been pulled out from under you. Or you feel overwhelmed with the pain but still having to show up either for your kids or at work. Or you feel like you should be further along already since it’s been a few months or even years ago when you found out about the betrayal. This space is here to help you feel seen, supported, and grounded. I’m Julia Carlton, Relationship Coach and Certified 5 Voices Practitioner. After experiencing the pain of infidelity in my own marriage, I learned that healing after betrayal does not begin by trying to fix everything overnight. It begins by rebuilding trust in yourself, rebuilding your spiritual foundation, and rebuilding relational trust with wisdom, honesty, and emotional safety. Each week on this Christian marriage podcast, we focus on: rebuilding trust in yourself after betrayal rebuilding your spiritual foundation and restoring your identity in Christ rebuilding relational trust and discerning reconciliation wisely emotional healing and safety after infidelity how to trust again after cheating move towards healing your marriage without ignoring the pain healthy boundaries, forgiveness, and communication finding support when you feel alone in betrayal recovery HEART WORK after Betrayal is about doing the deep heart work required to rebuild trust with yourself and God first, restore identity, walk in forgiveness, and move forward with strength and clarity.  If you are looking for faith-based support after infidelity and want personal help rebuilding trust and discerning your next steps, I also offer private 1:1 Heart Work Coaching for Christian wives healing after betrayal. Healing is possible. Trust can be rebuilt. Emotional safety can be restored. And if reconciliation is right, a renewed relationship can be pursued with wisdom, faith, and truth.

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