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Just me and Cal talking about it stinging when you pee for about 10mins. Or as Cal puts it "trying to piss a knife"...Yup...most women will know exactly what I am talking about. Urinary Tract Infections are common as hell, in fact the second most common bacterial infection in the world. Half of all adult women will have experienced it. So why is this common thing so difficult to diagnose??


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This episode is all about womens safety. This topic is really personal both both Cal and Izzy. Following the deaths of Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa in the UK, there has been an increase in ‘advice’ from politicians and police focussing on how women can keep ‘safe’ from sexual assault and violence. The argument is often that the advice offered by police and various organisations protects women. So If we disregard the hugely problematic narrative of victim-blaming, are they simply pragmatic tips that keep us safe? Or surely there’s another way to tackle the endemic issue of gender-based violence that doesn’t involve putting all the onus on women to protect themselves...

This is a hugely personal topic for Cal and Izzy. If you are affected by the information discussed or you are struggling in anyway please do not hesitate to reach out. We are always here for you x

The best way you can support the show is by subscribing on apple podcasts or following on Spotify. Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta or even Twitter for more IWH content xxx



Resources and contacts for women in need of support:

Australia: 

For immediate support call 000 - Victoria Police and Ambulance

For emergency support after hours:

1800 737 732  - 1800RESPECT
Family violence and sexual assault 24 hour telephone line.

1800 015188  - Safe Steps
Family Violence response service 24 hour telephone line.

VICTORIA: further resources

Men's Referral Service - Call 1300 766 491

Rainbow Door Free information, support, and referrals LGBTQIA+ Call 1800 729 367 or Text 0480 017 246
10am-6pm, 7 days

Djirra

Culturally safe family violence and legal support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Call 1800 105 303


United Kingdom:

All numbers below are 24 hour for domestic violence:

England: 0808 2000 247

Scotland: 0800 027 1234

Northern Ireland: 0808 802 1414

Wales: 0808 80 10 800

LGBTQIA+ 0800 999 5428 help@galop.org.uk

Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327 info@mensadviceline.org.uk

Karma Nirvana, UK Helpline for ‘honour’-based abuse and forced marriage: 0800 5999 247

Victim Support: 0808 1689 111


SafeLives guide to staying safe online 
Women’s Aid guide to private browsing 
The Survivor’s Handbook, Women’s Aid
Karma Nirvana
Chayn


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Bitesized stuff is the cutest! But gaslighting is NOT...this mini segment is designed to weed out those gas-lighters and empower each of us to tell them to stick it! We talk about how to spot if you are being gas lit, how you might identify these traits and how you can respond to someone who is gas lighting you - remember, you are not alone and we are here to support you xxx

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This week Cal and I discuss the downfalls of "white feminism" and how this is letting women down. We discuss how we can participate in feminism in an intersectional way and keep driving the movement forward so no one is getting left behind. 

Plus, did you know that labiaplasty is fastest rising cosmetic surgery worldwide? Many people with vaginas are getting them nipped and tucked and we what to know WHY? In a poll of more than 3,600 readers, the online women’s magazine Refinery29 found that almost half (48%) had concerns about the appearance of their vulva. Of those, 64% were worried about the size and 60% about the shape of their vulva, with almost one-third (30%) worried about the colour of their genitals.

And I think it comes down to thinking that our vulva isn't "normal" well, before you make that assumption, have a look at these vulva positive influencers who can educate you on what "normal" actually looks like...

Check out Ying Lee (@sativaplath69), who posts about their “phat coochie” and got an incredible 6.4m views for their video on “gatekeeping phat coochie culture” and you may also want to have a look at gynaecologists Jennifer Lincoln (@drjenniferlincoln) and Jen Gunter (@drjengunter) - the author of The Vagina Bible – who make videos explain the vast spectrum of what is normal.

Cal let's rip another glorious rant and this one will hit you hard and we end with a confession from Izzy who is a self-described pervert...uh oh...lot's to discuss!

Resources:

The book Cal refer to is Against White Feminism by Rafia Zakaria. And if you loved that then have a listen to Koa Beck chatting about the racism imbedded in white feminism.

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Keep sharing, keep talking and keep supporting each other. xxx


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Introducing our bite sized chucks for those of you wanting a little bit of I'm With Her in your ears while you are on the run! We have gathered our most popular segments and snipped them into their own episode no longer than 15mins so you can go straight to the issue you care about. 



This week we are throwing back to our chat about breastfeeding. During pregnancy and after birth there is so much focus on the baby that mothers can often be overlooked. The stress of breastfeeding can be incredibly overwhelming for new mums. We chat about the reality of this experience for many women and hope that if this is something you have experienced or are stressed about that this gives you some comfort xxx


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This week we talk about abortion, Izzy took the 60 second rant segment really seriously and made it into a sort of poem, it's cringing but will make you laugh and we get a confession from Cal.

This episode comes with a trigger warning as we appreciate abortion is an emotional topic for many people.  

This is not about whether abortion is right or wrong but we wanted to put the stories of people who have had an abortion at the forefront which is why we start with Cal sharing her own experience of having an abortion.  We discuss some of the pro-life core arguments and discuss how we feel about these, plus we talk through the procedures recommended for safe abortions in case anyone needs to know or curious to find out. There is a lot of misinformation out there at the moment and we want to make sure the right information is out there for people so they can make informed choices.

Thanks to Cal once again for her vulnerability and raw honest story telling. And thank you to all of you for your support xxx

If you want to find out more about abortion not just if you live in Australia, you can find supportive information here on the Marie Stopes website - a national, independently accredited safe abortion, vasectomy and contraception provider helping women and men take full control of their reproductive lives. www.mariestopes.org.au

Main contact for the UK- www.bpas.org

If you want to show your support for the people in Texas you can donate to the following organisations:

Lilith Fund:https://www.lilithfund.org/

Texas Equal Access Fund https://teafund.org/

Fund Texas Choice https://fundtexaschoice.org/

Jane's Due Process https://janesdueprocess.org/

Frontera Fund https://fronterafundrgv.org/

Buckle Bunnies Fund https://www.bucklebunnies.org/

West Fund https://www.westfund.org/


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