Open Heart Conversations Relatable Whispers With The Khumalos

A lot of people who are born into non-conventional family dynamics actually did have healthy upbringings but because of the narrative society has told us of what a family needs to look like we tend to focus entirely on what one doesn't have and fail to notice what's right in front of us. In this episode I have a guest speaker Nomaliso Musasiwa and we are continuing with the discussion on single people parenting from the perspective of someone who has lived through different family Dynamics.

Ones relationship status should never be a measure by which we determine their ability to parent. Being single is about your sexual life and partnerships more than it is about your parenting abilities. In this episode we discuss the stigma around single parents and it's implications.

To truly be our authentic selves, and build true relationships we have to normalise all the emotions and reactions associated with shame. It is a part of us we can't run away from or ignore away. Here we continue the conversation around understanding what shame is and how it affects us.

It is not the lack of people around us that makes us the loneliest, it is the isolation in our own minds from parts of ourselves that we deny. This is due to the fear of exclusion and isolation from those who we want to be closest to, in this episode we discuss how shame is the cause behind all this isolation and separation.

The only way out, is through. Avoidance and blame are sure ways to stay in a problem. The time to start communicating our hearts and honoring each other is now. We as a family are having the tough conversations and we hope this opens the room for everyone else to do the same. In this episode we discuss communication, emotions and how certain forms of punishment are harmful to our wellbeing.

Who we become is shaped largely by the conditions around our upbringing. Even the seemingly insignificant occurances add up to our template of life. So in this episode we revisit my parents' upbringing to explore how that affected their parenting of us.