Untangled Simmy Gee

This topic is based on the legendary AviTV's youtube video, "Is there enough success for us all?"

We talk about the scarcity and abundance mindset. Mital and Simran talk about their experiences growing up and thinking about success, and their differing experiences in finance vs. medicine. We talk about living true to our values and the influence of social media on how we view success. 

Resources: 

AviTV video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7twkWMGwoMY

Book: The Third Door by Alex Banayan

My first solo episode! I talk about what exactly is the internal dialogue? What are the different approaches that we can take - what do the books say?

4 key takeaways:

1. The science behind practicing gratitude

2. Optimising your environment- physical and virtual

3. Improve the quality of the questions you ask yourself. 

4. Create your own troubleshooting algorithm



Neat little ideas:

Rose-bud-thorn 

Write letters to people you are grateful for

Quotes on the wall to prime your mind 

Clearing your virtual space might clear your head 

Catch the questions you ask yourself, how can I change it?

Create the energy matrix

Today, I am joined by Selina Goyal who sadly experienced baby loss 6 months ago. She has come on the podcast to break the silence on talking about baby loss- an experience that is more commonly experienced than we like to acknowledge. 

We cover why baby loss is different from other losses. Why is it difficult to talk about? Helpful and unhelpful things to say to bereaved parents. Selina shares advice she has for other bereaved parents and healthcare professionals when breaking bad news. 

SANDS charity: https://www.sands.org.uk/

Timestamps: 

00:00 : Introduction + Selina's story

02:25 : The medical perspective, advice for healthcare professionals 

7:35 : Why is baby loss different to other losses? Why is it difficult to talk about?

10:10:  Helpful support for bereaved parents 

13:33:  Unhelpful things to say to bereaved parents 

16:54: How to reach out to a bereaved parent that you are close to

18:10: Advice to other bereaved parents 

20:15: How the SANDS charity helps parents 

22:58: Final message and poem



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This week i was delighted to be joined by coorporate professional and artist Prit Aggarwal. We discuss our creative journeys and what it means to us. We discuss whether fears of expressing our creativity and whether we should express it or keep it to ourselves. We touch on whether everyone can be creative and the different approaches to it. We end on an unplanned treat.

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In this episode I am joined by two of my best friends from University.  None of us are ready to have kids yet, but despite this decided to explore the list that Sony has written, "Lessons to my future child". Anoop and I chip in with our honest take on the lessons, drawing from our own life experiences covering themes of kindness, success and failures, and love.
We deep dive into some of our "failures" and talk about what our definition of love might be.

Anoop and Sony both study medicine with me at Cambridge University. Sony studied psychology with me in her third year and hopes to perfect latté art in the near future. Anoop has aspirations to be a cardiothoracic surgeon.



Timestamps:

00:00 Introductions to my friends

5:00  Why did Sony write this?

8:35  Kindness

17:05 Success and failures

21:00 Times where we have failed

30:00 Recognising privilege

31:50 Change

32:50 Speak up

33:27 Love

37:00 Reaching out

39:00 Enjoyment



Resources mentioned


CS50 Havard course: https://www.edx.org/course/cs50s-introduction-to-computer-science
Open access university physics degree, cause why not? http://www.open.ac.uk/courses/physics



Key lessons


Be kind and don't expect anything back
Be kind and be happy because they are happy, not because you are the one that has helped them.
Be kind and when someone is unkind, understand that they might not have had the same privileged upbringing that might motivate them be kind.
Celebrate the successes of others as if they were your own
Take pride in your failures, as well as your success. [write a failure CV]
When you succeed,  remember that whilst you worked hard you started with privilege denied to other people. Take pride in your achievements, but not arrogance. Be humble.
Change is important: nostalgia is comforting but change is stimulating and energising so accept it with an open mind.
Speak up when things don't sit right: you're never small enough to make a difference.
Love people not things.
Love without wanting to be loved back. Love people for who they are and not what they want them to be.
Reach out to people: appreciate people's work, their presence and give meaningful compliments.
Don't take life too seriously and take each day as it comes.
Listening: react and judge the words not source of the words because good advice can come from anywhere.
Experience the masterpieces that life has to offer but don't pretend to enjoy them just to fit in.
Life is a pie: diversify and have many different slices.

In this episode we talk about disagreements and hesitations that we might have when voicing them to family, friends or authority figures. We discuss when it might be important to voice your opinion, different methods to do this and alternative ways we can approach thinking about different points of view.

Alisha is interested in philosophy and is looking to study law at university. On the side she likes to sing and do illustrations.  Follow @alishagarwalofficial on instagram to check it out 

Books mentioned: 

1. Rebel Ideas by Matthew Syed 

2. Black box thinking by Matthew Syed 

3. The Subtle Art of not giving a F**** by Mark Manson