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Who we are is an ever-evolving journey without limits.
Join the ever-curious Rachel Lim as she delves into every facet of our lives — from work and family to relationships, self-discovery, and beyond.
Experience a series of conversations and shared reflections that span from in-depth discussions with thought leaders around the world, to personal lessons shared with friends. Each episode offers valuable insights into our identities and pathways to self-improvement.
Welcome to Who We Are — a podcast devoted to the continuous journey of uncovering our ever-evolving selves.
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#8: Shifting from Scarcity to Sufficiency with Joyce Chen
In this episode, we dive into the concept of the scarcity mindset with our in-house guest expert, Joyce from The Conscious Leadership Group. Joyce explains how a scarcity mindset impacts both personal and professional lives, often driven by three toxic fears that manifest in our behaviors and decisions. We explore the pervasive belief that "more is better" and its detrimental consequences on business and personal development. Joyce provides insightful strategies to shift from the belief that "there is not enough" to cultivating a mindset of sufficiency.
We also discuss how sufficiency is not an amount but an experience, and Joyce shares practical ways to cultivate this experience in our lives. Addressing common misconceptions about sufficiency, Joyce reveals how perspective shapes our experience of abundance or lack, particularly regarding time and money. She introduces the three truths of sufficiency, guiding individuals toward a more abundant mindset.
Tune in to gain insights and practical strategies to overcome the lies of scarcity and embrace a life of abundance and sufficiency.
00:00 Introduction
00:37 What is Scarcity Mindset?
02:59 The lies of Scarcity Mindset
04:41 The 3 toxic fears of Scarcity Mindset
05:01 #1: More is better
05:49 #2: There is not enough
07:00 #3: That’s just the way it is
08:58 Sufficiency Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset
11:55 The 3 Truths of Sufficiency Mindset
12:26 #1: Money is like water, you direct where it goes
15:17 #2: What we appreciate, appreciates
17:11 #3: Collaboration creates prosperity
19:13 How to cultivate self-worth beyond external measures of success
21:39 Soul Domain vs Money Domain
24:00 Final thoughts
25:35 Exercise: Sufficiency Meditation
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Get connected with Joyce: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyce-chen-coach/
Additional resources:
The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Klemp: https://amzn.to/3UXJFgL
The Soul of Money by Lynn Twist: https://amzn.to/3UW2kcL
Take a scarcity inventory using this handout from The Conscious Leadership Group to increase awareness around how scarcity lives in your life: https://bit.ly/3KjdYtu -
#7: Redefining Success: Inside The Mind Of 31-Year-Old Retiree Ashish Kumar
Embark on a thought-provoking journey as we delve into the life and philosophy of Ashish Kumar, a former top PSLE scorer turned 31-year-old retiree. In this captivating episode, we navigate through a series of insightful topics, each unveiling a different facet of Ashish's unconventional perspectives.
From his formative years and the influence of studying overseas to his experiences as a civil servant in Singapore, we explore the factors that shaped Ashish's unique perspective on life and work. Along the way, we confront pressing questions about employment, early retirement, and the pursuit of personal freedom in a society bound by expectations.
Join me as we dissect the essence of Ashish Kumar, examining the values and principles that define his existence beyond the confines of traditional success. With each chapter, we peel back the layers of conventional wisdom, challenging misconceptions and igniting introspection. As we navigate through Ashish's story, we are reminded of the importance of living authentically and aligning our actions with our deepest values.
Prepare to be inspired, provoked, and enlightened as we embark on this journey of exploration with Ashish Kumar.
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow Ashish Kumar here: https://youtube.com/@ashishxiangyikumar?si=uW9XwGaMnwr0q_lN
00:00 Introduction
00:22 Getting to know Ashish Kumar
03:04 The impact of his upbringing
05:39 The influence of studying overseas
09:28 Ashish's Experience as a Singaporean Bureaucrat
14:26 Addressing the challenges & limitations of employment
16:00 Early retirement: A privilege, a choice, or both?
19:11 Navigating the divide between work and personal Life
22:13 What defines Ashish Kumar: Unpacking identity and values
24:50 Pursuing freedom & challenging societal expectations
30:47 Systemic changes towards a flexible work culture
33:31 The dilemma of commitment in pursuit of freedom
34:49 Misconceptions of early retirement
37:03 Reflections on a meaningful life
40:33 The Deathbed Exercise
41:33 Surprising insights after early retirement
45:58 Final thoughts -
#6: Practical Marriage Advice From America’s Top Divorce Attorney James Sexton
Join me for an insightful conversation with James Sexton, America's Divorce Lawyer whose expertise extends far beyond the courtroom. With over two decades of experience on the front lines of divorce, James offers a unique perspective on relationships, love, and resilience.
Throughout our discussion, James shares invaluable insights gleaned from witnessing the intricacies of countless relationships unraveling. From uncovering the underlying reasons behind relationship breakdowns to exploring real-life examples of "reverse engineering" relationships, we delve into the complexities of maintaining lasting connections.
In addition to sharing memorable cases from his career, James offers practical advice for rebuilding after divorce and discusses the essential ingredients for long-term relationship success.
Tune in for a conversation you won't want to miss as we navigate the highs and lows of love and relationships with James Sexton.
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow James Sexton here: https://www.instagram.com/nycdivorcelawyer/
00:00 Introduction
01:11 Get to know James Sexton
04:28 Unveiling the root cause of marital breakdowns
10:25 Red Flags in Relationships: Recognising Warning Signs
15:48 Focusing on what truly matters
17:28 The art of effective communication
22:19 Reverse-engineering relationships to solve disconnection
25:58 The pitfalls of keeping scores in relationships
28:57 Navigating societal expectations in your relationships
34:28 Normalising couples therapy, counseling, and vulnerability
38:58 How do you rebuild confidence after a divorce?
45:22 Advice James Sexton would give to his younger self
47:44 Final thoughts -
#5: What's Your Apology Language?
What's your apology language? And, more importantly, what's your partner's?
Join Leo, my husband, and I as we dive into the 5 Apology Languages, an insightful concept introduced by Gary Chapman and Dr. Jennifer Thomas, the brilliant minds behind The Love Language. Just as understanding our partner's love language is crucial for fostering connection, grasping their apology language is equally vital for nurturing resilient relationships.
In this candid episode, we share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and discover how understanding and speaking each other's apology language can transform our conflicts into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.
Take the Apology Language quiz!
https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
00:00 Introduction
00:20 Get to know Leo!
01:09 The 5 Apology Languages
02:26 What are our Apology Languages?
03:54 #1 Expressing Regret
04:13 #2 Accepting Responsibility
04:33 #3 Making Restitution
05:02 #4 Planned Changes
05:17 #5 Requesting for Forgiveness
06:04 Talking through our Apology Languages
08:06 How can the Apology Language help relationships?
08:54 Our real life example and how we put it in practice
12:35 Final thoughts -
#4: Confronting Loneliness, Hard Lessons, and Cultivating Leadership with Pat Law
Embark on a captivating journey with Pat Law, founder of GOODSTUPH, as she shares her remarkable 14-year odyssey through the tumultuous landscape of entrepreneurship. From humble beginnings selling spiders in her childhood to building a multi-million-dollar advertising agency, Pat's story is a testament to resilience, determination, and the relentless pursuit of excellence.
In this episode, Pat opens up about the pivotal moments that shaped her journey, from learning the value of hard work and integrity in her upbringing to confronting the challenges of loneliness and self-doubt as a founder. With candid honesty, she reflects on the lessons learned along the way, both personally and professionally, and how they have shaped her identity as a leader.
Through insightful anecdotes and hard-won wisdom, Pat delves into the core principles that have driven her success, from the importance of honesty and humility to the transformative power of leading by example. She offers invaluable advice to aspiring entrepreneurs and creatives, urging them to embrace the hunger for success and create environments where others can thrive.
Let's dive in.
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow Pat Law here: https://www.instagram.com/patlaw/
Check out GOODSTUPH here: https://www.instagram.com/goodstuph/
00:00 Introduction
01:32 Get to know Pat Law
04:05 How Pat Law’s childhood impacted her
14:13 “We are products of our upbringing”
18:16 Key principles that drove Pat Law’s success
19:36 Entrepreneurship can get lonely
22:47 The story behind GOODSTUPH
25:33 Pat Law’s hardest lessons in entrepreneurship
39:36 Qualities that are instrumental to Pat Law’s success
43:30 Delivering feedback and learning from mistakes
47:36 A good leader vs A great leader
49:24 How the definition of success can evolve
53:40 What drives Pat Law to keep going?
55:17 Advice to leaders in the new era
57:27 Advice for leaders in the creative industry
59:10 Final thoughts -
#3: Emotional Intelligence: Your Unbeatable Advantage with Joyce Chen
In today's fast-paced world, where success is measured by more than just technical skills, emotional intelligence emerges as a defining factor. Join me as we dive deep into the fascinating world of emotional intelligence and explore why it's the key to personal and professional success.
As Harvard Business Review asserts, "The most effective leaders are all alike in one crucial way: They all have a high degree of what has come to be known as emotional intelligence." But what exactly is emotional intelligence, and why is it crucial in today's dynamic landscape?
In this episode, we'll debunk common misconceptions about emotional intelligence and uncover practical strategies for enhancing it in our daily lives. From understanding and acknowledging our feelings to cultivating emotional resilience, we'll discuss how embracing our emotions can lead to better decision-making, improved relationships, and overall well-being. This episode is packed with valuable insights to help you thrive in today's fast-paced world. Let's dive in!
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Get connected with Joyce: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyce-chen-coach/
Additional resources on Emotional Intelligence:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDEY8jgkdxk
https://u.pcloud.link/publink/show?code=sYH
00:00 Introduction
02:24 Get to know Joyce Chen
04:34 Topic: Emotional Intelligence
05:28 What is emotional intelligence?
07:06 Understanding core emotions
08:13 Common misconceptions of emotions
11:45 How to tune into our EQ and BQ
13:10 Above the line VS Below the line framework
17:26 The role of emotional intelligence in our lives
20:45 Application of emotional intelligence
24:09 The after-effects of repressing emotions
28:01 How to effectively release emotions
31:20 Ways to practice emotional intelligence
34:09 Final thoughts