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10 - The Heart of Conflict Marriage Ignited
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Marriage Ignited brings practical & spiritual tools to ignite your marriage in our weekly podcast & YouTube channel. NEW episodes every Tuesday!
Episode 10 Summary: As we continue our series on communication, today we are going to talk about one of the hardest areas we face in marriage – conflict! Specifically, we are going to look at the heart of conflict, what God’s word has to say about our hearts, and the many layers that are involved in conflict.
Resources from today’s episode:
“Jesus said it simply: If we remain in him, allowing ourselves to be held in his embrace, his life will flow out of us to others. If we choose not to remain in him, we will have little if anything, to offer others.” [Emotionally Healthy Relationships Day by Day, Peter Scazzero, Zondervan, 2017, p. 26]
Emotionally Healthy Relationships Day by Day: A 40-Day Journey to Deeply Change Your Relationships by Peter Scazzero https://amzn.to/2VSRF4b
3 layers to Conflict
1. Presenting Issue: top layer of what is going on
2. Real Life Factors: just beneath the surface
3. Heart Issues: deep beneath the surface
Prepare-Enrich is the #1 Premarital & Marriage Assessment in the world & we are certified facilitators. Check out more info at https://www.prepare-enrich.com/ and email us at marriageignitedpodcast@gmail.com to setup your personalized assessment!
Check Your Heart
1. Step away from the conflict & take a few slow deep breathes. Ask for a time out if needed.
2. Consider what Real Life Factors are contributing to this conflict (example: ask yourself am I tired, hormonal, or reacting to stress, etc.)
3. Consider if you are causing any roadblocks in your communication?
4. Pray and ask the Lord to reveal what is happening in your heart and the heart of your spouse.
Episode 10 TOOL: Now it’s your turn! Think about a recent conflict that you had with your spouse, work together to identify the 3 layers in your recent conflict. The goal of this exercise is identification – we will work through the conflict to forgiveness in our next session.
What were your 3 layers to conflict?
1. Presenting Issue
2. Real Life Factors
3. Heart Issues
Discussion and/or Journal Questions:
- Where is your heart? Are you disconnected from the vine?
-What fruit is your heart producing? How is that fruit contributing to the conflict in your marriage?
- What is the most challenging part of not sinning when you’re in conflict?
Stay Connected!
Subscribe to Marriage Ignited on YouTube to watch in a video format https://www.youtube.com/c/MarriageIgnited
Follow Marriage Ignited on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/marriageignited/
Follow Marriage Ignited on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/marriageignited/
Marriage Ignited Website coming soon!! www.marriageignited.org
Please SHARE with friends who would be encouraged & strengthened in their marriage!!
Marriage Ignited brings practical & spiritual tools to ignite your marriage in our weekly podcast & YouTube channel. NEW episodes every Tuesday!
Episode 10 Summary: As we continue our series on communication, today we are going to talk about one of the hardest areas we face in marriage – conflict! Specifically, we are going to look at the heart of conflict, what God’s word has to say about our hearts, and the many layers that are involved in conflict.
Resources from today’s episode:
“Jesus said it simply: If we remain in him, allowing ourselves to be held in his embrace, his life will flow out of us to others. If we choose not to remain in him, we will have little if anything, to offer others.” [Emotionally Healthy Relationships Day by Day, Peter Scazzero, Zondervan, 2017, p. 26]
Emotionally Healthy Relationships Day by Day: A 40-Day Journey to Deeply Change Your Relationships by Peter Scazzero https://amzn.to/2VSRF4b
3 layers to Conflict
1. Presenting Issue: top layer of what is going on
2. Real Life Factors: just beneath the surface
3. Heart Issues: deep beneath the surface
Prepare-Enrich is the #1 Premarital & Marriage Assessment in the world & we are certified facilitators. Check out more info at https://www.prepare-enrich.com/ and email us at marriageignitedpodcast@gmail.com to setup your personalized assessment!
Check Your Heart
1. Step away from the conflict & take a few slow deep breathes. Ask for a time out if needed.
2. Consider what Real Life Factors are contributing to this conflict (example: ask yourself am I tired, hormonal, or reacting to stress, etc.)
3. Consider if you are causing any roadblocks in your communication?
4. Pray and ask the Lord to reveal what is happening in your heart and the heart of your spouse.
Episode 10 TOOL: Now it’s your turn! Think about a recent conflict that you had with your spouse, work together to identify the 3 layers in your recent conflict. The goal of this exercise is identification – we will work through the conflict to forgiveness in our next session.
What were your 3 layers to conflict?
1. Presenting Issue
2. Real Life Factors
3. Heart Issues
Discussion and/or Journal Questions:
- Where is your heart? Are you disconnected from the vine?
-What fruit is your heart producing? How is that fruit contributing to the conflict in your marriage?
- What is the most challenging part of not sinning when you’re in conflict?
Stay Connected!
Subscribe to Marriage Ignited on YouTube to watch in a video format https://www.youtube.com/c/MarriageIgnited
Follow Marriage Ignited on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/marriageignited/
Follow Marriage Ignited on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/marriageignited/
Marriage Ignited Website coming soon!! www.marriageignited.org
Please SHARE with friends who would be encouraged & strengthened in their marriage!!
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