Illuminary Leadership with Kirsten Stendevad Kirsten Stendevad

Implementing changes in your own leadership space? Get inspiration from this conversation with Stephane Leblanc, who is the founder of International Centre for Conscious Leadership. He is a catalyst for the transformation of many leaders and organizations. In this episode, he will share about helping leaders become conscious leaders and making a difference in the lives of those they lead and serve. 
Highlights:
Transformational leadership is leadership based on the heart. When Stephane embraced his masculine as well as his feminine energy of caring and nurturing, he really felt he became a real leader. It’s all about the levels of consciousness: as you come to a higher level of consciousness, you integrate truth with you and you open to speak the truth. The truly enlightened, conscious leaders are willing to take risks. They are willing to look at the long-term and do what is really right.  The feminine is naturally rising. Support and accelerate it. The feminine needs the masculine to heal and the masculine needs the feminine in the same way. It is okay for a man to cry; it doesn’t make him a weak man. It actually makes a  man whole. As a woman, by holding space for a man to cry, you’re actually showing your power and you’re embracing a man in his full masculinity and which makes him a more genuinely powerful man. The most conscious leader is embracing the feminine side. If women embraced their masculine side, they would create better results. To all leaders: if we create an environment infused with love and the least amount of fear possible, we can achieve greatness.  If you are a loving leader, then you’re naturally a conscious leader. Sign up for my free series thecrisiswindow.com or book a free call here.
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In this conversation with GS Youngblood, author of The Masculine in Relationship:  A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman, we will answer a lot of difficult yet important questions. Questions we often ignore yet comes recurring during the difficult points in our intimate relationships. So many interesting points and ideas brought out here and I hope you’ll also be ignited to take on this discussion with your partners!
Highlights:
Model of masculine groundedness: Addressing the “I have no idea what to do”. But a man who really commits himself, has the power to really turn a toxic and flat relationship into something good. It’s been actually new for men to accept that they have a heart and spirit in the same way as women are quite novices at dealing directly with money and business. The book was written to help men avoid the mistakes GS did in his marriage. He hopes to help men learn from their mistakes, save their relationships, esp marriages. Anytime you hit catastrophe in life, that’s the time you want to grow. It’s the best time actually. From a woman’s perspective, a lot of women find it hard to penetrate a man’s heart. Men seem like to be always guarded, afraid of getting vulnerable, allowing their defenses and letting in love. Women just wanna feel us. A lot of the complaints of men stem from women being frantic precisely because the women in these relationships cannot feel the connection with men. The challenge is like women see green, men see red. Tend to the connection first. Acknowledgement of existence, importance after a day of other things. Women’s center in the brain is 3 times more active than men’s. This is responsible for women being more attentive to details-- many times interpreted as being oversensitive or needy. Strong masculine core: (1) respond vs react; (2) provide structure-- has clarity, decisive. Not being in charge but adding leadership and direction in the relationship; (3) create safety nets, esp emotional safety-- understanding the feminine psychological. To men: Stop blaming women to change. Men can be so proactive in one domain and passive in another. They can be like interns at home.  A lot of women are romantically starved. A happy woman can lift the world, a frustrated woman can smash the world. But it is easy for men to mend this. Translating this to how it is perceived by men, she’s criticizing him, irritable with him and less open to sexuality-- connection starved. And so men must realize how beautiful this power they have to change this. Masculine leadership. Lack of decisiveness usually. Small things. Bigger things like fights-- let’s just pause and come back. Provide structure to get through that a bit better instead of just leaving. From dysfunctional to a more connected place.  Women will not have emotional safety with men who always have a backdoor. Men have to be conscious of the consequences of the side exits that we leave open. Why? It varies. It’s like the Peter Pan syndrome-- being not ready for the serious work of life which takes maturity. Men should come to a higher consciousness, getting past that primordial instinct. But responsibilities should be taken by both sides. On relationships with men and women in the family: Nobody should project issues to anybody else. Sometimes it will happen but see through that, hear the pain underneath and hold or make space for that. On men opening up about their emotions: We have to do our work now on this generation and have something new to pass onto the next generation. For the community men, we don’t always know it but we have a deep longing to make people around us happy. But men also push love away by not engaging. Because we’re actually scared. It’s not like we do it on purpose but we need to be taught. How can a woman gently open a man’s heart: (1) buy the book :) (2) For women, express your pain but don’t blame us instantly, reaffirm that you want us. P

What can we learn from this crisis? Is there a shift to a new paradigm?
We entered a new era with different rules of the game that we should understand.  And with these challenges every business leader and aspiring leaders want to cope with, we definitely need that shift to a new paradigm.
We cannot expect business as usual and we should recognize the changes that this crisis has brought. We should learn from the transition and understand it well to move towards a new path.
Definitely, there will be a lot of “rescuers” who want to help anyone who needs help.   Let’s now discover these changes and see how illuminary leaders can make a way and shine in the landscape from everywhere and bring extraordinary results.
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As business owners, what is your reaction in this time of crisis?  How would you deal with all your fear and with your questions?
Turning our fear and negativity to constructive actions can help us in our decisions that will affect our business as well as the people we work with.  To be fearful and to panic are easy to feel but our capacity as human beings in finding ways to elevate our consciousness and shift gears is endlessly amazing!  
A mindset to find the opportunity and blessing in this crisis can counter the effects of Covid-19. This can lead even small businesses to discover new openings.
At this time, let us use our hearts. Being compassionate will lead us to accost this crisis and make the best positive and constructive decisions that we can.
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Join the movement to create a bright future: The Future is Feminine
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Have you learned about the foundational principles of creation?  How understanding women’s rights are elements to have a harmonious atmosphere?
Women’s rights are essentials in procreation and to address the inequality between men and women and inequity in the world.  We must acknowledge that men and women have different sets of experiences. The prevalence of unequal treatment between them hinders the creation of a balanced and civilized world. 
Applying the same principles of the existence of yin and yang, we must see that men and women should be respected equally.  
Prospective illuminary leaders and influencers need to understand and be conscious of these two foundational principles to be role models to others. Be inspired, reorganize, and reshift light to affect and establish a world for both genders.

Is being feminist means being anti-men? How can we express that the new feminine actually loves the masculine?
Recognizing a gift from a beloved husband of a feminine future business leader showing his gratitude for what happens to his wife is a testimony that a feminist acknowledges the important role of men.  It is an affirmation that the new leadership is a collaboration, co-creation, and one that forges unity among all genders.
And if you want to tie your business to a purpose at a higher level, learning future leadership can guide you and bring fruitful business. Definitely, you can do more.
Let’s talk about femininity as a way of life that embraces and encourages new masculinity! Together, we learn future leadership for success.
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Company Page: www.illuminainternational.com
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Join the movement to create a bright future: The Future is Feminine
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#illuminaryleadership, #fromcrisistoquantumleap, #thefutureisfeminineforall, #21stCenturyleadership, #thecollaborativesoecity, #createabrightfuture, #leadership4pointzero