The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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The Imperfects Podcast

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

  1. Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism"

    6 DAYS AGO

    Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism"

    In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.” Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed. Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye. Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way!  Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely. To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC 📖Things to Read The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0 💻Things to check out The Grace Tame Foundation - https://bit.ly/4cEHtld 📺Things to watch Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - https://ab.co/3yVZBJr 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/ Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 25m
  2. Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection

    AUG 25

    Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection

    Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!   Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 💻Things to check out Good Human - https://www.goodhuman.au Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - https://bit.ly/4dsy3KX 🎧Things to listen to The Outer Sanctum - https://spoti.fi/3WJ9iCU Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong - https://apple.co/3M3iEV5 Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://apple.co/3M4A8k8 📖Things to read Belonging: The Ancient Code of Togetherness by Owen Eastwood - https://amzn.to/3M7s16l The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 16m
  3. Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety

    AUG 18

    Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety

    ‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas. Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect. In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates. Jack, we’re in love with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8  🎧Things to listen to: Hamish MacDonald- How To Be You - https://bit.ly/4dhN8Ph 📖Things to read: ADHD 2.0 - Edward Hallowell - https://bit.ly/4dlE8IP 📱Things to scroll: The Inspired Unemployed on Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dDpdtm 📺Things to watch: The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers - https://bit.ly/4fGD2Jm Anomalisa - https://bit.ly/3Avx1il 📋Things to do: Maria’s Resilience First Aid Training - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT 👨‍🦲Things for hair loss Hugh’s hairspray product - https://bit.ly/3yuh4ss Finasteride (please note this a prescription product and should only be used after a consultation with your GP) - https://bit.ly/3WNw2BI The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 6m
  4. Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity

    AUG 11

    Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity

    Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one. We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist. Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes). We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people. So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business. To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp  🎧Things to listen to: Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - https://bit.ly/3WSCF7f The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://link.chtbl.com/bencrowepurpose Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - https://apple.co/4dzh356 Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6 📖 Things to read: Stress Study: https://bit.ly/46A9bOB Defining Protective Resilience: https://bit.ly/3SFBQfm Resilience First Aid Evaluation: https://bit.ly/4dFRXll The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 24m
  5. Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me

    AUG 4

    Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me

    Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree. Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom. Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9 Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX  🎭Things to check out Jackson’s Fringe Show - https://bit.ly/4cYNXwf Jackson on Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQoDZ Community Care Collective - https://bit.ly/3zYbUFb 📺Things to watch Ricky Stanicky - https://bit.ly/4bYQXat Mr Inbetween - https://bit.ly/4d4YZ31 🎧Things to listen to The Killers - Rut - https://bit.ly/4cUn4JM If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start: Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr support Marijuana Anonymous Australia - https://bit.ly/3WG4boj Family Drug Support - https://www.fds.org.au/ 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/ Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 14m
  6. Another Imperfect Chat About Men

    AUG 1

    Another Imperfect Chat About Men

    This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is. We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it.  We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues.  In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be. You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly.  To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP  🎧Things to listen to Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpH An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf 📖Things to read Chanel Contos - Consent Laid Bare - https://amzn.to/4flGRn6 Malcolm Gladwell - Blink - https://bit.ly/3WG8Er7 💻 Things to help you learn Teach Us Consent Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dlzKJG Teach Us Consent Website - https://www.teachusconsent.com Our Watch - https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV White Ribbon - https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5 If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732. If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    58 min
  7. How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story

    JUL 28

    How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story

    Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it. The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now. From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success. So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.   📺 Things to watch How Hugh Built Dis on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3y8gAId 💻 Things to check out The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3zT8RhJ The Resilience Project Journals - https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK 🎧 Things to listen to Martin ‘Rac’ Heppell - The other F word… Failure - https://link.chtbl.com/w1ageb9R The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://link.chtbl.com/vthmartinheppell How I Built This with Yvon Chouinard (Patagonia) - https://apple.co/4bXMbdk 🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into:  The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 17m
  8. Dr Emily - What Are Your Values?

    JUL 21

    Dr Emily - What Are Your Values?

    Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove. Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start. Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be. Links mentioned in the episode:   🎧 Previous episodes of The ImperfectsPat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://link.chtbl.com/patcummins The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://link.chtbl.com/bencrowepurpose James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://link.chtbl.com/jamesclear Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://link.chtbl.com/chrissieswan 📺 Things to watch Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U   📖Steven Hayes books to read  A Liberated Mind -  https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz  Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou  🛠️ Tools to use The Resilience Project 6 month journal -  https://bit.ly/3RUBke7 Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU 📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC   Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 29m
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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  • Creator
    Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2024
  • Episodes
    186
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    © 2024 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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