Hang In There, You're Doing So Great‪!‬ The Positive Pants Podcast

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Hang in there, you’re doing so great
 
Hang in there, you’re doing so great.
 
Urgh, what a highly emotional few days we’ve had in the UK.  Across the world too but particularly in the UK.
 
With the announcement that we won’t be able to mix over Christmas in tier 4 with a few hours notice, emotions are running high.
 
Of course they are.
 
People had got excited about having some sort of normality in this crazy year and it got taken away, and taken away very quickly.
 
People were going to be seeing family and loved ones. Or being able to hold up some traditions that they value. Exchange gifts.  
 
It may not have been handled in the best way, but we also need to remember we never have the full story of anything.  We will make our own assumptions and come to our own conclusions.
 
But we are where we are right now.  For me that’s tier 4.
 
For all the people who are now going to be alone over Christmas my heart breaks for you.
 
I’m sorry you’re having to go through this but please know you are so much stronger than you think.  
 
I’m so fortunate that we had decided to stay just the two of us (well 3 including Milo) this year so nothing is really changing for us.
 
We decided early on that we were going to do Christmas in July with my family.
 
My Dad’s had surgery and is waiting on more treatments so it’s always been the case for me that I'm trying to mix as little as possible so I could see my parents and I accepted that early on.
 
We’ve got the date in the diary, we’re going to do presents and crackers.
 
We decided to just shift our perspective on Christmas this year.
 
I 100% acknowledge how lucky we are.
 
To be in a beautiful home in the countryside, with each other, with the cosy fire and with the dog.  I feel so incredibly fortunate and grateful for the life we’ve built.
 
In my opinion I have nothing to feel sad about.  I’m a very pragmatic person.
 
I look at what’s in front of me, try to see all perspectives and deal with what can be dealt with.
 
But if I did feel sad, frustrated, angry, or anything else...that wouldn’t be ‘wrong’.  Just because I have it so much better than many others.
 
You are allowed to feel what you feel.
 
The good, bad and the ugly.
 
I always look at things from the point of view of gratitude and perspective.  It’s how my brain is wired.  It didn’t used to be.
 
I was wired for catastrophising, for feeling like the world was against me.  For feeling like every little thing was the end of the world.  
 
That Fran wouldn’t have handled Covid very well at all so i’m incredibly grateful for the work i’ve done.
 
I also know first hand how horrible it can feel to be in that place.
 
It’s not your fault.
 
Remember, whoever you are and wherever you are right now.  You’re doing great, keep going.
 
Whenever something big happens there’s always a lot of noise and opinion.  The anger about a situation gets projected onto other people.
 
What’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ gets debated.
 
You can be left feeling confused and invalidated.
 
Or worse, guilt and shame