Figuring Sh!t Out Vanessa Fontana

In the art of living, there's a subtle yet profound practice of flirting with life, embracing its vast possibilities, and allowing ourselves the freedom to dream without restraint.

This episode peels back the layers of self-imposed limitations, bringing into focus the joy and growth that lie on the other side of fear.

There comes a time where your inner work will lead you to outgrowing your outer world and will ask you to make decisions to choose more for yourself without knowing exactly what comes next.

I invite you to imagine a world where you dance with your destiny and where the anticipation of what's to come is as delightful as the arrival itself.

CHAPTERS:

0:00-5:04: Where are you Settling + Playing it Small? Identifying Limitations, Intuition vs Anxiety

5:04-8:11: Trusting in the Universe vs Taking Action

8:11- 15:24: What you're ACTUALLY scared of

15:24-20:02: Breaking out Of Unfulfilling Narratives: My Journey

20:02-23:50: Outgrowing Relationships, Letting Go & Making Room for New to Enter

23:50-26:33: Making room for All Parts of you Along the Way (Fear, Insecurity) as you Build Confidence, Authenticity, + Vibrance

26:33-30:24: FLIRT WITH LIFE

30:24-34:33: Your words MATTER: Shifting & Reprogramming Your Mind to Focus into Abundance over Lack

34:33: What's on the other side? Setting Expectations + Connecting to the Collective Consciousness

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Life goes beyond the house that you grew up in.

But you may spend many years healing from the time you spent growing up in it.

For my sister and I, we have found this to be the case.

And we have also found that deciding to create something new for yourself and generations that come after you is the most courageous and purposeful embarkation of one's life.

My sister and I share no DNA. She was adopted at Birth by our parents and has faced a layer of adversity as a person of color that I will never be able to fully understand. We grew up together in Florida in a fragmented and tumultuous environment that she left at 15. Our experiences and healing has led us back to one another after being separated for many years in our adolescence. Our bond has transcended time, space, and blood - but being cut from the same cloth, our definition of home is one another.

This episode is a dialogue between the both of us in exploring how childhood trauma impacts every aspect of your life and how consciously rebuilding, reparenting, and relearning gives you the gift of resilience.

We unpack the impact of how growing up amidst instability shaped our lives and gave us mutual purpose to break the cycle of generational trauma.

To be vulnerable about what made you who you are today, even if it is a heavy past that you have learned and healed from - is to be free from letting it define you.

Angelica is the strongest person that I know - and her experiences are one that I am honored to give voice to on Figuring Sh!t Out.

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-3:58: Introduction, Episode Overview, & Preface

4:00-10:15: Sisterhood + Siblinghood, Angelica's Adoption, Divine Orchestration

10:15-15:50: Roles + Trauma Responses in a Dysfunctional Household, Living in Survival, Mental Health

19:03: Leaving Home at 14 & Experiencing Racism in a Prejudiced Town

23:39: Beginning Healing, Reparenting the Inner Child, Letting Yourself Be Loved

28:43: Anger, Forgiveness, & Breaking Patterns to Relearn Safety

39:26: Releasing + Recognizing Coping & Defense Mechanisms

49:17: Chosen Family, Building a Life You Want, & Loving Yourself through your Evolution

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Episode 8: Healing is Not Linear & Life is Now

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Sit down & grab your popcorn - because this episode is different than any other on Figuring Sh!t Out:

Today is Story-Time.

I am taking you on an honest journey through the last nine months -- from agreeing to run a Marathon in Paris, France (26.2 miles, 42 km) to all of the mental, emotional, and spiritual training that led me and my body to ultimately cross the finish line.

While this was a physical challenge - the physical capability paled in comparison to all of the limits that I had to personally release to feel ready to do this.

All that has been discussed on Figuring Sh!t Out up until this point has culminated to this moment -- where I put my mind, heart, soul, spirit, body, and divine connection to the test.

This has felt like a research project where the findings weren't ready to be presented until the test was finished.

& I can in fact confirm:

Fear is an Illusion - Decide to not let it in or let it matter & it won't
You are Greater and more powerful than Your Mind, Your Limits, and Your Conditions
You will have to trade your old life for your new one, and you will be glad that you did
Visualizing a Future State in Meditation Works (Actually WORKS) To Create A Desired State
Progress is Not Linear - and Neither is Time
The Present Moment is Eternal & Is the Portal to Peace, Truth, and Spiritual Guidance
Your Intuition is Your Greatest Guide - Fear + Doubt are Blockers to It
A Desire to Control is always from the Ego
Your Heart is the Portal to Everything
Love is The Highest Vibration
Challenge is Your Wisest Teacher


All of the above will be divulged in fullness over the course of this season - but today:

I ran a Marathon in Paris - and here is my story.

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Free yourself.
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You do not have to adapt to the energy in the room -- You can influence it.

A wise person once said: “How you do anything - is how you do everything,”

So how do you use your voice, your power, and your energy, to serve a purpose and live an aligned life?

& How do you stay true to yourself while operating in systems or places that don’t feel aligned to you?

How can you protect your peace and find alignment and power through surrender?

By knowing what is in your control vs what is out of it, and knowing the power of your energy and it’s ability to attract like-minded people, places & things is your most precious resource.

This episode pulls together themes of power + influence in a way that fuels our soul, rather than our ego. It re-examines our self-responsibility and pushes us to consider how we can use our voice + establish a connection to our energy to live lovingly, boldly, and proudly in this outside world.

At the end of the podcast, I give you an overview of a daily practice to check-in with yourself and find your alignment, starting small, and starting in the here + now.

(Questions for this down below + upcoming monthly meditation in the Community will be aligned to this practice!!)

Note: Apologies for the end being slightly different sounding in audio - finished recording the last part with different settings on my microphone :,)

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We have a very special guest coming up next week (my sister!!!)

Lots of love

xx

V

CHAPTERS:

0:00: You are Your Best Guide: Integrity in Holding Ourselves Accountable

8:30: Reconciling the Ups & Downs, Physical + Spiritual, Freedom in Surrender

11:55: Jobs, Life, People: Life is not a Zero Sum Game

15:57: Our Energy: You Attract What You Are

17:00: Your Voice has Power - Ask for What You Want

22:10: "Fitting In," Finding Alignment in Relationships

26:40: Becoming Conscious of Misalignment. Releasing Shame of Poor Decisions, + Self & Life Nourishment

34:55: Practices for Alignment, The Power of a Daily Check-In

Journaling Practice:

Daily Inventory of how you feel with a journal + no judgement.

Physically
Mentally
Emotionally
Spiritually


How are the different aspects of how you feel -- impacting each other?

Based on how you feel - what do you need? (remember how "need" is defined from the episode!!)

& What do you want?

What can you do, right now, to bring what you want + need into alignment?

Deep-Dive Into Alignment:

What does it feel like to be aligned? How does your energy feel when you are aligned? To you + for others?
What are some things that make you feel good?
What can you do today to take action towards your alignment? How can you make a small choice for feeling good + a bid for who you want to be?


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38 - Unlocking Our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound Love & Inner Alchemy

41 - The Mind-Body Connection - Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing

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We are part of nature. And there is never a time we are not changing.

As we navigate the changing seasons and embrace the Spring Equinox, this episode is a reminder to ignite a self-acceptance that allows us to truly flourish by embracing we often reject about ourselves.

It is easy for us to like ourselves when we're doing well and easy for us to be happy on a sunny day -- but feeling a stability with ourselves and our lives comes from acceptance of the duality of who we are and the natural and investable cycles of birth, death, and rebirth.

We will always live in duality with both our soul and our ego.

Consider --

Have you rejected your darkness, not aware of the light it inspired in you?

Have you rejected your anger, not acknowledging the passion it forged in your heart for something greater and more just?

Have you felt guilt for the reaction to ugliness with more ugliness, without noticing that it may be the simple law of the universe to meet what we see with more of itself?

As Winter is a Precursor to Spring, The Dark Night of the Soul is a often a precursor to change and self-renewal.

Can you embrace both?

Can you let yourself bloom?

CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - We are all Connected through Cyclical Change, Acknowledging Darkness & Insecurity

(5:21) - Overcoming Insecurities, What We Focus on Grows, Our Perception is not always Reality - but it is OUR reality

(11:25) - What "Confident" People Have

(16:00) - Unseen Growth Beneath the Surface, Death & Rebirth (Reading a Piece Written by Me)

(20:59) - ALLOWING is the key to Attracting: Release Resentment, Anger, Rejection -- Let that Sh!t Go!!

(26:00) - Steps to Self-Acceptance & Broadening your Perspective

(35:00) - You are the Artist of Your Life: Life is Too Short to Hate, Reject, & Judge Yourself

(40:00) - Focus your Energy & Let yourself Bloom

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40 - Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to be Lived.

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