57 episodes
Stop Overthinking Kristen Odegaard
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The podcast for overthinkers, people pleasers and perfectionists... people who are hard on themselves and spend too much time and energy in stuck in their own minds.
Women's Life Coach Kristen Odegaard will help you quiet your (mean) inner critical voice, feel calm and confident without worrying about what others are thinking and shed the layers of self doubt, guilt and not being good enough.
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57. Overcoming Jealousy & Insecurity in Relationships with Shanenn Bryant
Jealousy is an emotion pushed away and not often discussed.
But, its real. It doesn't feel good. It can strain or ruin relationships - so we dive into how to overcome it, build confidence and actually improve your relationships.
This episode includes:
The differences between envy and jealousy
Signals of jealousy (Protection, Projection & Competion)
Building trust in partnerships
Not reacting from fear
Boundaries
Shanenn Bryant, Relationship Confidence Coach, is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low-self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.
As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.
https://www.topself.com/
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56. "Let Them"
Let them... Let others be, do, act, think, feel- all on their own.
When we release the illusion of control over other people, it’s really not about the other people it’s about us. I know I’m in a better place when I’m not trying to figure out what in the world is going on in the brains of other people and trying to anticipate their wants and their needs and what they’re going to say, and then trying to fix it.
"Let Them" is a strategy popularized by coach/author/speaker Mel Robbins. I talk about how this has been used in my life, why its helpful and how you can incorporate "let them" into your daily life and relationships too.
Referenced in this episode:
#54- People Pleasing and the Illusion of Conrol
#55- Perfectionism & Overcontrol
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55. Perfectionism & Overcontrol with Erica Curry, LMFT
Erica Curry and I discuss how perfectionists and overachievers can learn to live presently through skills to cultivate an open mind based on tools from Radically Open Dialectial Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT).
You will also hear about three states of mind- fixed, flexible, and fatalistic. Listen in to learn why its beneficial to be more flexible and strategies you can implement right now.
Erica Curry, LMFT is an RO-DBT therapist treating over achievers, perfectionists, overthinkers and tackles diagnoses like Anorexia Nervosa, OCD, Chronic Depression and treatment resistant Anxiety.
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54. People Pleasing & the Illusion of Control
If you’re a people-pleaser or overthinker it’s likely your relationship to control needs some attention. Most likely it’s backwards: you probably expend too much time & energy trying to control other people, and too little energy taking responsibility for yourself.
As (recovering) people pleasers, perfectionists or over-thinkers we have to learn what is in our control and what is not.
Because when your relationship to control is backwards, you constantly feel like you’re the victim of others’ behavior. But instead of taking action to change your circumstances, you might simmer in resentment and righteously fantasize about how others “should be treating you differently.”
Listen in to hear about how the illusion of controlling what you can't is disrupting peace, relationships and emotional health... and what you can do to feel empowered and in control again.
Referenced in this episode:
Boundaries Episode 10
Wanting Others to Change Episode 34
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53. Making Empowered Decisions with Dr. Sweta Chawla
It's common to overthink decisions and choices- especially if you are letting others' needs, wants and feelings guide you.
In this episode we discuss how Perfectionsists, People Pleasers and Over Performers approach decisions, common pitfalls and how to reframe the internal conversation to make empowered decisions more easily.
Sweta Chawla PharmD, MS is a Former Professor of Pharmacy and Clinical and Residency Director turned Speaker, Facilitator & Leadership Coach and Author.
She supports organizations, highly driven professionals, creatives and entrepreneurs to reinvent how they work and lead. Through her well-resourced model, she guides her clients to create personal structures that leverage their natural brilliance--resulting in more authenticity, impact and balance.
Dr. Sweta is the author of the book I Still Haven’t Found What I’m LookingFor...Now What? and contributor to the award-winning Anthology She’s Got This: Essays on Standing Strong and Moving On.
View the Decision Matrix www.drswetachawla.com
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52. Grieving the Lives You Aren't Living
Do you have a fantasy of a different life you could or might have lived? Maybe it’s moving to a different city, staying in a marriage, or having children, and those experiences aren’t going to happen. Are you grieving that version of your life?
Listen to this episode as I'm discussing how we feel and think when we’re fantasizing about the lives that we know we won’t ever have. I offer what it means to grieve at lives not lived, what prevents us from fully acknowledging the grief of the lives we’re not going to live, and how there is truly no perfect life that you’re missing out on.
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