From the Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna:
M.: "Sir, how ought one to live in the world as a householder?"
Master: "Do all your duties with your mind always fixed on God. As for your parents and wife and children, serve them as if they were your own, but know in the inmost recesses of your heart that they are not really yours, unless they too love the Lord. The Lord alone is really your own, and also those who love the Lord."
“A rich man's maid-servant will do all her duties, but her thoughts are always set upon her own home. Her master's house is not hers. She will, indeed, nurse her master's children as if they were her own, saying often; 'My own Rama,' 'My own Hari,' But all the while she knows full well the children are not hers.”
The Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna describes Sri Ramakrishna’s last visit to Keshab Sen, the great leader of one of the major Hindu reform movements of those days.
The Master speaks highly of Keshab before his disciples. “Keshab is free from the vulgar pride of the preceptor who comes in his own name. Very often has he said to many of his disciples, ‘Go to the Temple at Dakshineswar where you will have your doubts solved.’ It is my way also to say, ‘Let Keshab increase a million-fold.' What shall I do with fame? Yes, Keshab is great, honoured alike by men of the world and by holy men who seek God alone.”
This lecture was given by Swami Tattwamayananda on July 27, 2014.