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You Love & You Learn Podcast Sarah Yudkin
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Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship.
Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on.
Cheers to learning about love!
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#77 - Helpful Advice From a Divorce Lawyer
I was pleasantly surprised when I listened to a podcast with James Sexton, a divorce lawyer who’s seen the ups and downs of couples for 25+ years in his career and has a lot of wisdom to share from it.
Today’s episode focuses on a key thing he sees that leads to relationship breakdown: 1. Not knowing what you want or need, and 2. Not knowing how to express what you want or need. I explore different categories that it can be helpful to explore your needs in, two book recommendations to help you get started, and tips for HOW to communicate needs in a helpful way.
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Books mentioned in the episode:
Eight Dates by John and Julie Gottman
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
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Additional resources:
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#76 - A Reframe to Help Relationship Anxiety: Zooming In and Out
This simple reframe has helped me (and dozens of my clients) in moments of relationship anxiety: zooming in when you’re thinking too big-picture, and zooming out when you’re hyper-fixated on something in the present moment. I explain why this matters in your relationship and specific examples of zooming in and out to help manage your anxiety.
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)
Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching
Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety
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#75 - Healing Unworthiness: From Trauma to Self-Worth w/ Sarah Baldwin
This topic is LONG overdue, and that is feeling unworthy and how this affects our life and the ways we show up in our relationships. I’m thrilled to have had the chance to speak with Sarah Baldwin, who is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and expert in the field of trauma resolution.
We explore reasons we feel unworthy, how to become kinder to ourselves, how to reconnect with our body if we’ve been stuck up in the mind our whole life, what it means to be connected to your ‘truth,’ and more.
For more of Sarah’s work:
https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/worktogether
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If you’re loving the podcast…
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)
Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching
Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
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#74 - Speaking Up For Your Needs in a Relationship w/ Gayane Aramyan
Are you clear about what your needs are in a relationship? If so, do you communicate them openly with your partner? If you answered no to either question, you’ll enjoy this conversation. Our partners cannot read our minds, especially if we are not even sure what we’re expecting in the first place, so it’s important to take time to think about these things.
To explore this, I chatted with Gayane Aramyan, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in perinatal mental health support for women and couples. She’s been with her husband for 15 years and has learned a lot along the way of how to continue to speak up for your needs (and clear out resentments) through lifes’ transitions (including becoming parents).
For more of Gayane’s work:
https://www.therapywithgayane.com/
https://www.instagram.com/therapywithgayane/
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If you’re loving the podcast…
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)
Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching
Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram -
#73 - What if I've Had Relationship Anxiety/ROCD from the Beginning
Common questions I am asked are “what if I never had a honeymoon phase?” and “is it bad if I’ve had relationship anxiety/ROCD from the beginning of my relationship?”
My two cents is how long we’ve had RA/ROCD is less relevant than what is contributing to the RA/ROCD…and that’s exactly what I explore in this episode! What factors may have contributed to RA/ROCD being there from the beginning, and how to move forward if this is your experience.
If you’re loving the podcast…
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)
Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching
Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety
Visit my website
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#72 - Is it Normal For Healthy Love to Feel Boring?
Have you ever felt bored in your relationship and worried that something is wrong? Maybe you’ve wondered “is this normal, shouldn’t things feel more exciting than this?” I’ve been there, and this has been a trigger I have struggled with myself, so I wanted to explore it more.
In this episode, I explore:
3 reasons why healthy love can feel boring
What inner work you can do if you feel disappointed by boredom
What actions you can take in your relationship if you feel bored
If you’re loving the podcast…
JOIN THE YOU LOVE AND YOU LEARN PATREON COMMUNITY FOR $7/month.
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)
Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coaching
Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety
Visit my website
Connect with me on Instagram
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