Mom With Issues Alice Rainey

Need a break from the heaviness? Come and listen to a call between two mom friends as we shoot the sh!t.



This conversation goes everywhere


Summer plans & reclaiming your life
Making friends as an adult & imposter syndrome


Being an entrepreneur & a goal oriented mindset
A crazy job market

And a bunch of stuff in between. So come be nosy for an hour and listen as two mom friends take a break, catch up and kill time.



Links

Find Mal


Tiktok | @theratchethippie.mal
Podcast | Ready 2 B Accountable

Connect with Alice @ Mom with Issues


Tiktok | @themomwithissues
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Books

We Should All Be Millionaires: A Woman’s Guide to Earning More, Building Wealth, and Gaining Economic Power by Rachel Rodgers



Profit First: Transform Your Business from a Cash-Eating Monster to a Money-Making Machine by Mike Michalowicz

It's taken me a long time to tell this story. The path is not straight and the road is long. But for moms living with a partner in active addiction this loud messy story may seem familiar.



This episode I share the story of marriage and its impending end. But this episode comes with a special warning. Yes, trigger warning for abuse but also the sounds of violence. In addition to telling you my story I've tried to convey the feeling. The individual acts in each of stories my be different but the feelings of being in this type of marriage are very common. That is what I hope to share.



So if you have time, I invite you to sit with me for the hardest story I'll ever have to tell.



Links & Resources

Find me on Tiktok @TheMomWithIssues



Resources

Resources for People Experiencing Domestic Violence in the United States

National Resources

1. National Domestic Violence Hotline

- Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

- Website: https://www.thehotline.org/

- Text "START" to 88788



2. RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)

- Phone: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

- Website: [rainn.org]



3. Love Is Respect

- Phone: 1-866-331-9474

- Website:[loveisrespect.org]

- Text "LOVEIS" to 22522



Books

- Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

- "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk



Other Tools

- MyPlan App: A safety planning tool for individuals experiencing abuse ([myplanapp.org]



- StrongHearts Native Helpline: Specialized support for Native American communities

- Phone:1-844-762-8483



Resources for People Married to Alcoholics in the United States



National Resources

1. Al-Anon Family Groups

- Phone: 1-888-4AL-ANON (425-2666)

- Website: [al-anon.org]



2. Alcoholics Anonymous (for the alcoholic partner)

- Phone: 212-870-3400

- Website: [aa.org]



3. National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA)

- Website:[niaaa.nih.gov]

Books

- "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie

- "Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change" by Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, and Nicole Kosanke



Other Tools

- SMART Recovery: A science-based program to help individuals manage addictive behaviors [smartrecovery.org]

- S-Anon International Family Groups: Support for those affected by another person's sexual behavior ([sanon.org]



Resources for People Experiencing Domestic Violence in the United Kingdom

National Resources

1. National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)

- Phone: 0808 2000 247

- Website: [nationaldahelpline.org.uk]



2. **Women's Aid**

- Website: [womensaid.org.uk]



3. Men's Advice Line (for male victims)

- Phone: 0808 801 0327

- Website: [mensadviceline.org.uk]



Other Tools

- SMART Recovery UK: Support groups for managing addictive behaviors [smartrecovery.org.uk]

- Family Lives: Support for families dealing with various issues, including addiction [familylives.org.uk]

Happy Mother's Day!

We're BACK! After a VERY long hiatus, Mom with Issues is back for Season 2. This season it's not just me. Join me and my friends as we discuss all of our issues. These incredible women will share their stories, pitfalls and triumphs. We'll cover everything from Domestic Violence, mental health, chronic illness, recovery and so much more.



On this episode, join me and my friend Lee as she tells her story of escaping domestic abuse. When her husband tried to take her life, Lee fought for herself and her son. She's 6 months free and here to tell the tale.



You can follow Lee, her journey and all of her amazing advocacy work over on Tiktok at @transcendingtrauma

You can hear more about Lee's Foster Care story on the Wards of the State Podcast Episode 17 "Lee Lee"



Links & Resources


Tiktok:@themomwithissues


In the US you can get help at the domestic violence hotline: 800-799-7233. They have a chat option available via google if you’re not in a safe space to talk. 


Statistics for domestic violence and strangulation can be found at https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS


If you find yourself dealing with a narcissist I recommend the book  “Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People -- and Break Free” by Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis.

 This episode is dedicated to the weird moms.

To moms with hobbies of their own, to the moms that would rather donate money than time to the PTA.

So for the moms who love their kids, and would do anything in the world for them but know you don’t have to make them your ENTIRE world, let’s go. This episode is for you.



Links!!



Mal, The Don | @GamerGirlMafia on TikTok

Head of the GGM (Gamer Girl Mafia)

Do you game? Would you play more often if you had a safe fun group of women to do it with?

The discord server is now open folx 18+ who identify as women.

Follow the DON!! OG Weirdo Mal

https://beacons.ai/theratchethippie_ggm



Kima Nieves 

Indigenous Momma providing Socio-cultural critiques; creative lewks + educational resources on Patreon

https://www.patreon.com/lilrednacho



Bianca De La Rosa | @KHiveQueenB on Twitter

Host of the K Hive Podcast

https://t.co/gklZAfgIGe?amp=1



A million thanks to my Tiktok mom community! Y’all are the best!! If your aren't included it's simply because I forgot your (at)! Please send me 💩 emoji on  Tiktok if you want me to include you here!! 😂I promise I'll update these notes until I'm out of characters! 

@Madamdontplay

@loadedcocoa

@thatmom85

@rollingwithit1126

@geneva83520

Articles and Resources

● Mom is not my only identity | https://theeverymom.com/mom-is-not-my-only-identity/

● When Your Name Becomes ‘Mom,’ Do Your Other Identities Matter? | https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/16/parenting/motherhood-identity-crisis.html

● Distractify Article| https://www.distractify.com/p/mom-lost-identity-viral-post

● Motherhood is an identity crisis. Here are 5 ways to embrace the new you being born | https://www.mother.ly/parenting/motherhood-is-an-identity-crisis-heres-5-ways-to-embrace-the-new-you/

● Losing your identity after having a baby (and how to get it back) | https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/after-birth/loss-identity-after-having-baby

Credits

What Corporate People Sound Like | Tripp and Tyler

https://youtu.be/X8woa_wSrmA



Mom needs a Minute | @WisdomWrapped on TikTok

https://www.tiktok.com/@wisdomwrapped/video/6989312476923907334?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id7011716005710054917

Hey lovelies! No episode today. Life just got in the way. 

I'll see you next week with an episode about moms without any IRL mom-friends.

Until then....

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Join the community on Discord: https://discord.gg/GKtPuRF4jk

LinkTree:  https://linktr.ee/MomWithIssues 

TikTok: @themomwithissues 

**************TRIGGER WARNING FOR SUICIDE AND CHILD DEATH********************

● This episode includes the story of a moms who lost their battles with depression, and discussion of suicide statistics and symptoms.

● This is going to be a heavy episode. But even heavier, is the load of a mother, who feels all alone and can’t bear the thought of one more day.



● If you are in the US and in crisis right now, please reach out to the NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE @ 800-273-8255.

● Dial 988 from your mobile to reach the lifeline.

● Text TALK to 741741.



------------ Links  ----------------

Joint the community on Discord: https://discord.gg/GKtPuRF4jk

LinkTree:  https://linktr.ee/MomWithIssues 

TikTok: @themomwithissues 



-------------Articles & Resources-----------

● News Article | Olivia Popham

     o https://www.ketk.com/news/local-news/21-year-old-dead-one-hospitalized-after-head-on-crash-near-athens/

● FCC Designates 988 as 3-digit number for Suicide Prevention Hotline

     o https://www.2020mom.org/blog/2020/7/26/988-designated-as-the-national-suicide-prevention-lifeline-fccgov

●  Postpartum Support International (Non-Crisis Support)

     o https://www.postpartum.net/

       ▪ PSI HelpLine: 1-800-944-4773 (#1 En Español or #2 English)

       ▪ Text “Help” to 800-944-4773 (EN)

● PostPartum Suicide Risks | Pregnancy and Postpartum Suicide Risk: The New Numbers

     o https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/pregnancy-and-postpartum-suicide-risk-the-new-numbers

● Suicide statistics

    o https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/