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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Were You Raised By Wolves‪?‬ Were You Raised By Wolves

    • Society & Culture
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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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    Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

    Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bidets


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dorm Rooms


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you obligated to talk to fellow passengers on an airplane? Should I let my guests know there won't be pony rides at my child's birthday party?


    VENT OR REPENT: Matthew McConaughey t-shirts, Riding Amtrak


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to great Lyft drivers, Thanks for brunch


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Dinner scene from "When Harry Met Sally..."

    Matthew McConaughey in "Dazed and Confused"


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    • 39 min
    Sending Electronic Birthday Cards, Telling People You're Moving, Making Voice Calls on Airplanes, and More

    Sending Electronic Birthday Cards, Telling People You're Moving, Making Voice Calls on Airplanes, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending electronic birthday cards, telling people you're moving out of state, making voice calls on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    What do I do if I've overheard an unkind conversation about me?

    How do I stop a friend from sending me electronic birthday cards?

    How do I break the news to friends and colleagues that I'm moving out of state?

    What can I do about another passenger making phone calls during my flight?

    Aftermath: Art from an unknown sender


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    Airfone

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    • 23 min
    Enjoying High Tea, Overcoming Terrible Handwriting, Tipping for Gas in New Jersey, and More

    Enjoying High Tea, Overcoming Terrible Handwriting, Tipping for Gas in New Jersey, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying high tea, overcoming terrible handwriting, tipping for gas in New Jersey, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: High tea versus afternoon tea


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Driving


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you overcome terrible handwriting? I forgot a family member's birthday...what should I do? Do you tip gas station attendants in New Jersey?


    VENT OR REPENT: Spilled salsa, Watching TV alone


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a listener, Thanks to weekend house hosts


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    National Lampoon's "European Vacation" roundabout scene

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    Episode 154
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    • 43 min
    Holiday Break: Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

    Holiday Break: Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Peking Duck (Běijīng Kǎoyā - 北京烤鸭)


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Staying at hotels


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about friends who borrow but don't return my DVDs? What do we do about a friend who cancels at the last minute for dinner parties when she doesn't like what's on the menu? Is it rude for someone to eschew the office's ice cube rules?


    VENT OR REPENT: An unfortunate bathroom incident, Sending "you're welcome" emails


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Incandescent candy


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Peking Duck on Wikipedia

    "Troop Beverly Hills" movie trailer


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    CREDITS
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    Episode 90
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    • 47 min
    Wearing Hotel Robes, RSVPing with Explanations, Waving on Rural Roads, and More

    Wearing Hotel Robes, RSVPing with Explanations, Waving on Rural Roads, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing hotel robes outside hotel rooms, giving explanations for RSVPs, waving on rural roads, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    Is it OK to wear a hotel robe from your room to the hotel pool?

    Should I give an explanation on the RSVP card for why I am declining to attend someone's wedding?

    How do you politely change the subject when the conversation is on a topic you know nothing about?

    Can a guest say anything to their host about who else can be invited to their weekend house?

    Survey: Waving on rural roads


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    Previous episode about Sandra Bullock pivots

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    • 28 min
    Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

    Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: V/r in emails


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Camping


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I still go to the rehearsal dinner after being uninvited to a wedding? Should you write the dollar amount on a gift card? Should drivers announce to passengers that there's going to be an unscheduled stop?


    VENT OR REPENT: Blocking cars, Billy Joel


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, Garbage-free trails


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    The Gritti Palace Hotel in Venice

    Billy Joel's "Piano Man"


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    Episode 152
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    • 43 min

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