The Art of Charm The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we delve into the fascinating world of behavior design with BJ Fogg, a renowned behavior scientist and founder of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford University. BJ’s pioneering work focuses on understanding and influencing human behavior through innovative models and methods. His groundbreaking research, including the widely acclaimed Fogg Behavior Model and the Tiny Habits method, has been featured in prominent publications such as The New York Times and Forbes. BJ shares his insights on how tiny changes can lead to significant transformations, debunks common myths about habit formation, and offers practical strategies for creating lasting positive behaviors.

Join us for an insightful conversation with BJ Fogg, where he reveals the secrets to designing behaviors that lead to lasting change. Discover how tiny habits can transform your life, why common myths about habit formation are misleading, and how to create positive habits effortlessly. Plus, explore the importance of celebration and positive emotions in reinforcing new behaviors. Don't miss this episode packed with practical tips and strategies to help you build habits that stick and achieve your goals!

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

What are the most common myths about habit formation and why they are misleading?

What are tiny habits and how can they lead to significant changes?

Practical examples of tiny habits you can implement in your daily life.



How can you leverage your emotions to rapidly create great habits – 10:57

Why are positive emotions crucial for habit formation?

The concept of celebration and how it accelerates habit development.



Practical Application of Tiny Habits – 16:01

How do you design tiny habits into your existing routines?

Real-life examples of how tiny habits can transform your behavior.



The Secret to Breaking Bad Habits – 32:30

Strategies for untangling bad habits and creating lasting change.

The three phases of the Behavior Change Master Plan.



Technology and Behavior Change – 43:01

How does technology positively and negatively impact your habits?

Practical tips for managing screen time and fostering positive behaviors.



Tiny Habits for Kids – 49:20

How parents can use tiny habits to instill good behaviors in children.

The importance of creating an environment that celebrates and reinforces positive change.


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In today’s episode, we explore high-value dating with Liesel Sharabi, an associate professor and Director of the Relationships and Technology Lab at Arizona State University. Liesel’s research delves into the impact of communication technologies on romantic relationships, particularly through online dating and mobile apps. Her work, featured in top journals and media outlets like The Wall Street Journal and NPR, examines how AI and virtual reality are reshaping modern romance. Liesel shares her expertise on creating authentic online profiles, managing choice overload, setting realistic expectations, and using AI to find meaningful connections.

Join us for an insightful conversation with Liesel Sharabi, where she reveals the secrets to creating an authentic online dating profile that ignites meaningful connections. Discover how to navigate the overwhelming choices on dating apps to make better decisions, manage your expectations, and find serious relationships in the digital world. Plus, explore the game-changing role of AI in modern dating. Don't miss this episode packed with tips and strategies to enhance your online dating experience!

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Who is Liesel Sharabi, and how did she get involved in the world of dating at an academic level?

How did online dating change the way we perceive dating and what we look for in potential partners?



The Hidden Impact of Dating Apps on Long Term Relationships – 13:51

How are dating apps hurting your ability to connect on a deeper level with potential partners?

What mindset should you adopt if you actually want to find a partner on dating apps and not get stuck in an endless loop of matches that don’t go anywhere?



Is more technology really the solution to the dating hellscape – 23:45

What are companies in the dating “industry” doing to solve the problems many people are encountering around loneliness and how are those “solutions” making things worse?

Should you use AI to improve your results on dating apps?



Are people still meeting other people in real life? – 31:14

What is easier about starting relationships with people you meet in real life and what is harder about starting relationships with people you meet online?

How have dating apps changed cultural norms and expectations for each gender?



The effects of dating apps on marriage/divorce rates – 41:39

How have dating apps changed the landscape of marriage and long term commitment?

What does the future of dating and dating apps look like, and how can you prepare for it?


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In today’s episode, we help you avoid low value behaviors and master high value ones with AJ and Johnny.

In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ and Johnny delve into the dynamics of high and low value behaviors and their impact on your personal and professional relationships. Ever wondered how to take control of your social interactions and ensure they lead to meaningful connections? AJ and Johnny explore the crucial distinctions between high value and low value behaviors, offering practical insights on how to elevate your social value. Learn how to harness the power of responsibility and cooperation, and discover why honesty and generosity are pivotal in forming strong, lasting relationships. How can you balance being cooperative without being taken advantage of? What steps can you take to become a high value individual in every aspect of your life? Tune in to uncover actionable strategies backed by science and real-life experiences to transform your interactions and boost your value.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How do you identify patterns of high and low value behaviors in yourself and others, and what can you do to change those behaviors in yourself?

What specific behaviors lead to long-term success and positive relationships?



The 3 low value behaviors you must avoid – 5:36

How to navigate social interactions by giving value and avoiding common pitfalls.

What behaviors consistently build strong relationships?



The role of attention in building value – 10:14

What is the most powerful (and easiest) form of value you can give when talking to someone?

What two behaviors transform your social interactions?



Most people miss the connection between value and responsibility – 18:30

Why do high value people seek out more responsibility than everyone else?

How do low value people avoid responsibility to shift blame when things go wrong?



This one thing is crucial if you want to be high value – 23:52

How does honesty build trust and strengthen relationships?

What are the detrimental effects of lying and manipulation on your value and relationships?



The long-term benefits of giving value – 28:15

Real-life examples of how giving value without expecting immediate returns can lead to significant long-term benefits.

How do you build a supportive social circle that pushes you to succeed and helps you out when you’re going through tough times?



Practical Tips for Giving Value – 40:58

Simple and practical ways to give value in everyday interactions.

Examples of how giving value can lead to unexpected rewards and strengthen relationships.


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In today’s episode, we help you identify and avoid low value behaviors with AJ and Johnny.

In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ and Johnny dive deep into the psychology of value and behavior. Have you ever wondered if your actions unknowingly sabotage your social interactions? What behaviors might be holding you back from forming meaningful connections? AJ and Johnny explore how to identify and eliminate low value behaviors that keep you from connecting with others. Discover the three critical elements of value—attention, approval, and acceptance—and learn how to nurture high value behaviors that attract positive relationships. What does the science say about the benefits of being a high value individual? How can you balance being generous without being taken advantage of?

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Why is understanding value important in forming meaningful connections?

What will you learn about identifying and eliminating low value behaviors?



What are low value behaviors you need to avoid? – 02:08

What are supplicative behaviors, and how do they manifest in social interactions?

How does the victim mentality negatively impact your value?

Why is it important to avoid combative behaviors, and how can they harm your relationships?



The dangers of social media most people ignore – 14:06

How does social media manipulate our need for attention, approval, and acceptance?

What are the dangers of seeking validation through social media?



Most people fail to escape this mindset that cripples them – 24:48

Why is a competitive mindset still considered low value?

How does the scarcity mindset fuel unhealthy competition?

What are the pitfalls of constantly comparing yourself to others?


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In today’s episode, we dive into the dynamic world of sports and leadership with Craig Robinson. Craig is a distinguished college basketball coach, basketball executive, and podcaster. A former standout player at Princeton, he was twice named Ivy League Player of the Year. Transitioning from a successful finance career, Craig pursued his passion for coaching, leading teams at Boston University and Oregon State University. He has held executive roles with the New York Knicks and Milwaukee Bucks and is now the Executive Director of the National Association of Basketball Coaches. Craig co-hosts the podcast "Ways to Win" with John Calipari, sharing life lessons and strategies from his extensive on-court experience, making his insights valuable beyond the basketball world.

Craig Robinson shares his insights on the evolving landscape of leadership and coaching. How has the role of empathy and communication transformed modern coaching? What strategies can you use to build momentum in both your personal and professional life? Craig also delves into his courageous transition from a successful finance career to pursuing his passion for coaching—what challenges did he face, and what rewards did he reap? Additionally, discover practical advice on how to identify and nurture young leaders, manage setbacks effectively, and leverage likability to foster team cohesion. Join us as we uncover these answers and more with Craig Robinson, a leader whose experience spans from the basketball court to the executive office. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Who is Craig Robinson, and how has his diverse career from finance to coaching shaped his approach to leadership?

What are the key differences between the authoritarian coaching styles of the past and the empathetic approaches of today?

What motivated Craig to transition from a successful finance career to coaching basketball?



Empathy and Communication in Leadership – 19:27

Why is empathy crucial for modern leaders and coaches?

How can understanding and meeting people where they are enhance your effectiveness as a leader?



Insights from "Ways to Win" Podcast – 25:38

Key takeaways from Craig’s podcast, including building personal relationships with team members and creating a culture of accountability.

Lessons from prominent guests like Dave Roberts and Dawn Staley on leadership and team dynamics.



Identifying and Nurturing Young Leaders – 30:29

What attributes and talents should you look for when identifying potential young leaders?

Strategies for nurturing and developing leadership skills in young individuals.



Managing Setbacks and Defeat – 34:17

How can you quickly recover from setbacks and losses in both sports and professional environments?

Practical advice on managing the psychological impact of defeat and maintaining a forward-looking mindset.


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In today’s episode, we dive into the world of human connection with David Robson. David is an award-winning writer specializing in the psychology and neuroscience of human relationships. With a rich background in scientific journalism and a degree in mathematics from the University of Cambridge, David has dedicated his career to exploring the intricate ways we bond and interact with each other. His work has been widely recognized and featured in top-tier publications such as The Guardian, The Atlantic, and BBC Future. David is also the author of The Laws of Connection, a profound exploration into the science behind how we form lasting connections.

In today’s episode, David Robson reveals the secrets to building stronger social connections through the latest psychological research. He explains the profound impact of social ties on our physical health, the importance of overcoming the "liking gap," and how to effectively use follow-up questions to create shared realities. David also shares strategies for rebuilding our social skills post-pandemic, the power of expressing appreciation, and how the Benjamin Franklin effect can strengthen our relationships. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Who is David Robson, and how can his insights on human connection and psychology transform your personal and professional relationships?

How do social connections affect your health, and what diseases can they help protect against?

Why is it important to recognize and manage ambivalent relationships effectively?



What barriers prevent you from connecting with others – 10:40

What is the "liking gap," and how does it prevent you from forming deeper connections?

How can you recalibrate your perceptions to overcome these psychological barriers?



What questions can you ask to rapidly build deep connections? – 24:24

What types of questions are most effective for building deeper connections?

How can you move past small talk quickly to create meaningful conversations?

What overlooked expression can drastically improve your relationship with anyone at work and in your personal life?



How can you rebuild your social skills post-pandemic? – 47:51

How has the pandemic affected our social skills, and what strategies can help you rebuild them?

Why is practicing daily interactions with strangers crucial for maintaining social confidence?



What is the Benjamin Franklin Effect and how can it strengthen relationships? – 51:30

What is the Benjamin Franklin effect, and how can asking for small favors strengthen your relationships?

How can you apply this effect in your daily life to enhance your social bonds?


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