How My View Grew Amiel Handelsman

In this episode of How My View Grew, Palestinian Noor Awad describes an encounter with a Zionist Israeli settler that caused him to broaden his view of the conflict. This is a story of growing up within a particular narrative and learning to take seriously a very different narrative without given up one's own. What would be possible if more Palestinians—and Israelis—developed this capacity?
**Key takeaways**
3:30 Noor becomes aware of the conflict during the Second Intifada9:30 The Palestinian identity Noor was born with13:30 Noor's early-life view of Israelis and Zionism18:00 Noor discovers Israel's New Historians, who questioned the conventional Israeli narrative of 194820:45 Noor meets Hanan Schlesinger, a passionate Zionist settler, and has a life-changing experience31:00 "I'm right, they're wrong" is not the only way to see things34:30 Noor's capacity to hold two narratives is rare38:00 The devastating impact of October 7 and the war on Roots' efforts to build mutual understanding42:30 Amiel's reflections
**Resources**
Roots, the organization Noor works withAmiel's essay, "Seven lessons seven months after October 7"Amiel's page of essays on Medium
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This short episode is about giving better advice. Just as medicine containers have warning labels, I propose that all advice about being a better citizen, leader, parent, or partner come with three disclaimers:
Not for everyoneMay have side effectsDilute before using
After all, different folks deserve different strokes.

In this episode of How My View Grew, educator Carlos Hoyt describes his early life experience transcending racial categories and how he discovered that the entire concept of "race" was false and unhelpful. What if the racial categories that pervade our conversations, public policy, and social science data are scientifically meaningless? What can we learn from people who have deracialized themselves and others? How might these insights improve lives and undermine racism at its roots?
**Key Takeaways**
8:00 Growing up in Boston—"Black and proud," changing school districts, mixing it up at summer camp18:00 Discovering research on other "race transcenders"22:00 The five steps in racializing people27:00 The pseudoscience of race34:00 Why "racial equality" is an oxymoron40:00 Making the U.S. Census more accurate44:00 How to adjust the way you refer to people50:00 Amiel's reflections, including the analogy of the Elvis Lives Fan Club
**Resources**
Carlos's web siteCarlos's forthcoming book, Diversity Without Divisiveness
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In this short episode, I share a personal story about a time I was knocked off center by the verbal attacks of a human "bull."
When someone attacks you, what can you do to regain center and respond skillfully? Here are five tips.
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Rachel Eryn Kalish is a peacemaker. Personally, she radiates harmony. Professionally, she has devoted decades to non-violence and was mediating conflict before the term conflict resolution existed.
Yet, today, she doesn't view non-violence as the one and only approach to global conflict. Sometimes, she has learned, force is necessary to save lives and reduce suffering. The massacre of Israelis by Hamas on October 7 is one example.
We all know the saying that violence begets violence. But are there situations in which non-violence begets violence?
This is the story of how Rachel Eryn began asking this question and listening deeply for answers.
**Key takeaways**
5:30 Facilitating conflict resolution and violence prevention in the workplace9:30 Teaching dialogue skills to mixed groups of Israelis and Palestinians amidst the suicide bombings of the Second Intifada14:15 Helping the deeply divided Bay Area Jewish community talk constructively about Israel19:00 The civil war in Sierra Leone prompts Rachel Eryn to reconsider her view of non-violence25:00 The savagery of October 7 and the need to get rid of Hamas's infrastructure31:30 Amiel's reflections: what type of humans commit barbaric violence, and what types of response can constrain them?
**Resources**
Workplace Connections, Rachel Eryn's consulting firmAmiel's essays on Medium about Israel/Gaza (and other big messes)
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In this episode, I describe a conversation that is pivotal to approaching big global messes. Also useful for parenting, partnering, being a friend, and being a citizen.
The possibility conversation is about the future. It's aspirational. It doesn't include assessments of the past. It's not about coordinating action. The critic stays on the bench. Our mood is constructive.
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