Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love Michele Lisenbury Christensen

So often, we find ourselves stuck in the same old patterns, grappling with conflicts or feeling disconnected. We try workshops, therapy, self-help books, but somehow, things just don't stick.

After today's episode, you'll understand why and what steps to take next. Through working in this way, I've seen couples completely turn things around in as little as three days, or a couple of focused weeks. But what I'm about to share isn't just for those who work with me. It's a roadmap for anyone seeking to improve their relationship – a blueprint for success. So today I'm going to show you how best to use your precious energy.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:
What doesn't work in getting help for your relationship. The three things that really do make the biggest difference. The framework that’s been tremendously helpful in my marriage and my clients’Why this method works way better for men than the other approaches I’ve triedAnd more. 


“The reason we've been doing things the way we've been doing them is because of the patterns we brought into the relationship. We have deep devotion to repeating our patterns because at some point those patterns were survival level necessary” -Michele Lisenbury Christensen

I hope this episode has shed some light on the patterns that might be holding you back in your relationships. Remember, you have the power to transform these patterns and create the love and connection you truly desire. Until next time, may your journey to self-discovery and relational growth be filled with joy and fulfillment.
Learn more about Terry Real at Terry Real - Relational Life Therapy.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.


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I was so grateful to sit down and record with my teacher, Eric Klein, the founder of ​Wisdom Heart​ along with his wife, Devi. I wanted you to hear from him what he's teaching me about my body, mind, spirit, and the way that those interact with the experiences I have in my marriage, my earning, my business -- pretty much in every area of my life.
I am thrilled for you all to hear Eric talk with us about some of the ways that you can apply planetary astrology, the chakras, meditation, and the spiritual path in general to evolve more of what you want in love and life.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
Both of our journeys with Kriya Yoga and it's relevance for practitioners seeking coherence and wholeness in their busy lives. The power of practice and why it resonates with me and so many other womenThe connection between planetary astrology and our inner chakrasOur definition of intimacy and how it can show us our greatest teachersAnd more.  


“Intimacy is another word for awakening  because it's really reducing the layers of self protection  in order to become more and more connected to life. The most potent aspects of life come to us as human beings.” -Eric Klein

I hope that you feel as nourished and inspired as I do after hearing from Eric. My wish for you is that you receive life’s gentle, insistent, invitations to more fullness and wholeness.

Learn more and connect with Eric at wisdomheart.com or @wisdom.heart on Instagram!

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.


If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you, please leave a rating and ideally a review on your favorite podcast platform.

Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner? CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

So many women come to me wanting to turn up their libidos and experience more and better orgasms. I start by asking them 11 questions that, on the surface, don’t seem directly related to erotic desire. But the answers that women give me tell me a ton about their relationships with themselves,  their turn-on, their bodies, their sensations, and with their capacity to contain embodied experiences, both desired experiences and not desired experiences.
In this episode, I'm going to ask you those same 11 questions that tell me whether or not you are in a robust, joyful relationship with your own desires, receptivity, and pleasure. You’ll hear about:
Why I ask each of these questions and the common answers I hear from clientsWhy and how these libido killers affect women specificallyHow to cultivate a desire in ways that have nothing to do with your partnerSimple practices you can add to your day to experience more turn-on throughout your lifeAnd more. 

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.
“Our capacity for pleasant sensations is always conscribed by our capacity for unpleasant, unwanted sensations, the things we fear, the things we're angry about, the things that we have grief about.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:
How you wake up matters [10:20]A note about dressing sexy [16:05]Why you need to put on your own oxygen mask first [25:36]What your inner pleasure goddess wants for you [31:15]I hope that these 11 questions help you see where you can build your capacity to delight in sensation. My wish is that you pick just one area to begin to shift today with the intention of deepening your relationship with yourself, your body, your felt sensations, your yes, your no, and your desire.



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The term “gaslighting” has become a buzzword in recent years and, because of its widespread use, the meaning of this term has become a bit murky. In a nutshell, gaslighting is when you are experiencing something and endeavoring to talk to the other person about it, but they flip it around on you so that you wind up questioning yourself, your own character, motivations, and even grip on reality. Today, I want to talk about what I call “gaslighting lite” or the ways that understanding the gaslight effect can help you navigate when gaslighting behaviors show up in your otherwise healthy relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
Common areas in which many, many people gaslight our partners or other people in our livesWhy gaslighting shows up in otherwise healthy relationships How you may be unconsciously participating in this patternHow you can extricate yourself from this painful cycle, whichever side of it you are on and turn past gaslighting lite into relationship goldAnd more. 

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“Subconscious parts of us react in a knee-jerk fashion that might be out of character for us, might almost be like a different person's behavior, and that subconscious part does that in order to protect the blind spot.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:
How I’ve participated in “gaslighting lite” and how I intervened [13:48]The way you or your partner is acting like a 15-year-old [16:28]What can happen when you start calling out these behaviors [17:52]I hope that this episode gives you a starting place to begin to unravel this gaslighting lite cycle and illuminate ​​the blind spots that will turn into areas of new life for you and your partner.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
We Can Do Hard Things Podcast: Are You Being Gaslighted?
The Gaslight Effect by Dr. Robin Stern
The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide by Dr. Robin Stern
What is DARVO?  by Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd



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You may have heard the term “patriarchy” used to describe a social and political construct, but, as my mentor, Terry Real, explains, it is also a psychological notion. The way that patriarchy defines rigid gender roles becomes subconsciously embedded in the way we think and behave, which has deep implications for both partners inside a relationship. How can we recognize when psychological patriarchy is at play and what can we do to counteract it? 

In this episode, I’ll discuss:
How our sense of ourselves as humans has been artificially bifurcated into masculine and feminine traitsWhy masculine traits are overvalued and feminine traits are undervalued. The painful consequences of psychological patriarchy.How Legacy Love takes couples through five levels of recovery from this deadening way of looking at ourselves and at one another.And more. 

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“We can't build deeper, sweeter relationships than we've had, than our parents have had, than all the ones we've seen around us without dismantling some of the structures that have been invisible to us, that have stopped us from having true partnership, true equality, true intimacy.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:


Terry Real’s three rings of psychological patriarchy [1:52]Why I tackle psychological patriarchy with couples coaching clients [11:21]The highest level of Legacy Love I’ve discovered [22:36]I hope that you give yourself grace as you begin to untangle all the deep and complicated beliefs about gender and relationships that are holding you back. It is my wish that you continue to heal from psychological patriarchy and grow in love together.



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Kurt and I have been married for almost 23 years and we're planning on another 50 to 75 together. We think, in terms of taking care of our bodies, minds and spirits and given the way technology is going, we could each live to be well over a hundred which gives us an amazingly long time to grow in love together and to contribute in so many other parts of our lives. Today's episode is about how we think about what I call, for shorthand “The 100-Year Marriage” and how you could think about it too. 

In this episode, we’ll cover:
Why you should think about the long-term plan for your relationshipThe areas of your life you should consider as you look at the next 50 or 75 yearsQuestions you can ask yourself and each other to help define your vision for long lives togetherResources that have helped expand my thinking about longevity and legacyAnd more. 

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“You get to have any marriage, you're up for creating.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:
How to plan for retirement... or not. (11:30)The books that changed my outlook on life (13:40)How you are living as if your relationship doesn’t matter (27:46)I hope that your love can be a fountain that nourishes everything around it, an oasis that creates aliveness spreading out and out and out from you as a couple.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
My Plan for Living to 156Cash Flow (game) by Robert KiyosakiThe 100 Year Life by Lynda Gratton & Andrew J. ScottFour Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanOutlive by Peter AttiaLifespan by David A. Sinclair & Matthew D. LaPlanteBuilt to Move by Kelly Starret


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Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner? CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.