Paul Has Fun Paul V Perez

I reviewed my journal notes from 2023; these were nine of my biggest lessons from last year.
 
Sugar dating is an expensive alternative to seeing sex workers.
 
I've been seeing sex workers for 6-8 years now, and it was getting old. I met someone in 2023 and wanted to date them seriously, but they didn't in return; I took that as a challenge and looked into sugar dating. I've been doing so since October and learned a lot since then. Now, I have sugar babies and sex workers in my regular rotation. There are growing pains in maintaining this, but I do like the variety.
 
Regular dating sites are a waste of time.
 
I've used dating sites and had some success, but it took time, patience, and messaging other members before meeting someone in real life. When I started sugar dating in October, I signed up and paid a month's subscription to a regular dating site(along with a sugar dating site). Conversations would begin after messaging several people, or they would contact me, but I would eventually get ghosted. Ghosting also happens on the sugar dating sites, but there's often a new person showing interest. The regular dating site was a desert wasteland with little interaction. The results I got in the 30 days when comparing the two were eye-opening. I won't be using regular dating sites for the foreseeable future.
 
Urges for destructive behaviors come in waves; your mind is not your identity.
 
For years, I've used sex, food, and TV to cope with negative feelings and boredom. Urges arise to indulge in one of these activities; I commit, feel the instant pleasure from doing so, but feel terrible after. I thought it was hopeless to change this pattern because this was who I thought I was. Listening to the Porn Reboot podcast, I learned that my thoughts and my urges are not my identity. I programmed myself this way. Urges are waves; they crest and trough. They pass. What do I do now when those strong urges emerge?
 
Have an awareness and self-dialogue on your urges and reasons why you choose to distract yourself.
 
Another lesson from the Porn Reboot podcast; self-dialoguing when those urges come up. Have the awareness to verbalize the series of events that led to wanting to act out with this behavior(food, sex, overabundance of TV and video games). This technique has helped 'walk me off the ledge' multiple times. The hope is to build the habit of doing this process every time I want to self-medicate and sit with those negative feelings. They do pass.
 
Scheduling and following through builds confidence, self-discipline, and capital.
 
This lesson I formed from listening to Ed Mylett's and, once again, the Porn Reboot podcast. I've heard Ed Mylett talk about how doing what you say you will do builds confidence. I started making a to-do list for daily activities and tried to get as much done as possible. In turn, these actions raise my confidence and build capital. What is capital? When those urges arise, I use my to-do list, which I've completed/mostly completed, to show myself, 'Look at all these good things I've done today. Things I said I would do, and I did them.' These good things build capital to fight urges for bad behaviors. These good things include self-care, such as eating healthfully, getting to bed on time, and getting to the gym. Doing something creative, and so on. It's not perfect and doesn't always work, but this method of building capital to quell my urges has helped me.
 
Follow advice from doctors and scientists, not influencers.
 
In 2023, I flip-flopped between a carnivore and vegan diet due to advice from influencers. Their stories are valid because they got the results they were looking for. But doctors and scientists have proven results from studies. Information can change, and doctors and scientists aren't always right. I go the vegan route because I want to prevent a heart attack and/or stroke. My father, in the last few years of his life, had multiple strokes and stents

Here's my Bob Marley One Love spoiler review.   I've done the review a month later from the original release date to see how the box office would do.   $93 Million later, how does it stack up to the other theatrical releases of 2024?  
Also a video of my friends and I attending a party at Lot 45 in Brooklyn last weekend.
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On this podcast I discuss my favorite quotes from Dean Graziosi's book, 'The Underdog Advantage.'
 
My main takeaway from this book is a new perspective on selling. Like many, I need help selling anything and find doing so awkward. But truthfully, we all sell every day and don't notice.
 
When we enthusiastically recommend a favorite TV show, food, song, or type of music to our friends, family, and acquaintances, we are selling. Which, to me, is the most accessible way to sell anything to anyone. 
 
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This episode contains all podcast audio from July 2023-December 2023.
Episodes collected are(with links to the original podcasts):
1. Is NYC Reggaefest Becoming Stale?
2. The Flash-$269 Million Later-Spoiler Review
3. Was The Equalzer 3 A Horror Movie? Spoiler Review
4. Ed Mylett's book 'The Power Of One More." My Favorite Quotes
5. My Biggest Takeaways Volume 2
6. Comic Book Recommendations  November 2023
7. My Favorite Browadway Shoes of 2023
8. Dance Mixtape December 2023
9. Godzilla Minus One-Spoiler Review
10. My Experience with using Seeking.com, OkCupid, SugarDaddy.com.
Click  here for the first 'All 2023 Content, January 2023-June 2023.'
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Welcome to 2024!   What better way to bring in the new year with some memorable music from the past.  On this mixtape I have music from recent and older movies, TV shows and one video game song.  Enjoy!
Tracklisting:
Title
Artist
Album
Secret of the Forest (From "Chrono Trigger")
Arrowny
Chrono Trigger (Remastered)
Cerebro
Michael Kamen
X-Men (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
The Batman Theme
Danny Elfman
Batman (Original Motion Picture Score)
Wonder Woman's Wrath
Rupert Gregson-Williams
Wonder Woman (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
Captain Marvel
Pinar Toprak
Captain Marvel (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
Hong Kong Kablooey
Michael Giacchino
Doctor Strange (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
Lotus Chant
Cristobal Tapia de Veer
The White Lotus: Season 2 (Soundtrack from the HBO® Original Series)
God of War
Cristobal Tapia de Veer
The White Lotus: Season 2 (Soundtrack from the HBO® Original Series)
Mayor Of Kingstown Main Titles
Andrew Lockington
Mayor of Kingstown: Season 1 (Original Series Soundtrack)
Destroyer Of Worlds
Ludwig Goransson
Oppenheimer (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
Dream Is Collapsing
Hans Zimmer
Inception (Music from the Motion Picture)
We Know What You Whisper
Ludwig Goransson, Busiswa
Black Panther: Wakanda Forever (Original Score)
Pink Soldiers
23
Squid Game OST
Spider-Man 2 Main Title
Danny Elfman
Spider-Man 2 Original Motion Picture Score
A Flood of Terrors
Michael Giacchino
The Batman (Original Motion Picture Soundtrack)
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On this episode I discuss my experience using OkCupid, Seeking.com, and SugarDaddy.com.   I also talk about sex workers and my dating life.
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