Spotlight your TRUE self Michaela Kettner

Have you had high expectations after a job interview – but then were not chosen?

Were you sure, you will get the promotion at work – but that went to another colleague?

Have you had high expectations when participating in a competition – but it didn’t go as planned?

Experiencing these disappointments don’t feel great. But they are part of life and the goal is not to avoid them – but to manage them!

First, it is important to understand that being disappointed always means that expectations have not been fulfilled. So, how to deal with that emotion once ‘sh*t hits the fan’?

In this episode you will learn:


Why it is important to recognize and admit your negative emotions
Which emotional process you are going through after a disappointment
How to overcome your ego, bring back your energy and positive mood, step-by-step

I am explaining this process based on my own experience of a disappointment on a public speaking contest, that had happened to me end of May.

Here you can find the ‘scale of emotions’ by Abraham-Hicks that I am referring to:

https://toc-now.com/2015/10/12/abraham-hicks-emotional-guidance-scale/



Whether you are currently looking for a new job or want to excel at your workplace, I would be happy to support you in your skillful self-presentation, so that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Skilful self-presentation, Successful career, fulfilling career, important for career, successful in my job, self-confidence, failing, how to deal with failure, disappointments, managing the own emotions, transforming own negative emotions, overcome the ego

Are you stuck in a phase of feeling unsuccessful? Everything you are trying is not going to work? You are failing all the time?
The problem is, “energy flows where attention goes” (Tony Robbins). That means: the more you are focussing on you being unsuccessful, the more unsuccessful moments it will create.
To shift that: Regularly create little moments of success in your life. If this is not possible in your job at the moment, search for other possibilities, for example in your free-time related to a hobby you have.
How to do that? Listen to two personal examples that I am sharing in this episodes that made me understanding how you can program your own mind to ‘success’.
In a nutshell:

Search for little challenges, something that makes you feel a little nervous
Go out of your comfort zone: Accept this challenge! Do it!
Consciously observe how successful you feel after mastering this challenge
Store that feeling in your mind, shift your focus on “Yes, more of that!”


And I would be happy to support you in your skilful self-presentation, so that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:
• Self-confidence & self-esteem
• Managing your emotions
• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP
And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!
If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).

Keywords: Skilful self-presentation, Successful career, fulfilling career, important for career, successful in my job, self-confidence, more success, avoid failing, feeling like a loser, everything is going wrong, focus on the positive, positive mindset, challenge yourself, leave comfort zone

… the person you are approaching has never worked with you and has nothing to refer to!

I have experienced myself, that people reach out on LinkedIn asking me for reference for jobs, although I have never met them before.

Even if the job market is tough, it is not a good practice to search for and rely on references from other people, while neglecting putting effort on your own job applications.

Basically, a good reference from someone (if that person knows you and has worked with you) is “the cherry on the cake” – but guess, who is the “cake”?! It’s you!

You first need to take the responsibility yourself for presenting yourself in a great way!

And I am happy to support you in your skilful self-presentation, so that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Skilful self-presentation, Successful career, fulfilling career, important for career, successful in my job, self-confidence, asking for reference for a job, job referral, job reference, getting a job through contacts or network

How do you make decisions for your professional life and your next career step? Do you always feel quite insecure and rely on the opinion of others?

Or do you have this strong inner guidance – because you know clearly what your personal values are that drive your decisions?

Are you aware about your own values?

Your personal values can be 3-6 out of the following examples: freedom, independence, respect, responsibility, integrity, honesty, loyalty, empathy, wealth, stability, safety, curiosity, knowledge, well-being, family, creativity, joy, success, trust, truth, compassion, modesty, openness, discipline, …

My own top personal values are:


Empathy
Integrity
Loyalty
High standards
Independence
Profoundness

Knowing your values gives you self-confidence and let’s you spread your attitude, such that it is recognizable for others! Knowing your values also gives you the courage to speak up and set boundaries once someone is not acting in alignment with your own values! This is what makes you authentic, what communicates who you really are and finally let’s you shine!



I am happy to support you in your skillful self-presentation, so that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Skillful self-presentation, Successful career, fulfilling career, important for career, successful in my job, self-confidence, own values, finding personal values, human values, attitude, decision, intrinsic motivation, clarity, authenticity, setting boundaries

Yes, sometimes we are envious of someone, because he/she has something that we do not have. We have grown up hearing that it is bad to be envious and jealous. So, whenever we feel envy and jealousy, we push this feeling aside, or even judge ourselves for it.

What makes you envious? Seeing other people who have


A happy relationship? A family? Kids?
A good job? A higher position? A higher salary?
Material things like a bigger house, a car or jewellery?
A different lifestyle?

What I want you to understand: Being envious of anything of the above (or something else) is nothing bad! Instead, it is a very important indicator, what your real desires in life are!

I am sharing with you also my personal insights what my own envy told me about becoming a mother, focusing on my career and doing public speaking.

What is it that makes you envy? Use it to define the right targets for you! Whatever you are lacking now – remember that you just done have it YET!

If you need guidance to define your targets in the right way, check out the episode that I made about reaching the own goals: #36 – Define, feel and reach your goals



I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:


Self-confidence & self-esteem
Managing your emotions
Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



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What is a trigger? What is triggering you emotionally – something that somebody says or does that makes you angry, aggressive, sad or even panicking? At your workplace, in your family, in your network of friends or even just by walking around in the city?

What can you do when you recognize that you got triggered and you are close to overreact or have done already?

First: be proud of yourself that you are already reflecting your own behaviour in such a way! How many people get triggered and just let out their aggressiveness without questioning it?!

Here are the 5 steps that I explain in detail in this episode how you can handle it when you get triggered:


Recognize your emotions and thoughts
Ask yourself: Why are you reacting like this? Does this remind you of something?
Zoom out! How would a neutral person assess this situation?
Conclude: Is it a personal trigger or something you really have to set boundaries against it?
Decide on your next action: Do you want to talk to a neutral person about it or even give the person, who has triggered you, a feedback?

I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



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