Behavioral Grooves Podcast Kurt Nelson, PhD and Tim Houlihan

When was the last time you wanted to speak up, but were too afraid to?
This week, embark on a riveting exploration of silence with Kurt, Tim, and special Elaine Lynn Herring, author of Unlearning Silence. Through rich conversation, they delve into the intricate dynamics of power, societal expectations, and the profound impact of silence in our personal and professional lives. Elaine illuminates the hidden complexities behind our communication patterns, urging listeners to challenge ingrained norms and create inclusive spaces where every voice is heard. From dissecting workplace dynamics to sharing personal anecdotes, the trio navigates the journey of self-awareness and collective empowerment with remarkable depth and clarity.
As the conversation unfolds, we invite you to reflect on your own experiences of silence and consider the transformative potential of embracing diverse communication styles. This conversation offers practical strategies for fostering open dialogue and nurturing psychological safety within teams and organizations. Break free from the confines of silence, and learn how to foster a culture of authenticity, innovation, and belonging. Tune in to this enlightening episode as we journey towards unlearning silence and amplifying voices in a world hungry for change.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics 
[2:34] Introduction and speed round
[4:29] The pros and cons of silence and speaking up
[9:35] Workplace silence and its impact on employees
[15:37] The negative effects of silencing
[20:08] Communication preferences and their impact on team dynamics
[25:16] Creating open communication environments
[34:48] Unlearning silence and social isolation
[46:55] Music’s impact on life
[49:58] Grooving Session: Speaking up and the culture of accountability
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links 
Unlearning Silence - How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully
Elaine Lin Hering
What Doctors Wish Patients Knew About Social Isolation
Lessons from The Challenger
Harvard Negotiation Project
Musical Links
Miles Davis - So What
Elevation Worship - Praise

Ketamine therapy has recently been a hot topic in the mental health industry, but what exactly is ketamine therapy? Who is it for, and what are the benefits/risks associated with it?
Dive into the forefront of mental health innovation with Kurt, Tim, and special guest Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo as they unpack the groundbreaking potential of ketamine therapy as a transformative treatment for depression and anxiety. Dr. Lombardo sheds light on the mechanisms behind ketamine therapy's effectiveness, sharing promising research findings and cautionary notes on its administration under careful medical supervision. Dr. Lombardo goes through the nuances of ketamine therapy, and how to use it as part of a comprehensive mental health strategy rather than a quick-fix solution.
As always, the more you know, the better equipped you are to face life’s challenges. Beyond the cutting-edge realm of ketamine therapy, Kurt, Tim, and Dr. Lombardo look at practical coping strategies and evidence-based practices for enhancing mental well-being. From cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to the healing power of nature and gratitude, they share personal stories and insightful perspectives to empower listeners on their mental health journey. With a compassionate approach and a focus on holistic healing, this episode offers actionable insights and thought-provoking dialogue that promise to inspire and inform. 
Tune in for an engaging exploration of mental health and resilience that challenges conventional wisdom and fosters hope for a brighter future. Join the conversation and discover new ways to nurture your well-being, one step at a time.
Disclaimer: The discussion of ketamine in this episode of Behavioral Grooves is purely exploratory and should not be interpreted as medical advice or encouragement to use ketamine. Any consideration of ketamine therapy should be approached cautiously and only under the supervision of a qualified healthcare professional.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics 
[0:00] A quick note from Kurt and Tim on ketamine therapy and depression
[5:38] Introduction and speed round
[7:00] Mental health treatment options and stigma
[12:04] Stress, anxiety, and new frontiers in therapy
[16:32] Mental health signs and seeking help
[21:17] Ketamine therapy for depression and anxiety
[31:21] Combining ketamine therapy with other mental health interventions
[37:05] Educating others on ketamine therapy
[40:17] Desert island music
[46:58] Mental illness, ketamine treatment, and self-care options
[49:28] Grooving session: Mental health treatments, coping strategies, and research
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo
Mindbloom
NIH on Major Depression
Harvard Medical School: When is KT safe for treatment-resistant depression?
CBT
Musical Links
Bruno Mars - Uptown Funk
Maroon 5 - This Love

Originally published as Why Talking To Strangers Is Actually Good For Your Wellbeing | Nick Epley
Embark on a journey of rediscovery as we revisit an episode that's sure to reignite your passion for meaningful connections. Join us as we delve into the timeless wisdom of Nick Epley, whose insights continue to resonate with listeners old and new.
Do you strike up a conversation with a stranger on a plane or while waiting in line? If you don’t already, you will after listening to Nick Epley in this episode. Nick talks through his extensive research about talking to people we encounter and how it actually boosts our wellbeing.
While many of us may default to surface-level exchanges, Nick challenges us to embrace the depths of genuine connection. But let's not forget the elephant in the room – initiating these conversations can be a daunting task. Fear not! Nick equips us with the tools to overcome our hesitations and dive headfirst into meaningful dialogue.
Nick Epley is the John Templeton Keller Professor of Behavior Science and Director of the Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. With his unparalleled expertise in social cognition, Nick sheds light on why understanding one another is often easier said than done. Nick wrote the book “Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want” and through its pages, Nick invites us to peer into the inner workings of the human mind. 
As always, hosts Kurt and Tim end the show with a Grooving Session, distilling the essence of our conversation into actionable insights. But if there is just one thing you take away from this episode, dear listeners, is never hesitant to seize the opportunity to pay a compliment.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
[3:40] Welcome and speed round questions.
[4:57] Why it’s better to have a deep and meaningful conversation with a stranger?
[7:18] Why are we reluctant to talk to strangers about something meaningful?
[13:46] Why did Nick start studying undersociality?
[21:06] What happens when strangers talk on a train?
[29:33] How do you start a conversation with a stranger?
[33:20] The benefits of a compliment.
[39:21] Nick’s work in the future.
[43:35] The mind-blowing way to get someone else’s perspective?
[47:49] What music influences Nick.
[51:24] Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim discussing what we learned from Nick Epley.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Nicholas Epley
“Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want” by Nick Epley
Gary Becker
Liz Dunn at University of British Columbia
Music Links
Metallica “Master of Puppets”
David Tolk, piano player “Amazing Grace”
“All Creatures Great and Small” music 
 

Could asking the right questions transform your conversations? That’s the question of the week for Kurt and Tim, as they delve into the power of inquiry and active listening with this week’s esteemed guest, author Jeff Wetzler. Jeff, the author of "Ask," shares groundbreaking research and surprising insights about the impact of asking the right questions, offering listeners a roadmap to navigate the complexities of communication with wit and wisdom.
From the boardroom to the dinner table, effective communication skills are essential. Discover how active listening can not only boost productivity and increase employee satisfaction but also foster deeper, more meaningful relationships. Through thought-provoking discussions and real-world examples, Kurt, Tim, and Jeff challenge conventional wisdom to help listeners gain a deeper understanding of how to engage authentically in both their professional and personal lives.
Ready to level up your communication game? Tune in to this episode for actionable insights and inspiration. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or simply a curious listener, get ready to embark on a journey of compassionate curiosity and active listening. Join the conversation and let us know what questions you have about this episode or Behavioral Grooves! We’d love to hear from you.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics 
[5:40] Introduction and Speed Round
[11:22] The “Ask Approach” and the power of curiosity
[18:00] Effective listening and learning from others
[26:06] Creating a safe space for open communication
[34:43] Using curiosity to interrupt certainty and gain new perspectives
[43:35] Vibe listening and interpreting conversations
[48:51] Desert Island music
[53:51] Grooving session - the importance of asking questions, active listening, and micro-expressions
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links 
** Rankin, Paul T. “The Importance of Listening Ability.” The English Journal, vol. 17, no. 8, 1928, pp. 623–30. JSTOR, https://doi.org/10.2307/803100. Accessed 10 Apr. 2024.
Ask by Jeff Wetzler
More about Jeff
What is Active Listening?
Musical Links 
Paul Simon - 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover
Indigo Girls - Closer to Fine
Dave Carter and Tracey Grammer - When I Go

Ever find yourself coasting on autopilot a bit too often in your daily routine? Seeking ways to be more present and truly connect with your habits to enhance your life? Join Kurt and Tim on a profound exploration into the world of sense foraging and breaking free from autopilot habits.
In this enlightening episode, Kurt and Tim are joined by special guests Norman Farb and Zindel Segal, esteemed researchers in psychology and neuroscience, and co-authors of the insightful book "Better in Every Sense." Together, they delve into the transformative power of intentional sensory exploration, curiosity, and savoring to elevate everyday experiences. Dive into the complexities of modern life, including the challenges of stress, burnout, and dysregulation, while gaining valuable insights into understanding your ‘default mode’ and the pivotal role of the salience network in directing your focus to the present moment.
Discover actionable strategies for integrating sense foraging into your daily life, from relishing the flavor of your morning coffee to heightening your awareness of the sensations in your environment. In their grooving session, Kurt and Tim underscore the importance of breaking away from habitual routines and fostering mindfulness to improve decision-making and overall well-being. Whether you're seeking to shift your perspective or embark on a journey toward intentional living, this episode offers invaluable guidance to kickstart your transformation. Tune in now and take the first step toward finding your groove!
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics 
[5:10] Intro and speed round
[7:30] Default mode - breaking out and toggling in
[11:56] House of Habit
[18:42] Perceptual inference and active inference
[23:53] How foraging leads to a better life
[29:26] Toggle in for engagement and break away from default mode
[39:12] Sensory engagement and learning
[44:33] Hearing vs. listening
[46:58] Desert island music
[53:44] Grooving session: habits, autopilot, and how to create your own groove moments
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links 
Better in Every Sense: How the New Science of Sensation Can Help You Reclaim Your Life
Norman Farb
Zindel Segal
Default Mode Network (DMN)
Paying Attention to Senses Can Help Reset the Mind
Musical Links 
The Rolling Stones “Winter”
Underworld “Born Slippy” 
Cream “Sunshine of Your Love” 
A Tribe Called Quest “Can I Kick It?” 
 

What separates a ritual from a habit? Join Kurt and Tim this week as they delve into the intriguing world of rituals and habits with special guest Mike Norton, acclaimed author of The Ritual Effect. Together, they explore the nuances that distinguish rituals from mere habits, shedding light on how rituals infuse our daily lives with meaning and significance.
According to Michael, rituals are more than just actions; they're meaningful celebrations or purpose-driven practices that elevate our routines. From something as simple as brushing your teeth to larger group activities, the trio discusses how rituals add depth and emotion to our everyday experiences.
As the episode unfolds, Kurt, Tim, and Mike examine how rituals impact not only individuals but also relationships and work teams. They navigate the delicate balance between rituals that unite and those that divide, emphasizing the importance of consensus in fostering a sense of belonging and satisfaction.
Through personal anecdotes and keen insights, the trio offers listeners a thought-provoking journey into the profound influence of rituals on behavior, perceptions, and relationships. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion! Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the rituals that shape our lives. And if you enjoy the episode, be sure to rate and review us on your favorite podcast platform—we'd love to hear your thoughts and continue the conversation.
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Topics 
[5:33] Intro and speed round
[10:24] Is brushing your teeth a ritual?
[14:00] The benefits and limitations of rituals and habits in daily life
[20:19] Rituals in relationships
[24:00] The meaning behind group rituals
[33:20] Corporate team-building activities
[42:33] The role of music in cultural rituals and traditions
[51:27] Grooving session: Rituals and their meanings in daily life
© 2024 Behavioral Grooves
Links
The Ritual Effect
Michael Norton
Michael's TED Talk - Why Rituals Matter
Musical Links
The Band “Atlantic City”
Gillian Welch “I Want to Sing That Rock and Roll”
Buddy Holly “Rave On”
Arlo Guthrie “Alice’s Restaurant Massacree”