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This week’s episode dives into a topic that many of you have asked about - dating, especially as it relates to our kids. Jesse and I previously shared our general dating guidelines, but as some of our children have grown and started engaging in relationships, we have really had to put those principles into practice in real-time.
I recently touched on our approach to dating on Instagram, and it sparked some lively (and controversial) conversations, so join Jesse and I today as we dive even deeper into our experiences and how we have adjusted our guidance while respecting our kids' privacy and autonomy.
Jesse and I share our philosophy that dating should be intentional and mindful, and we have encouraged our kids to view dating as a way to get to know someone with the potential for a serious, long-term relationship, rather than just a casual activity. We discuss how we've balanced setting boundaries without being overly controlling, allowing our kids to make their own decisions while we support them through their journeys, having found that this approach not only respects their autonomy but also helps them develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationships.
We also touch upon the critical role of observing a potential partner's character over time and in various situations. Seeing how someone reacts in different scenarios, such as in competitive sports or when things don't go their way, can reveal a lot about their true nature, and this can be very important for making informed decisions about whether to pursue a deeper relationship.
Be sure to also tune in to hear some quick personal updates, such as Father’s Day having been a bit of a rollercoaster, as we spent it in Mississippi for Silas's baseball tournament! I also share some interesting tidbits from our recent Olympic trials binge-watching and the amusing challenge of setting up our new coffee maker without reading the instructions! Don't forget to also check out a new freebie on our site with 60 quick meal ideas to avoid takeout - perfect for busy families!

In This Episode
[0:35] - Jesse and I are further discussing how we approach dating with our kids.
[2:13] - Hear all about Jesse's exciting Father's Day!
[5:34] - I discuss an emergency with a feeding tube button for David, noting the mismatch in our emergency kit.
[6:11] - Jesse clarifies that we had different-sized feeding tube buttons, leading to complications with the emergency replacement.
[8:44] - I express gratitude for a nurse's help so that we could avoid an emergency room stay.
[11:08] - I further reflect on a chaotic Father’s Day, including spilled drinks, unruly kids, and a new coffee maker gift. 
[13:26] - We have enjoyed watching the Olympic trials with our daughter Kierstyn, who is excited about various sports, especially gymnastics.
[15:19] - Hear some listener feedback which includes a request for the audiobook library link.
[16:52] - I share a listener's observation about the use of "sofa" versus "couch" in an earlier episode, noting it as an interesting regional preference.
[19:28] - I have been reading and loving Natalie Runion's book The House That Jesus Built.
[21:08] - Tune in for an exciting announcement about a freebie with 60 quick meal ideas to replace takeout!
[22:37] - Shifting gears toward today's main topic, we begin to discuss our views on teen dating, advocating for encouraging serious relationships and eventual marriage.
[24:19] - It's important to start conversations about boundaries, respect for bodies and for others, and marriage early to guide children through dating as they grow older.
[27:20] - I further explain our position toward dating ultimately for marriage.
[31:00] - Jesse reflects on our daughters appreciating the intentional approach to dating with marriage in mind.
[33:31] - It's crucial to observe potential partners in various contexts to gauge their true character before committing to a relationship.
[35:10] - The other biggest thing is pra

Well, we recorded this episode at the latest time we've ever recorded a podcast episode -- past 10 p.m.! We found a window of time to record this before our family trip to Missouri to pick up Silas from camp, followed by his big baseball tournament in Mississippi!
Jesse has been getting up at 6:00 a.m. to hit the CrossFit gym again, which has been a fantastic start to his days, although it certainly makes 10 p.m. feel like midnight! :)
In a recent episode, Jesse and I discussed our goals for the summer, and I am thrilled to share that I'm making some great progress, especially with tracking everything on the Strides app! For the first time, my goal of spending 1,000 hours outside this year is in the green (summer and baseball make it much easier to be outdoors more!)
I am also on track with my reading goal and am aiming to finish fifty books by the end of the summer, I have already finished almost ten, and it's only June! (Plus, my annual goal is seventy-five, so if I actually finish 50 this summer, I'll be well ahead of schedule!)
Jesse and I also discuss how our slowed-down summer theme has allowed us more family movie nights. We watched The Boys in the Boat, a beautifully crafted film based on true events, and The Challenger: The Final Flight, a riveting documentary on Netflix about the 1986 Challenger disaster. I vaguely remember the tragedy from my childhood but learned a lot that I don't remember about the events surrounding it since I was so young.
We also discuss something that resonated with me this summer - whether our routines and goals serve us or enslave us. For example, running 100 miles this summer has been a positive challenge for me. It’s a time for prayer, thinking, and even playing brain games like Connections from The New York Times while I run. It’s been beneficial rather than burdensome as it might be for some others. Asking ourselves as we create routines or set goals: "Will this serve us or enslave us?" Can be a really insightful question!
In This Episode
[0:36] - This is the latest that we’ve ever recorded an episode - it's after 10 p.m.!
[1:44] - Jesse’s morning routine of starting with a cold shower and workout significantly impacts his day.
[3:36] - I am excited that my summer goals are progressing well, with significant improvement in outdoor hours!
[4:41] - An update on how I'm doing on my reading goals for the summer.
[5:45] - We have enjoyed films like The Boys in the Boat and Challenger: The Final Flight this summer.
[8:44] - I reflect on how watching Challenger: The Final Flight revealed surprising details and life lessons about decision-making.
[11:31] - A listener thanks us for introducing Ruta Sepetys' books and recommends A Higher Call.
[12:54] - I recently finished Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots by Mary Marantz which resonated with my journey of confronting perfectionism.
[15:53] - A friend inspired me with her unscheduled summer approach, although I do need a routine to slow down.
[17:24] - Do your routines serve you or enslave you?
[19:09] - I've been enjoying playing the Connections game during my runs because it keeps my mind engaged.
[20:41] - I personally cherish my time running, when I pray and think freely; it's liberating to me, not confining.
Links & Resources
Crystal Paine
Strides app
Stacy Myers’ Instagram Page
Connections - Word Game
Films
The Boys in the Boat (Amazon Prime)
Challenger: The Final Flight (Netflix)

Books
Ruta Sepetys (author page)

A Higher Call: An Incredible True Story of Combat and Chivalry in the War-Torn Skies of World War II by Adam Makos & Larry Alexander
Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots: Finding Grace, Freedom, and Purpose in an Overachieving World by Mary Marantz
Social Media
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)
Crystal Paine on Twitter
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Ou

This week's podcast episode covers a much-requested topic: our favorite audiobooks! Summer is a great time for reading and listening to more books -- especially with road trips and/or just a slower schedule. And if you listen regularly to the podcast, you know we love audiobooks.
Whether you’re looking for a way to pass time while cleaning, cooking, or driving or you prefer listening to reading, this episode is packed with our favorite 20+ audiobooks to add to your listening library!
I managed to narrow my list down to 20 (okay, maybe a few more) and then Jesse shares some of his favorite series, too. We share a wide range of books -- including my favorite book on habits, a book that inspired me to want to visit all the national parks, captivating fiction, eye-opening historical narratives, and more!
We also share how we find time to listen to audiobooks, when we listen to audiobooks, and how we listen to audiobooks. And we share how we never pay for audiobooks!
In This Episode[0:35] - Jesse and I are diving into our favorite audiobooks and sharing 20+ recommendations!
[2:59] - We use the Libby app to listen to audiobooks on my phone (+ when I listen to them!)
[4:53] - I start by recommending Lisa Wingate’s Before We Were Yours.
[5:51] - I highly recommend The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society for its engaging, well-narrated story.
[7:11] - Jesse enjoys starting a series from the beginning, like Bill O'Reilly's Killing series.
[9:39] - Next up on my list is The Tattooist of Auschwitz by Heather Morris.
[10:53] - Dear Bob and Sue recounts a couple's witty, sarcastic adventures visiting all U.S. national parks.
[13:23] - Jesse enthuses over Vince Flynn’s American Assassin, which starts a series completed by other authors after his death.
[14:11] - I mention the highly popular book Atomic Habits.
[16:42] - The next audiobook on my list is The Things We Cannot Say by Kelly Rimmer.
[17:18] - Pam Jenoff’s The Orphan’s Tale explores how Jews were hidden in circuses during World War II.
[17:50] - I also mention Georgia Hunter’s We Were the Lucky Ones, which tells the true story of a Jewish family's survival during World War II.
[18:52] - Madeleine Martin’s The Last Bookshop in London is a soothing story that encourages me to read some classic works.
[19:38] - Jesse and I both enjoyed The President Is Missing and The President's Daughter for their thrilling political insights and insider details.
[20:59] - Kristin Hannah’s The Great Alone vividly depicts the harsh, isolating life in Alaska.
[22:29] - I reflect on how Shelby Van Pelt’s Remarkably Bright Creatures, featuring an octopus was unexpectedly compelling.
[23:51] - Last year's "summer book club" led me to Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys, sparking my interest in Sepetys’ other historical fiction works.
[25:22] - The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek and The Book Woman’s Daughter by Kim Michele Richardson are also compelling.
[27:49] - For younger kids, I recommend the Little House on the Prairie series, great for both reading and listening!
Links & Resources
Crystal PaineLibby AppGoodreadsEveryday Reading: How to Get Free Out-Of-State Library CardsBooks
Before We Were Yours: A Novel by Lisa WingateThe Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society: A Novel by Mary Ann ShafferKilling Series by Bill O'ReillyThe Tattooist of Auschwitz by Heather MorrisDear Bob and Sue by Matt & Karen SmithMitch Rapp Series by Vince FlynnAtomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James ClearCode Name: Lise: The True Story of the Woman Who Became WWII’s Most Highly Decorated Spy by Larry LoftisInto the Lion’s Mouth: The True Story of Dusko Popov: World War II Spy, Patriot, and the Real-Life Inspiration for James Bond by Larry LoftisThe Things We Cannot Say by Kelly RimmerThe Orphan’s Tale: A Novel by Pam JenoffWe Were the Lucky Ones by Georgia HunterThe Last Bookshop in London by Madeline MartinThe President Is Missing by James Patterso

This week, join us as we share our goals for this summer! You might recall from our recent episodes our theme for the summer is a Slowed Down Summer.
Today, we're talking more about what we plan for that to look like and the specific goals I set for the summer to help me live out that theme. Some of these goals might seem -- at first -- a bit contradictory to the idea of slowing down, but I share more in this episode how these will help me walk out my hope for slowing down this summer.
I set a running goal -- which is something that is so cathartic to me! And a reading goal, which is also something that helps me to slow down. In this episode, I share about how I'm incorporating more reading into my day. I also set a reading goal for two chapter books I want to finish with the younger kids + some preschool I want to finish with them over the summer.
Finally, we are hoping to plan in lots of dates as a couple and dates with the older kids. I set specific numbers to shoot for, but it's mostly just able intentionally prioritizing time to be together and have fun together.
What are your goals and hopes for this summer? I'd love to hear!
In This Episode[0:35] - Our goals for a slowed-down summer!
[1:42] - A little update on savoring vs. surviving graduation week.
[7:45] - I recently finished reading Win at Work and Succeed at Life, which challenged me to rethink overworking and balance business with personal priorities.
[10:31] - My summer goals focus on working less and slowing down, with specific objectives to achieve this.
[11:11] - Goal #1: Run 100 miles and why it doesn't contradict slowing down.
[14:33] - Goal #2: finish 50 books!
[18:30] - Goal #3: finish reading Farmer Boy and Little House on the Prairie with the younger kids.
[19:44] - Goal #4: finish reading the Biggest Story Bible with the younger kids and Goal #5: go on eight dates with her older kids.
[21:21] - Goal #6: Goal on 15 dates with Jesse.
[22:25] - Prioritizing one-on-one dates with the older kids, embracing flexibility while aiming for monthly quality time together.
[24:59] - Jesse hopes to finally finish Three Felonies a Day this summer.
Links & Resources
Crystal Paine
Books
Win At Work And Succeed At Life: 5 Principles To Free Yourself From The Cult Of Overwork by Michael Hyatt & Megan Hyatt MillerFarmer Boy: Little House, Book 2 by Laura Ingalls WilderLittle House on the Prairie (book series) by Laura Ingalls WilderThe Biggest Story Bible Storybook | 104 Engaging Bible Stories for Ages 6–12 by Kevin DeYoung & Don ClarkThree Felonies A Day: How the Feds Target the Innocent by Harvey Silvergate and Alan M. DershowitzSocial Media
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)
Crystal Paine on Goodreads
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There are certain conversations and interviews that I know after having them, they will stick with me for a long time to come. This episode with Jessica Hurlbut, author of Unlimited Motherhood: Overcome 12 Limits That Overwhelm and Conflict Our Hearts, is one of those.
It touched and challenged me deeply... and it wasn't just the interview with her that you'll hear at the link below, but also our time before and after the interview. Jessica just oozes with kindness and grace and Jesus and her book and her life and this interview inspired me 
Jessica is mom of five and two of her children have severe autism and of her children were adopted through foster care. Jessica has a heart for families who have children with disabilities and a passion for foster care and adoption -- so we both have a lot of shared passion!
One of the most touching parts of our conversation (and of her book) was Jessica's transparency about her struggles and her candidness about walking through what she calls the "hidden years of motherhood". For her, these were years filled with isolation and relentless difficulties, especially when it came to having multiple little ones, fostering, and learning to navigate having two children with autism. But it was during these times that she learned invaluable lessons about surrender, trust, and finding beauty in the unexpected.
I can almost guarantee you that you'll be richly blessed by listening to this episode. Jessica's faith in the goodness of God -- despite the dark days of motherhood -- really convicted me! Jessica's insights and experiences will encourage you to lean into God's grace and trust Him even when things feel overwhelming. 
In This Episode[0:35] - Join me for this episode as I interview Jessica Hurlbut, author of Unlimited Motherhood!
[1:33] - Jessica's journey of mothering children with autism, fostering, and then adopting two young children.
[5:42] - What it was like to walk through eight isolating years as a stay-at-home mom to a child with autism.
[9:33] - I ask Jessica to share how she grieved the loss of what she pictured her life would be.
[11:58] - Our lives are almost always so much different than we envisioned, but also so much better.
[17:11] - What faithfulness looks like in our every day lives.
[18:07] - Motherhood isn't about controlling outcomes or being a supermom but is about learning deep trust in God.
[22:47] - Jessica shares a powerful story of living radically courageous, even when other people didn't understand. 
[26:39] - The story isn't tied up with a neat bow, but it's a reminder that God doesn't call us to success but to faithfulness.
Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBooksUnlimited Motherhood: Overcome 12 Limits That Overwhelm and Conflict Our Hearts by Jessica HurlbutSocial MediaCrystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)Crystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

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Recently, I mentioned something on Instagram about how having an adult child is wonderful and also there are new challenges as your kids get older and grow wings and fly. This resonated with so many people that I ended up turning my thoughts into an Instagram post.
And then it inspired us to expand further on it in this week's podcast episode. We're just a year into having an adult child, but we wanted to share what we learned so far -- especially as we get ready to graduate another senior from high school! 
In this episode, we talk about the ups and downs of watching our kids learn to navigate life on their own. We discuss things we are glad we did ahead of time and things we wish we had known.
It’s such a joy to see them succeed and grow, but it’s also tough to watch them struggle and face hardships that we can’t fix for them. We share some of our experiences, some of the hard lessons, and the surprising things we've learned along the way.
I hope this conversation encourages you, whether you’re about to launch your kids into adulthood, you already have launched them, or you’re right in the thick of parenting littles or tweens or teens. 
We also discuss my goal for a “slowed-down summer” and what I've proactively put into place to make that happen. We also answer a question we kept getting about Jesse's To Do app, talk about a book I finished recently, and share some lessons we've learned about communication in marriage (please laugh -- this was such a rabbit trail!). Plus, I share a freebie with you -- 100 Free or Low Cost Summer Bucket List Ideas!
In This Episode[0:35] - What we wish we knew before having an adult child, a topic inspired by an Instagram post.
[1:35] - Hear about the phrase I chose for this summer.
[3:52] - I recently read and loved Tired of Being Tired by Jess Connolly.
[6:02] - Jesse shares what he loves about the Appigo Todo app.
[8:50] - Challenges we've had in communication in our marriage and lessons we've learned.
[13:13] - Learning to let go as a parent of an adult child can be one of the hardest things.
[14:22] - The importance of letting kids handle challenges themselves when they are younger.
[17:53] - Plus, teaching kids to be more self-sufficient involves giving them tools to confront problems.
[20:01] - There is a time to say no and there is a time to express caution and let your child learn through experience.
[24:03] - I describe how starting my day with a walk and prayer helps me support and connect with each of my kids.
[26:18] - In closing, parenting older children is challenging but rewarding, reminding us to trust and rely on God.
Links & Resources
Crystal Paine
Free Summer Bucket List
Appigo Todo App
Books
Tired of Being Tired: Receive God’s Realistic Rest for Your Soul-Deep Exhaustion by Jess Connolly
Social Media
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)
Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)
Crystal Paine on Twitter
Crystal Paine on Goodreads
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