Unpack the Nuance Jasmine Lee

Dating in your 20s is some messy shit. It doesn’t matter whether you are casually dating or in a relationship, let alone while you are young and figuring out who you are. Val and Jasmine share their ups and downs and oh-so-many ambiguities in the dating scene: college relationships, unclear signals in casual dating, and fear of being single.





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How many people actually felt prepared for the real world after college? Lies. The 180 degree change is abrupt and jarring. Rarely discussed enough after college, Val and Jasmine share some of their key struggles: friendship, decision-making stress, and the idea of success.



SHOW NOTES



Pandemic disrupting college graduation | Val explains her lack of closure with moving away from her college friends. [1:44]



Friendship | Val shares her shift in friendships from during college to post college. [2:34]



Situational friends in college | Jasmine was so busy with college clubs and orgs that she did not prioritize enough time for building intentional friendships. [5:43]



Intentional friends after college | Jasmine found deeper friendships after college and have to put in more effort to staying in touch [10:10]



Staying in touch | Val struggles to stay in touch with friends and is learning to improve. [12:07]



Decision-making after college | Jasmine was overwhelmed with the amount of options to decide from after graduation in location, career, job, and housing.  [14:12]



Restriction after college | Val had less options to decide freely after graduating college in needing to finish remaining course units and help out her family home.[18:08]



Being honest with post-grad fear | Jasmine comments the importance in acknowledging your fear and uncertainty of the next step after graduating. [20:05]



Introspection on your future | Moving back home forced Val to face her fears, confront herself, and reflect on what type of person she wants to be and what type of life she wants to live.[21:13]



Idea of success after college | Jasmine struggled how to define her worth and measure success without college settings rewarding her levels of productivity anymore. [24:19]



Identity as “good student” | Val relates how she tied her identity and self-worth to earning accolades and had to readjust what her definition of success was after graduating. [27:04]



Facing your identity crisis | Jasmine reflects how confronting her identity crisis early on after college allowed her to clearly define her core value to progress forward the life she wants to live. [29:56]



People noticing your growth | Jasmine notes that people do notice your shift in energy, attitude, and behavior whether you realize it or not. [32:25]



Source of your positivity | Jasmine distinguishes between people who are that level of consciousness where they genuinely find light and joy in any situation and people who are performing positivity to avoid facing their deeper fears and realities. [33:20]





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Always curious to ask meaningful questions, Val and Jasmine share what drew their interests toward spiritual growth since childhood. They share their arc from their early roots to their journey in practicing forgiveness of self and others. 



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