Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder‪?‬ Molly Stillman | Speaker, Author, Loud Laugher

My guest this week is the amazing Becky Kiser. As a certified life coach, author, and host of the Hearers and Doers podcast, she has used her relatable approach and biblical insights to teach at women’s events, churches, conferences, prisons, and more for the last two decades.
In our conversation today, we dive into Becky’s new book, But God Can. This sets the stage for such an important conversation about embracing our vulnerabilities, understanding true freedom in Christ, and navigating life's ups and downs in faith.
I hope you’ll join us for a powerful reminder that, even in your deepest moments of self-doubt, God remains constant. 
3:39 – Becky 101
Mom of three girls in The Woodlands, Texas
Author of two books
Author, life coach, business consultant, and podcaster
Raised in a home with diverse religious influences
Helping women live full lives and find freedom through Jesus

9:10 – True Freedom In Christ
Freedom in Christ vs the world’s freedom
How self-help mantras fall short on their own
Relying on God’s strength and guidance

17:22 – What Is Truth?
Having people in our lives who can help decipher truth
Being consistent in God’s word
The truth is in us
Trusting God to redirect us and guide us back to His truth

26:51 – But God Can 
Navigating emotions in faith
Learning from Jesus’ example
Trusting in God through feelings of inadequacy and impostor syndrome
Connecting with Becky

FEATURED QUOTES
"We are not enough, but God completely is enough. God can do absolutely anything in our lives."
“A path to freedom is simply acknowledging that you can't and then opening your hands enough to see if God could and would and can.”
"The truth is that even in our pursuit of truth, it's going to be messy, but we have to pursue. We have to keep going. We have to attempt in faith, to trust the Spirit in us."

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Learn more about Becky:
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Order your copy of But God Can
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Molly’s Episode on the Hearers & Doers Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/h-d-20-molly-stillman-laughing-crying-and-farming/id1493950669?i=1000656245402
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https://www.instagram.com/beckykiser/
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

Wow! Can you believe it? Can I Laugh on Your Shoulder? has hit its 400th episode! If you had told me back in 2016 when this all started that we'd make it this far, I don’t know if I would’ve believed you. But here we are, and it feels incredibly special. I'm beyond grateful for each and every one of you who's supported the podcast over the years.
 
In celebration of this huge milestone, I’m going to take some time today to share some of my favorite memories and answer some listener questions that I’ve received over the years! From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being a part of this journey. Here’s to many more episodes filled with laughter, tears, and growth!
 
 
0:49 – Reflecting On 400 Episodes
 
8 years in podcasting THANK YOU! The highs and the lows of the last 8 years  
 
4:46 – “Why Did You Start This Podcast?”
 
Working in radio, blogging, and starting “Business with Purpose” Rebranding the podcast Creating a space for diverse conversations  
 
8:53 – “Most Memorable Moments + Favorite Guests?”
 
Turkeys interrupting a recording session Kevin Fredericks’ episode  
 
12:00 – “How Do You Prepare For Each Podcast?”
 
Booking and communicating with guests Reading books + light-to-moderate internet stalking Coming up with interview questions Recording sessions, graphics and more  
14:50 – “How Do You Remain Inspired Amidst Setbacks?”
 
Thinking of ways to keep the show fun The challenges of podcasting Molly’s “why”  
16:31 – “What’s One Piece Of Advice From A Guest You’ve Implemented?”
 
Ginny from 1,000 Hours Outside Being present in daily life Taking the summer off  
 
FEATURED QUOTES
 
“When I started this podcast eight years ago, if you'd told me that I would still be here, eight years later, and I will have published 400 episodes…I don't know that I would have believed you.”
 
"Podcasting is hard. I’ve done this every single week for nearly eight years. This is not something that you go into lightly."
 
“My why and my motivation for doing this is because of the stories that I hear from listeners when they share how a particular episode has impacted or inspired them or changed their lives.”
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

My guest this week is the incredible Stephanie Quayle. She's a Nashville recording artist, founder of the record label Big Sky Music Group, and has been recognized by Rolling Stone Country and CMT for her talent. With two Billboard charted singles, she's an independent artist who frequently performs at CMA Fest and the Grand Ole Opry.
I’m thrilled to have her on the show today to talk about her new book, Why Do We Stay? How My Toxic Relationship Can Help You Find Healing. It’s not only an incredibly powerful story but an excellent resource for spotting red flags and starting your journey toward healing. She’s here to share her story with us today, reflect on life post-toxic relationship, and share some of the steps she took to navigate the most difficult times of her life.
If you’ve ever experienced an unhealthy relationship or are supporting someone who is going through one, this conversation is so important. Stephanie has such an incredible story and was such a joy to talk to!
2:45 – Stephanie 101
Growing up on a farm in Montana Starting a record label in 2015 Performing at the Grand Ole Opry Becoming an author 4:14 – Digging Deeper Into Stephanie’s Story
Facing bullying and discovering a love for music Experiencing the underbelly of the industry in LA Losing partner in a plane crash and discovering infidelity shortly after Moving to Nashville, starting a label, and falling into another toxic relationship Confronting the past and writing a book to help others 20:22 – Reflections On Toxic Relationships
Staying in unhealthy relationships Forgiving toxic partners and yourself during the healing process Finding the unconditional love of Jesus 34:18 – Life After A Toxic Relationship
Seeking out professional support in the healing process Leaning on faith and God’s tools You are not the problem, but you are the solution You are enough on your own 42:03 – Stephanie’s Advice For Those In Toxic Relationships
Listening to your intuition Recognizing red flags Surrounding yourself with trusted people Considering the advice you would give to others FEATURED QUOTES
"We are not meant to do this on our own. God gives us tools. God gives us people. And we need to utilize those."
"You are not the problem, but you are your solution. And that only happens by us getting stronger."
“Until we fix ourselves, there's, there's really no way around it, there's no way of getting over it… The only way to get over it is by getting through it to get to the other side."
“No one is going to fix you. No one is going to complete you. You know, I think that sometimes when we think of equally yoked, we think of ourselves as only 50%. And that then our other 50% will be this person that comes in like saves our lives, right? Well, there's only one that does that. That's Jesus.”
 
Learn more about Stephanie:
Stephanie’s website
https://www.stephaniequayle.com/home
Get your copy of Why Do We Stay?
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Do-We-Stay-Relationship/dp/140024451X
Stephanie on Facebook:
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This week's guest is Ally Fallon, an award-winning author, ghostwriter, and expert book coach who has helped countless individuals find their voice and share their stories through her community Find Your Voice.
 
Her new book, Write Your Story: A Simple Framework to Understand Yourself, Your Story, and Your Purpose in the World is incredibly powerful, and a testament to her belief that everyone has a story worth telling.
 
I’m thrilled to have her on the show today to share insights on why writing can be such a powerful tool for personal growth and healing. If you’ve ever thought about writing a book, starting a blog, or even starting to journal, this conversation is sure to inspire you to pick up that pen and start writing!
2:32 – Ally 101
Passion for books and writing at a young age Becoming a teacher Finding a niche in coaching aspiring writers 6:33 – The Transformative Power Of Storytelling
The desire to write should be pursued Seeing life through the lens of storytelling Gaining new perspectives and finding empowerment 11:09 – The Science Behind Writing
The physical and emotional benefits of writing Developing your writing skills through consistent practice Anyone can write! 19:32 – The Keys Elements To A Good Story
Recognizing oneself as the hero Embracing problems as a pathway to growth Transformation as the heart of the story Self-reflection and honesty in storytelling 37:01 – The Path To Healing
Spiritual growth through storytelling Authentic change and growth cannot be rushed or forced Connecting with Ally FEATURED QUOTES
“Writing your story will connect you to yourself and your own intuition. It connects you to the people around you, especially your family members and the people who are immediately related to you. And it also connects you to the broader world at large.”
“Problems are the lighter fluid on the fire of stories. Without problems, there's no story.”
“Consistently the people who come to the Write Your Story workshops, who pick up this book, who come to me asking for help with a book 100% of the time, these are people who are hungry for spiritual growth. And they're like, ‘I don't care what it takes. I don't care how uncomfortable it is. I want this for myself.’ And I hope that the book can help them to achieve that.”
 
Learn more about Ally:
https://writeyourstory.com/
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

My guest this week is Terry Crist. He is the co-lead pastor of City of Grace in Phoenix, alongside his wife, Judith. As a fifth-generation pastor, Terry is dedicated to community transformation and advocates for adoption and foster care through his involvement in state government. 
Outside of his pastoral duties, he's a passionate outdoorsman, a skilled communicator, and has shared the gospel in 65 countries. Terry and Judith have three married sons and three grandkids, and their family is dedicated to spreading the good news of Jesus.
Terry’s new book, Loving Samaritans: Radical Kindness In An Us VS. Them World, explores the transformative power of radical kindness. I am so excited to dig into the meat of his book with him today and talk about how even the smallest acts of kindness can pave the way for deeper connections and understanding. 
I know you’re going to love this one!
2:43 – Terry 101
Raised as a church kid
Falling in love with ministry
Planting 3 churches

6:38 – Faith In The Everyday World 
Why Terry felt called to write this book
The significant polarization and division in today's world
Feeling a call to live more intentionally on mission

13:02 – The Woman At The Well
The significance of this story
Jesus’ radical inclusivity
Jesus' reconciliation and healing
What is truth?
26:30 – Living On Mission Anywhere
Jesus became a neighborhood kid
The distinction between hospitality and fellowship
Being hospitable to people outside the church
Jesus’ model of loving people
38:15 – Walking In Love
Looking for traces of grace every day
Walking through the day with eyes open
Identifying everyone we meet as a neighbor
Understanding God’s love in order to love others well

FEATURED QUOTES
“I think all people have some fundamental things in common. We all want the best for ourselves and our family, we all want to be seen, we want to be heard, we want to be loved, we want to be valued, we want to be known.”
“All people are worthy of being heard. All people are worthy of hearing the truth without insult, and all people are worthy of unconditional love. Even if they don't accept our gospel, we can and should still give them our love, in the hopes that they do receive our gospel.”
“We don't need to assume that we don't have strangers around us, because we do, even in the smallest of towns. Hospitality is really opening our doors to them, just as Jesus did to us.”
“Loving people unconditionally, with strength, faithfully, enduringly, blessing our enemies, being compassionate to those who are in need, welcoming strangers- these are the practices of the gospel.”
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Learn more about Terry:
https://www.terrycrist.com/
Get your copy of Loving Samaritans
https://www.zondervan.com/p/loving-samaritans/
Terry on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/terrycrist
Terry on X
https://x.com/terrycrist
City of Grace Church
https://www.cityofgrace.com/
The Chosen Woman At The Well Scene
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ordhsDeAt60
 
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
 
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission i

Julie and Chris Bennett have spent the majority of their 23 years of marriage working in vocational ministry. Through overwhelming challenges- a cancer diagnosis, a relapse, and a pandemic- they have learned how to fight for the things that matter and devote themselves to helping others do the same.
Today, they are the founders of Welcome Home Lifestyle which exists to create and promote content that celebrates all things family. Their new book Fighting For Family: The Relentless Pursuit of Building Belonging, was just released in March and is all about embracing togetherness in a time when so many suffer from loneliness.
I’m so excited to dive into the heart of their new book with you and talk about how vulnerability, intentionality, and grace play pivotal roles in nurturing healthy relationships, whether with family, chosen family, or friends.
2:50 – Chris and Julie 101
Met at 19 and married at 21 Working in ministry in Oklahoma A calling to move their family to LA Julie’s stage 3 breast cancer diagnosis Challenges after the move + writing a book 7:34 – Guided By Faith
 
Life is not linear Trusting God's plan and remembering His track record Inviting children into the journey and allowing space for emotions Relying on His guidance 16:57 – Cultivating a Healthy Family Culture
Chasing after a healthy family instead of a perfect family The greenhouse effect at home Modeling vulnerability and self-awareness as parents Remembering God’s faithfulness 28:37 – Building Belonging
The 3 commitments for healthy relationships Creating space for understanding, vulnerability, and belonging Being intentional about building relationships Connecting with Chris and Julie FEATURED QUOTES
 
“We find out what we really believe about God, not when we get answers- it's when we're tested.”
 
“The idea of a greenhouse is that no matter what is happening externally- if it's scorching heat, if it's freezing cold, if it's raining- inside that greenhouse is a culture that things can grow year-round. And so we know that our kids are being exposed to all types of things. The world we're living in is very difficult for our kids… so we've tried to create this greenhouse effect at home.”
“Remembering what God did yesterday is what gives us faith for tomorrow.”
“Belonging is not something that you find, it’s something that you bring… people are able to do that and bring belonging when we give space for not having it all together and being messy.”
Learn more about Chris and Julie:
Fighting for Family
https://www.fightingforfamily.org/
Get your copy of Fighting For Family
https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Family-Relentless-Building-Belonging/dp/0785293191?maas=maas_adg_980D35D24FEFF4EC892FEA9B34155B43_afap_abs&ref_=aa_maas&tag=maas
Julie on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/juliebennett_/
Chris on Instagram
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Chris and Julie on Facebook
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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be t