From Hostage To Hero Sari de la Motte

I know your life is a battlefield.
As a trial attorney, you're living in a CONSTANT fight-or-flight mode, and your nervous system is paying the price.
THIS IS WHY YOU ALWAYS FEEL SO FUCKING TIRED.
So, I’m here to teach you short-term and long-term strategies to reclaim your focus, and find your inner calm amidst the chaos.
Listen up, take notes, and start implementing these strategies today.
 
Xo,
Sari
 
Check out other episodes about mindset work:
FHTH Encore Episode – How to Manage Your Brain
FHTH Episode #165 – 7 Indisputable Signs You’re a Great Trial Lawyer (Even if You Don’t Feel Like It)
FHTH Episode #138 – Three Mindset Shifts You Have to Make Around Time
 
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"Taking meticulous good care of yourself, eating nutritious food, drinking lots of water, getting a lot of rest—these are not things that you should hope that you do one day. These are ESSENTIAL for being a trial lawyer. The more you push yourself, the more you get less sleep, eat crap food, don't drink your water, and subsist on coffee, the more you're going to be in your fight or flight response because that is a biological reality. So taking excellent care of yourself will also help you reduce that fight or flight response, put your parasympathetic nervous system online, and give you more access to that prefrontal cortex."
 
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here: 
sariswears.com/jury 
 
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WHY. THE. HELL. DO. YOU. AVOID. VACATIONS?!? 
Here’s the deal—
Vacations are not a LUXURY.
They are a NECESSITY.

Treat yourself because your job is fucking HARD, and for you to be at your best and continue serving your clients, you need to fill your own cup first.
Not to mention— burnout SUCKS, and your prefrontal cortex needs a break, damn it! 
Xo,
Sari
P.S. Don’t forget to download my podcasts to listen to on the plane so you are not bored traveling to your dream vacYAY. 😎
 
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“Vacation is important, because it's taking that very important time for self-care. You are what matters in trial. First and foremost, you are the person who is going to evoke emotion in jurors, you are the one that is going to set the tone at trial, you are the one that's going to nail the defense to the wall. You are the one that is going to be up crazy ass hours at trial, you are the one that has to deal with the crazy opposing counsel and all the discovery and weird ass clients and all the rest of it. If there was anybody that needed to take a vacation and many vacations, it's y'all, so the self-care aspect is huge and helpful in keeping you at your prime.”
 
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THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here: sariswears.com/jury 
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
Facebook:
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🥁🥁🥁 Drumroll please! 🥁🥁🥁
WE HAVE A GUEST SPEAKER: ROY CHANG.
In this episode, he's sharing insights from an article he wrote about the Heliotropic Effect that aligns perfectly with our H2H method and philosophy.
And he explains that as trial attorneys, this concept is something you simply CANNOT afford to ignore.
Don’t miss out — this episode is what will BREAK YOU FREE from your law school brain and it is exactly what you need to flip the courtroom dynamics completely.
Tune in now.
Xo,
Sari
 
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"We were programmed to think, 'Well, jurors are against us. They're for the bad side.' We go with that. Our whole jury selection is based on, 'Pick out the bad guys. Find the bad guys, kick them out.' Never did I think about, 'Well, is that really true?' Jurors that I've talked to, a lot of times, they're just like us. They're no different than us. So why can't we communicate in that realm that they're not bad guys? We just need to communicate with them."
 
 
* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here: 
sariswears.com/jury 
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
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https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
Facebook:
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Watch on Youtube:
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Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
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Contrast is the fucking star of the show today ⭐
Picture this: we're painting a badass masterpiece.
Each stroke of contrast SHARPENS the narrative, adding depth and impact.
Think about how you can leverage contrast to ELEVATE your narrative to motivate the jury to take ACTION. 
Trust me, it's a game-changer. Tune into the episode now to dive in deeper.
Xo,
Sari
 
Quote:
“But the point is that the contrast is clarifying. It isn't messy. When you have contrast, it strengthens your argument. There's black and there's white, that's why the DVAQ, the Devil's Advocate. Don't do it in your regular voice, it has to be a contrast. There's another place, it has to be a contrast between your regular voice and your, "Yeah, but can you just say you're sorry" voice. It has to be different.”
* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here: 
sariswears.com/jury 
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
 

Let's talk about a courtroom taboo: crying.
IS IT -REALLY- OK TO CRY IN COURT?
Spoiler alert: Mama Sari is giving you the green light.
Because here's the thing: showing emotion isn't a sign of weakness — it's a sign of authenticity, passion, and unwavering dedication to your client.
So, next time you feel that lump in your throat, embrace that shit.
Tune in now.
Xo,
Sari
 
Quote:
"If emotions are contagious, my question to you is: why are you not using that opportunity to set the stage, and to set the tone of what happened? It's not facts that make people mad or sad or any of the other things. It's tone of voice, it's word choice, which is nonverbal. It's body language. We have to do these things so that the jury does feel an emotion, and that will then motivate them to act. Remember that your job is hard because you have to motivate the jury to do something when the easiest thing is to leave things as they are."
 
* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
Get the training here: 
sariswears.com/jury 
 
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
 

Holy fucking shit! IT’S MY 250TH EPISODE! 🥳
It is because of YOU that we have made it this far.
So, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.
Tune in to find out the 4 beliefs hindering your potential as a trial attorney.
Xo,
Sari
 
Quote:
"That's what I mean, is that there's a belief that it has to be hard. You read and reread all of the documents, due to your fear of missing something and missing out on something. You're overprepping. You are doing things yourself that you can be delegating. That's what I mean by you are making it hard or you think it has to be hard. You don't trust it when it's easy. What I'm here to say is, using the podcast as an example, it doesn't have to be hard to get great results."
 
* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
 
Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
 
Get the training here: 
sariswears.com/jury 
Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/