Over It And On With It Christine Hassler

In this 2017 re-air, we delve into dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and compensatory strategies. Melissa shares her struggles with her in-laws' criticism and lack of support, revealing the challenge of maintaining her self-worth and confidence.
Summary
Melissa moved away from her family and friends to be with her husband. Over time, her in-laws' criticism and lack of support have worn her down. They accuse her of controlling her husband and ruining his life, leading her to question her decisions and struggle with asserting herself. Christine helps Melissa explore her compensatory strategy of people-pleasing and the deeper issues stemming from her past that contribute to her difficulties.
Consider/Ask Yourself
Are there difficult people in your life who hurt you, yet you seek their approval? Do you struggle to set boundaries and stand up for yourself? Are you a caretaker who prioritizes others' happiness over your own? Guest Insights
Melissa moved to be with her husband and now regrets leaving her support system. Her in-laws criticize her, causing her to doubt herself and feel unconfident. After seeing how deeply it affects her, her husband has started to stand up for her. Melissa has a history of being a caretaker and seeks approval from others. Aha Moments
Melissa realizes her lack of confidence stems from trying to fit in and please others. Christine highlights that her in-laws' behavior mirrors Melissa's self-doubt. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm in truth. How to Get Over It and On With It
Acknowledge your emotions and release pent-up feelings through writing or physical activity. Limit time with unsupportive people and seek out supportive friends. Practice assertive communication by setting clear, respectful boundaries. Focus on self-acceptance and authenticity rather than trying to fit in or please others. Resources
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In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Alexa, who has struggled with body image, self-esteem, and her relationship with food her entire life. Alexa shares her journey from childhood, where she was surrounded by family members who perpetuated negative body images, to her recent progress post-divorce. Christine helps Alexa uncover the underlying emotional causes of her issues, focusing on unexpressed anger and rage towards her parents and ex-husband. Through the session, Christine guides Alexa to recognize and release these pent-up emotions to transform her relationship with her body and herself.
Consider/Ask Yourself
Do you struggle with body image and self-esteem issues? Have you experienced negative influences from family or significant others regarding your body? Do you find yourself turning to food for comfort or as an enemy? Are there unexpressed emotions, particularly anger, that might affect your well-being? Guest Insights
Alexa’s body image issues stem from childhood influences and family dynamics. Her negative relationship with food is tied to emotional comfort and self-punishment. Unexpressed anger towards her parents and ex-husband has been internalized, affecting her body and self-esteem. Recognizing and expressing her anger is crucial for her healing process. Aha Moments
Alexa realizes that her negative self-talk and body hatred are survival strategies she adopted from her environment. Understanding that unexpressed emotions, especially anger, can manifest physically, contributing to weight issues. The importance of finding her voice and expressing her true feelings is to release emotional baggage and transform her relationship with her body. How to Get Over It and On With It
Express Your Anger: Allow yourself to feel and express your anger healthily. This could be through journaling, therapy, or physical activities. Compassion for Yourself: Shift the narrative from self-loathing to self-compassion. Understand that you did the best you could to survive. Inner Child Work: Connect with your inner child and provide the love and support that were missing during your upbringing. Find Your Fierceness: Embrace your anger and fierceness as power sources to make transformative changes. Sponsors
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In this interview we talk about our memories. What and how we remember and how we can improve our memory. Dr. Ranganath is one of the world’s top memory researchers. He is a Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at UC Davis, where he leads their Dynamic Memory Lab. His book WHY WE REMEMBER radically reframes the way we think about the everyday act of remembering and reveals the role memory plays in every aspect of our lives, from recalling faces and names to learning, decision-making, trauma and healing.

In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Did you have a parent that was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you? Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space? Do you know that healing starts within, but you’re unsure how to begin? Guest Insights:
Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her. Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older. Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much is pushing her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son. Aha Moments:
Mirror Effect: Children reflect their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized. Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son. Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his own terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping. How to Get Over It:
Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions. Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences. Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one. Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing.  
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If you are considering becoming an entrepreneur or want to take your business to the next level, don't miss this episode. Between AI, new technology, inflation, the economy, and all the crazy stuff in the outside world… it’s clear the rules of success have changed drastically from even just last year. And this has created a massive opportunity to accelerate ahead or fall way behind.
 
Jill Esplin, who has worked with me for nearly 15 years, and I talk about what we are noticing in the industry and how to overcome inner and outer roadblocks. We also discuss how the game has changed and invite you to join us at a free event June 13--15 hosted by Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi: www.christinehassler.com/game