94 episodes

Ballroom dancers love working on their dancing skills and technique! But if dancers neglect to train their mind, it can sabotage them when it counts most.

I'm Amber Haider and I'm a Life and Mental Strength Coach for amateur ballroom dancers. If you want to take your dancing further, faster, with less anxiety and more fun, stick around. It's time to make that beautiful brain your most powerful asset. We talk about dance AND life, providing tools to uplevel all areas of your life, not just your dancing!

Visit www.amberhaider.com for more information and for contact details

Ballroom State of Mind Amber Haider

    • Education

Ballroom dancers love working on their dancing skills and technique! But if dancers neglect to train their mind, it can sabotage them when it counts most.

I'm Amber Haider and I'm a Life and Mental Strength Coach for amateur ballroom dancers. If you want to take your dancing further, faster, with less anxiety and more fun, stick around. It's time to make that beautiful brain your most powerful asset. We talk about dance AND life, providing tools to uplevel all areas of your life, not just your dancing!

Visit www.amberhaider.com for more information and for contact details

    94. Life Skills: The 50/50

    94. Life Skills: The 50/50

    While we all know that life is sometimes not fair and we will all face a certain amount of struggle and negativity, we will act confused when we actually go through it. We say things like, "Why is this happening to me? What is going on? What is going wrong?"

    The reality is that life is what I call, 50/50. It's good and bad, hard and easy, fun and not fun, etc. Everything has it's opposite and duality is a fact of life. When we resist what is and think that the negative things shouldn't happen, we actually increase the percentage of negativity that we experience.

    Your are actually the one giving meaning to your experiences and deeming them negative or positive in the first place. If we can learn that hard things are a part of life, and not resist them, the power they have over us decreases. If can then take it a step further and even embrace the hard things that happen and learn from them, believing that everything that happens in our life is for our good, we actually can increase the positive percent.

    The 50/50 is what makes life what it is. It's what makes us human. My recommendation is that you embrace it instead of fight it. In this episode I give an example from my most recent competition to illustrate the 50/50.

    To get personalized help, book a ⁠⁠free ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    • 23 min
    93. Contingency Plans

    93. Contingency Plans

    In episode 92 we imagined situations going perfectly in order to get solid, confidence building mental reps. No mistakes allowed!

    But we all know mistakes and unexpected things can happen, and it's it best to prepare for them?

    The answer is yes.

    There is a time and place for perfect reps and there is a time and place for contingency plans. In this episode, I give guidance on how to do this constructively rather than catastrophize and hope for the best.

    We incorporate the power of visualization into this as well to further strengthen our ability to carry it out in the moment.

    You'll feel more confident than ever that you can handle whatever might come up. This means that we don't need to enter performances with so much fear of the unknown. We can rely more on ourselves and trust our ability to come through on the other side, proud of what we accomplish.

     

    Many of the tips in this episode are based on guidance in the book The Confident Mind by Nate Zinsser found ⁠HERE⁠



    To get personalized help, book a ⁠⁠⁠free ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠



    For more free mindset help, join my Facebook group, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠

    • 22 min
    92. Mental Rehearsal

    92. Mental Rehearsal

    Some people call it mental rehearsal, some visualization and others envisioning. Whatever you call it, high performers know it is a powerful tool to increase your level of preparation and even your skills.

    Since the brain doesn't distinguish between someone happening in real life or if it's imagined, it's your chance to program your mind and body for what you want to execute. In this episode, we talk about what it is but also tips on how to make it more powerful. Then I give an example of what it might look like.

    The main tips shared are the following:

    1. You are in complete control--the director, nothing happens unless you approve it.

    2. Make it positive--everything will go well and as planned.

    3. Take your time--use pauses to fill in more details to make it more real.

    4. Include all your senses-see, hear, smell, touch, taste

    5. Include genuine emotion--rehearse your emotions like any other sense.

    6. Use the first person or internal perspective--look out your own eyes rather than watching yourself from a distance.





    Many of the tips in this episode are based on guidance in the book The Confident Mind by Nate Zinsser found HERE

    To get personalized help, book a ⁠⁠free ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    For more free mindset help, join my Facebook group, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠

    • 31 min
    91. Politics

    91. Politics

    Good grief! Politics in dance! Is there anything in this world that doesn't involve some type of politics?

    This episode was prompted by a comment on social media where a dancer was lamenting that they could not be successful because of the politics in dance. What a powerless place to be, right?

    The short answer is to let it go and focus on the things that you can control. But many of us need a little more help letting it go. So in this episode, we bring up some points that will help you come to terms with it and focus on what will really help you...be so freaking good that no one can deny your dominance!

    To get personalized help, book a ⁠⁠free ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    For more free mindset help, join my Facebook group, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠

    • 22 min
    90. Word Switches

    90. Word Switches

    Words are powerful. The way you use them can determine how you feel and the energy with with you operate in the world.

    As one example, when your brain offers you a lot of thoughts that start with, "what if..." it leads to feelings of uncertainty, doubt, defensiveness, etc. But if you switch "what if" with "even if" then something shifts. Even if...then I can...(or I will..., or I know...).

    "Even if..." is more empowering and leads to us thinking of a contingency plan.

    Thinking..."I can't..." could be replaced with "What if I could..." or "I am getting better at..." or "I am working on...."

    What wording could you switch out to generate more feelings of confidence, calm, strategy, self trust, etc?



    To get personalized help, book a ⁠free ⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    This week, my Facebook group, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠ hit 1000 members! We are celebrating with a giveaway. You should join!

    • 18 min
    89. Holding Yourself Back

    89. Holding Yourself Back

    In this episode, we visit some of the ways we hold ourselves back. The primary reason for that is ultimately our brain trying to keep us safe so we can survive the best we can. To do that, we need to avoid pain...even emotional pain. Most of what we try to accomplish today is going to probably lead to some pain, so don't be surprised that you're holding back in those instances.

    To overcome this, consider that the worst thing that can happen is a feeling. So what if we could just get better at tolerating uncomfortable emotions? Then maybe we wouldn't have to fear or avoid them.

    In order to put ourselves out there, we have to be willing to feel uncomfortable stuff. And to do that, I think we need a healthy dose of courage. In the last half of the episode we talk about how to get courage and then 7 steps for getting past holding yourself back!

    Book mentioned in the podcast: The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks.

    This week, my facebook group, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠ hit 1000 members! We are celebrating with a giveaway. You should join!  

    To get personalized help, book a free Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    • 33 min

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