Small Girl, Big Talk

Wendy Vaz
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Welcome to Small Girl, Big Talk – where real conversations meet personal growth. Hosted by Wendy Vaz, this podcast dives into life’s challenges, from overcoming imposter syndrome to navigating relationships, self-care, and creative entrepreneurship. With solo episodes, guest interviews, and mini-series like Wedding Diaries, every conversation feels like a heart-to-heart with a friend. Whether you're on the go or unwinding, join us to embrace your journey and thrive. Music by massobeats: https://soundcloud.com/beatsbymasso

  1. 50 MIN AGO

    72. Why 'Just Start' Advice Doesn't Work for Women in Their 30s and 40s

    If the advice to “just start” actually worked… we all would’ve done something by now, right? In this episode, we’re talking about why so many women in their 30s and 40s feel stuck, and why it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or scared. We talk about the different types of stuck-ness and why change feels heavier when you’re older compared to your 20s. I also share about the 4 pillars that helped me move forward, and why I believe it’ll help you move forward too. If you’ve been feeling behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself, you have to watch this now. 🌼 Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching with me now: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ TIMESTAMP: 0:00 intro – you’re not lazy or scared, you’re just stuck 0:58 the three types of feeling stuck 1:05 “i don’t know what i want” 1:49 “i know what i want but i can’t move” 2:39 “i want too many things at once” 4:10 changing in your 20s vs your 30s 5:01 why the stakes feel higher now 6:21 invisible responsibilities women carry 7:30 the evidence you’ve collected that says you’re not enough 8:27 4 pillars to break out of feeling stuck 9:40 mind: shifting mindset & building mental resilience 10:40 body: nervous system safety before action 11:32 systems: small sustainable steps that actually work 13:06 community: why you can’t do this alone 14:11 reflection homework for next week 16:20 outro + working together If you liked this video, you might also enjoy: When Did Wanting More in Life Start Feeling Wrong? | Life in Your 30s - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4UPCJhCJNKsSPlGFVtlp60?si=fe98b407e58b412bImposter Syndrome Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals | It's Not Mindset—It’s Your Nervous System - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dZd61OuVLwsKG7ldeKdcp?si=7a11e013d7a64cfdDeclutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42Follow for more:🎬 Follow me on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@WendyVaz/🌻 Subscribe to my newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Follow me on IG & TikTok: @wendyvazzy For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com

    18 min

  2. 6 DAYS AGO

    71. When Did Wanting More in Life Start Feeling Wrong? | Life in Your 30s

    Lately, I’ve been thinking about how the desire to grow, change, or dream bigger somehow gets heavier as we get older — especially in our 30s. The expectations, the timelines, the pressure to “have it all figured out”… it can make you feel selfish or unrealistic for wanting something different at this age. In this episode, we talk about why life doesn’t move in a straight line, how everyone’s timeline looks different, and why it’s actually okay to want more no matter where you’re at right now. I share real-life reflections, the fear of taking risks, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt. Consider this episode your permission slip to want more in life, and to put your own needs first 🧡 🌼 Book a 1-on-1 Call with me now: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ TIMESTAMP: 0:00 intro – when did wanting more start feeling wrong 1:23 why wanting more gets harder as we get older 1:32 expectations of life in your 30s 2:53 appreciating life but feeling pressure to achieve 4:39 life isn’t linear (and that’s okay) 5:17 real life examples of different timelines 7:31 it’s never too late to change direction 8:37 playing it safe vs taking the risk 9:06 feeling selfish for choosing yourself 11:27 seasons of giving vs receiving 12:35 it’s okay to want more in life 14:05 dreaming big but responsibly 15:35 your permission slip to want more 17:16 outro If you liked this video, you might also enjoy: Imposter Syndrome Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals | It's Not Mindset—It’s Your Nervous System -https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dZd61OuVLwsKG7ldeKdcp?si=7a11e013d7a64cfd Declutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42Follow for more:🎬 Follow me on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@WendyVaz/🌻 Subscribe to my newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Follow me on IG & TikTok: @wendyvazzy For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com

    18 min

  3. 27 JAN

    70. do it slow, do it imperfect, showing up on low energy days

    Hello friends! The past couple weeks had been awful for me health-wise, but I’m glad to be back just to catch up with you! In this short, casual chat, I’m easing back into connecting with you and sharing what this slower season of life has been teaching me. We talk about why there’s never a perfect time to show up, how I’m learning to embrace low energy days (specifically around my menstrual cycle), and why slow progress is still real progress. I share some personal life updates, how I’m finding myself again lately, and even the little things like decluttering and fresh flowers that really reminded me of the fragility of life. Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that you don’t have to feel ready, motivated, or perfect to start showing up for yourself. Sometimes growth looks like moving slowly, resting intentionally, and doing things imperfectly anyway. 🌼 Book a 1-on-1 Call with me now: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ TIMESTAMP: 0:00 — intro: easing back into showing up 0:42 — there’s never a perfect time to start 1:23 — low energy days & active rest (menstrual phase chat) 2:55 — slow is smooth, smooth is fast (trusting the process) 3:27 — podcast updates for this new season 4:55 — finding myself again lately 6:13 — decluttering for a fresh start 7:14 — why fresh flowers make me feel grounded 8:32 — the real message: show up even when you don’t feel like it 9:49 — embracing low energy as an extrovert 10:37 — outro If you liked this video, you might also enjoy: • Declutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738 • Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42 Follow for more:🎬 Follow me on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@WendyVaz/🌻 Subscribe to my newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Follow me on IG & TikTok: @wendyvazzy For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com #progressnotperfect #imperfectaction #slowliving #intentionalgrowth

    11 min

  4. 04/12/2025

    69: Imposter Syndrome is Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals (It’s More Than a Mindset Problem — It’s Your Nervous System)

    Book a 1-on-1 Call with me now: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ If you’ve been feeling stuck, unqualified, or like you’re “not ready yet,” this episode is for you. I’ve been coaching and talking about imposter syndrome a lot lately—not just the classic mindset stuff, but how deeply it’s connected to your nervous system, your sense of safety, and the way you trust yourself. Most of us try to fix imposter syndrome by learning more, improving more, or looking outward for validation… but the real work starts inside your body. In this episode, I’m breaking down how self-doubt shows up in your nervous system, why your brain keeps looping insecurity, and how you can slowly rebuild that inner trust again. I also share practical tools like somatic slowing-down practices, journaling prompts, and what helped me personally as an entrepreneur who didn’t feel “ready” or “qualified” for most of the things I do today. We’ll talk about: Why imposter syndrome is a nervous system issue, not just a mindset issueHow to calm your body so you can make decisions from clarityWhat self-trust actually looks like in real lifeA few honest updates about my podcast, my business, and why I’m not doing weekly episodes anymoreIf you’re someone who’s always doubting yourself, waiting to feel “ready,” or struggling to own your work… I hope this episode helps you take one step closer to trusting your voice. If you liked this video, you might also enjoy: • Beyond Imposter Syndrome - Finding Your Identity & Building Confidence - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bAL3Qi5GZEgQpNWkZe6SS?si=6b8ca6c02b3d4d5b • imposter syndrome: how to stop feeling like a fraud and be confident - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0j7m71XIuJsShFPwsmufjL?si=da70215e162948d4 • Stop Living on Autopilot: Your Wake-Up Call - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1S437CxFCiiZbfGYofrUOm?si=c8891d86569e460f • Declutter Your Life: Reset Your Space, Mind, and Goals - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2iZFhIRpzwdM8649mk1Sgw?si=a96a4a4bb17b4738 • Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3acxsda6ddvygx89eAyIbp?si=6bac058822694c42 Follow for more:🎬 Follow me on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@WendyVaz/🌻 Subscribe to my newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Follow me on IG & TikTok: @wendyvazzy For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com #impostersyndrome #nervoussystemregulation #selftrust #mindsetshift

    23 min

  5. 24/10/2025

    68. Are Comedians Actually Depressed? Death, Grief, and Comedy ft. Kuah Jenhan

    Are comedians really just depressed people hiding behind humour? I sat down with Malaysian comedian Kuah Jenhan to talk about the real side of comedy: dealing with grief, performing days after losing his dad, and why death is actually hilarious. This conversation went deeper than expected. We talked about his 20-year journey in Malaysian standup, how social media is changing comedy, and his show about his late father that he rewrote after almost a decade. If you've ever wondered what comedians are really like off stage, or why the funniest people seem to carry the heaviest stories - this one's for you. 🎭 ABOUT KUAH JENHAN:Kuah Jenhan is a Malaysian stand-up comedian with nearly 20 years in the scene. He's known for his narrative-driven comedy style, sharp storytelling, and his ability to make heavy topics like death genuinely entertaining. Recently grew his social media following from 5K to 18.6K in 1.5 years. 📍 Catch his show "Like This, Like Dad": Penang: November 8, 2025KL: November 14-15, 2025London: November 27, 2025🎟️ Get tickets: http://kuahjenhan.com/tickets📱 Follow Jenhan: https://www.instagram.com/kuahjenhan/ 📌 TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - intro 1:00 - meet Kuah Jenhan: 20 years in Malaysian comedy 4:10 - social media changed comedy forever (crowd work era) 6:38 - “That Show” with Ming Yue 9:20 - are comedians actually depressed? 11:11 - comedians and mental health: breaking the stereotype 13:10 - writing a show about his late father (15 years later) 15:40 - rewriting "Like This, Like Dad" after a 9-year gap 20:07 - why death is actually funny (mourners and crematoriums) 22:36 - Wendy thought she'd die in her 20s (living with no plan) 25:06 - what "Like This, Like Dad" is really about 25:57 - how has death and grieving changed Jenhan’s view about life 29:41 - Jenhan’s thought process in crafting "Like This, Like Dad" 31:38 - performing days after his dad passed away 33:33 - comedy as a form of art 35:01 - the struggle with social media as a comedian 36:34 - going from 5K to 18.6K followers in 1.5 years 40:20 - social media as a new art form to master 46:28 - personality on stage and off stage 47:45 - upcoming shows: Penang, KL, London 49:23 - final message: go watch live comedy shows in Malaysia 🎙️ ABOUT SMALL GIRL BIG TALK:Small Girl, Big Talk is where real conversations meet personal growth. Hosted by Wendy Vaz, this podcast explores the highs and lows of adulthood—from overcoming imposter syndrome to balancing relationships, self-care, and big life changes like weddings and entrepreneurship. Through solo reflections and guest interviews, Wendy offers heartfelt insights and practical advice to help you thrive. Subscribe for more authentic conversations that make you think and feel. FOLLOW ME FOR MORE:🌻 My Newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Wendy's Instagram - https://instagram.com/wendyvazzy💛 Wendy's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyvazzy🧡 SGBT Instagram - https://instagram.com/smallgirlbigtalk For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com #KuahJenhan #MalaysianComedian #StandUpComedy #PodcastInterview

    53 min

  6. 21/10/2025

    67. The Year Everything Shifted (Wedding, Career, Moving)

    Sitting in my empty apartment before moving, thinking about all the change this year brought. Some I planned (getting married, quitting my job), some I didn't (moving to a new home). Here's what I'm learning about trusting the process when life doesn't go according to plan.Everything changed this year, and I'm finally ready to talk about it.This video is a real, unfiltered conversation about navigating major life transitions in your late 20s and early 30s. If you're going through your own season of change - whether it's a career shift, relationship transition, or just feeling like everything is happening all at once - this one's for you.🌼 TIMESTAMP0:00 - why I'm sitting in an empty room talking about change0:39 - last day in my old home (empty apartment tour)1:21 - expected vs unexpected change (and why both matter)3:05 - sitting with discomfort when life feels uncertain4:15 - lucky girl syndrome and trusting the universe5:01 - being proactive vs reactive in seasons of change5:41 - if you ask for growth, don't cry when it arrives6:22 - learning to let go and ask for help7:14 - what it means to be a "true villager"8:05 - marriage taught me: you don't have to do everything alone8:39 - why I'm glowing through all this change10:00 - come along on this new chapter with meFOLLOW ME FOR MORE:🌻 My Newsletter - https://wendyvaz.substack.com/🌼 Wendy's Instagram - https://instagram.com/wendyvazzy💛 Wendy's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyvazzy🧡 SGBT Instagram - @smallgirlbigtalkFor Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com#personalgrowth #lifetransitions #movingvlog #mindfulness #manifestation #ChangeIsGood #SelfDevelopment #20s #30s #RealTalk

    11 min

  7. 03/10/2025

    66. Your Comfort Zone Is Quietly Stealing Your Life | How to Get Unstuck in Your 30s & Break Free

    I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, it breaks me to see you being stuck in the same vicious cycle, not living to your fullest potential. Maybe you’re in your 30s, going through a quarter life crisis, or just feeling unfulfilled at work. The truth is—your comfort zone might be quietly holding you back. In this episode, we dive into: Why you feel stuck in life and signs you’re too comfortableThe fear of change and how it keeps you playing it safePractical ways to break out of your comfort zoneHow small, consistent habits lead to personal growth and self improvementIf you’re tired of living an unfulfilled life and ready to step into your potential, I hope this episode will inspire you to start the journey towards growth, clarity, and freedom. TIMESTAMP: 0:00 Intro 0:33 Your comfort zone is quietly stealing your life 3:07 Fear of change: getting through discomfort 6:39 How to get unstuck and break the pattern 8:14 Introducing new habits to escape autopilot living 10:53 Small steps that expand growth & break comfort zone 13:47 1:1 coaching to break free from feeling stuck 14:44 Outro ✨ Ready for the next step? Sign up for 1:1 coaching and get personalized guidance to finally reach your goals: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ 🍊 Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://wendyvaz.substack.com/ Ask Questions or Request for Topics: https://forms.gle/AnbNfAS8MyszqrV56 For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA:🧡 SGBT Instagram: @smallgirlbigtalk🌼 Wendy's Instagram: @wendyvazzy💛 Wendy's Tiktok: @wendyvazzy

    15 min

  8. 25/09/2025

    65. Can You Really Afford Not to Quit Your Job?

    🌼 Find out more about my new 1-on-1 Coaching Program: https://coaching.wendyvaz.com/ 🍊 Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://wendyvaz.substack.com/ Let's be real… we've all thought about leaving our job before, but we always feel like we can't quit because we need the money to survive. So we tell ourselves "we can't afford to quit our job." But what if the real question you should be asking yourself is: "Can you afford NOT to quit your job today?" In this episode, I'm sharing reflection questions for your personal and professional growth—the same questions that helped me when I was stuck deciding whether to leave my corporate job. (Spoiler alert: I did quit, and here's what I learned.) It always feels scary being vulnerable about major life decisions online. But when I started this podcast, my intention was to create a safe space where we can discuss these huge adulting experiences together. I hope this episode inspires you to ask yourself the hard questions about your career and maybe make a bolder move for your future self 😉 Questions/Journal Prompts from the Episode: Where do you see yourself 10, 20, or 30 years from now?Financially, can you afford to continue with your current salary and annual increment rate?What does your professional growth look like in your current role and company?If your workplace is toxic, can you afford to keep neglecting your health and well-being by staying?What is the opportunity cost of staying where you are?Do you have a dream you've always wanted to pursue—something you'd regret not trying?What does your financial runway look like if you quit?If you want to become an entrepreneur, are you prepared for potentially earning 50–80% less for 2–3 years while working twice as hard?Can you really afford not to bet on yourself? Timestamp: 0:00 Intro: Can You Really Afford Not to Quit Your Job? 2:04 Where do you see yourself in 10, 20, or 30 years? 4:18 Can you afford to continue with your current salary and annual increment rate? 5:32 What does your professional growth look like in your current role and company? 6:49 Can you afford to keep neglecting your health and well-being by staying? 8:40 What is the opportunity cost of staying here? 10:25 Do you have a dream you’ve always wanted to pursue—something you’d regret not trying? 11:51 What does your financial runway look like? 13:32 Quitting for Employment vs. Quitting for Entrepreneurship 15:53 If you want to be an entrepreneur, are you prepared for potentially 2-3 years of earning 50-80% less while working twice as hard? 16:12 The reasons why I quit my job 23:08 What’s next from Small Girl Big Talk? 24:47 Sign up for our coaching program! 27:33 Outro Ask Questions or Request for Topics: https://forms.gle/AnbNfAS8MyszqrV56 For Sponsorship and Collaboration: hello@wendyvaz.com FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA: 🧡 SGBT Instagram: @smallgirlbigtalk 🌼 Wendy's Instagram: @wendyvazzy 💛 Wendy's Tiktok: @wendyvazzy

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Welcome to Small Girl, Big Talk – where real conversations meet personal growth. Hosted by Wendy Vaz, this podcast dives into life’s challenges, from overcoming imposter syndrome to navigating relationships, self-care, and creative entrepreneurship. With solo episodes, guest interviews, and mini-series like Wedding Diaries, every conversation feels like a heart-to-heart with a friend. Whether you're on the go or unwinding, join us to embrace your journey and thrive. Music by massobeats: https://soundcloud.com/beatsbymasso

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  • Creator
    Wendy Vaz
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    73
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Wendy Vaz
  • Show Website
    Small Girl, Big Talk