Depression, anxiety, and personal emotional struggles, are hard to manage on their own. You can feel very lonely in that battle. And so many people either can’t or won’t try therapy. It’s too weird, it’s too expensive, or you’re nervous about trying it. SelfWork can help you begin that healing, or be an addition to the work you’re already doing, as I offer compassionate common-sense directions, ideas and goals toward the changes you want to make. I’ve been a psychologist for over 25 years; and here at SelfWork, I let you in on what I’ve learned from people just like you.
How To Self-Soothe: Stop Bottling Things Up and Shoving Them Away
So today, we’re going to focus on learning how to soothe yourself - and not to bottle it up and shove it away.
Trauma Bonding: When Trust Is Manipulated and Destroyed
I’ve been there. I still have never revealed all that happened in that relationship; so much of it is now such clear abuse, I’m flabbergasted I didn’t see it for what it was. But I didn’t. Until I did.
Do You Have Perfectly Hidden or High Functioning Depression?
What’s the difference, or is there one, between Perfectly Hidden Depression and what’s called high-functioning depression? I’m particularly motivated – in fact very sadly motivated – to talk about it because of an email I received this week from a woman whose husband killed himself.
(Second Time Around): Four Ways to Find Your Way Back to Love
But as usual, we’re also focusing on “what you can do about it.” I’ll use a couples therapy case from my own practice that shows that even though a problem may seem insurmountable, and like the relationship is over, there are four attitudes and actions that can help you find your way back to each other – and even to love.
(Second Time Around) How To Build Your Self-Confidence
I'll tell the story again about a patient who'd begun to find her own self-confidence when she said, “I realized that what I needed - I’d had all along. It’s like the ruby red slippers. You simply have to know their power and your own power.”
(Second Time Around) Is Depression Simply A Chemical Imbalance? Pt. 2
In this episode, sponsored by Athletic Greens or AG1, we’ll focus on the non-neurological things that have a tremendous influence on whether or not you could become depressed — specifically stress, trauma, medical illnesses and medications themselves. I’m again using a very well-written article by a team at Harvard as a guide