Not My Type Melea Irby and Jack Houser

Jack and Jessica share the difference in their findings between Attachment fixes with Frustration wings and Attachment fixes with Rejection wings.



0:56 - Attachment Types have either a Frustration wing or a Rejection wing

2:34 - Introduction of Eugene

3:05 - Commonality of Attachment fixes

3:45 - Shielded types - Attachment with Rejection wings

4:32 - Exposed types - Attachment with Frustration wings

5:27 - Eye contact

6:12 - Why Frustration types are not exposed

9:32 - 3w4 appearing self-conscious

10:23 - Jessica's experience being double exposed

13:20 - Single vs. double exposure

13:40 - Social-blindness ruining eye contact

15:44 - Exposed types feeling uncomfortable

16:51 - Jack being obsessed with eye contact

20:34 - Contrasting exposed and shielded iterations of the same type



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Jack and Jessica discuss a model of Object Relations manifesting on a quarter.



0:40 - Overview / review of Object Relations

3:00 - Assertive Types (3, 7, 8) and the Nurturing Object

4:09 - Compliant Types (1, 2, 6) and the Protecting Object

6:08 - Withdrawn Types (4, 5, 9) and the Belonging Object

7:53 - Hexad vs. Triangle

9:27 - Using a quarter as an "object" lesson: Frustration and Rejection as two sides of the same coin

13:53 - Attachment Types continuing connection to their Objects

15:54 - 7 and 8 having opposite affects toward the Nurturing Object

17:13 - Hexads per Center of Intelligence as inversions of each other

20:56 - Jack vocalizing his opinions

22:15 - Triangle types ending up somewhere they didn't intend to be

24:46 - Hexad types having already toppled / landed

25:37 - Attachment Types refusing to individuate

27:49 - Difference between the life journeys of triangle types and hexad types

30:36 - Jessica's real-time Frustration

33:40 - Sample of a past argument



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Jack and Jessica discuss the movie Saltburn, unpacking the type structures of the characters and overall Enneagram themes throughout the film.



0:40 - How actors' types distort the intended types of the characters they play

2:06 - Overall themes of Saltburn

3:11 - Summary of the film

4:28 - Emerald Fennell (director / screenwriter)

6:25 - Oliver

9:00 - Felix

12:40 - Elspeth

16:00 - Venetia

18:20 - Sir James

18:55 - Duncan

19:45 - Farleigh

23:36 - Michael

24:50 - Pamela

27:00 - sx-blind audience's reactions to Saltburn's shocking scenes

28:35 - Mythological imagery

29:57 - Attachment types in crisis

31:25 - Emerald's 7-1 link incorporating long-game foreshadowing

32:37 - Ignorance of British aristocracy

33:45 - Elspeth being double positive

34:53 - sp-blind's world being highly external / relational

35:30 - Oliver's unbelonging

36:25 - Felix's tour of Saltburn

38:08 - sx/so's singular attention in making a new friend



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Melea, Jack, and Jessica unpack the five remaining portions of the instinctual cycle, picking up from where they left off with sx/sp.

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2:02 - Overview of the terms "waxing" and "waning"

3:04 - sp/so as a singular form maturing into a broader world

6:34 - so/sx as multiplicious procreation

9:10 - How do the waxing stackings show up behaviorally?

12:15 - sx/so as advertisement of remaining fertility

16:15 - Contrasting sx/so with sx/sp

18:37 - so/sp as the mature symbol of its kind

21:05 - sp/sx as decay / death

23:20 - Contrasting sp/sx with sp/so

24:55 - Jessica leaving traces for others in the future

27:06 - How our dominant instinct feels life/death to our psyche

28:45 - GIFs for the sexual instinct as secondary vs. dominant

30:20 - Melea measuring her energy by meaningful interactions

32:05 - Jessica thinks a lot about food



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Melea, Jack, and Jessica explore NMT's discovery of the instinctual cycle, building from David Gray's original concepts of "synflow" and "contraflow."

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1:35 - Overview of the three instincts

9:30 - Wondering how the instincts relate to Maslow's hierarchy of needs

10:33 - Overview of instinctual cycle as life and death processes

13:00 - Jack failing at the self-preservation instinct

14:55 - Jessica failing at the social instinct

18:10 - David Gray's "flows"

23:09 - Why is knowing about "flow" helpful?

24:35 - Finding the sexual instinct's location in a vertical diagram

27:20 - sx/sp as conception / creation

30:32 - Self-preservation reinforcing sexual's agenda

34:35 - Renaming "synflow" as "waxing" and "contraflow" as "waning"



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