Welcome to Let’s Be Real … a completely honest, entirely practical conversation about how to live our lives with freedom, purpose and abundance. Popular author and communicator Nicole Unice brings her twenty years of experience as a counselor, pastor and coach to a real conversation about the tricky questions and tough decisions in life—and how to find clarity and action no matter what obstacle you may face.
Aundi Kolber: Discovering the Window of Tolerance (Replay)
On today’s episode we’re throwing it back to one of the earliest episodes with Aundi Kolber, licensed professional counselor and author of Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy. She has such a compassionate, gentle approach to helping people come into abundant life through healing from "big T" and "little t” traumas, and I think you’ll love this episode.
Aundi teaches us about how even "little t" traumas can accumulate and wound in a way that keeps us from staying authentic to ourselves. How we all have a "window of tolerance" and what it means to stay within that window Aundi walks me through a guided exercise to stay with and then release hard feelings especially in times where we feel like we can't cope.
"the harder life is, the softer we need to be.”
Find out more about Aundi: Website | Instagram
We Are Not Defined By Our Past (The Story of Tamar)
Today’s episode is from the How to Study the Bible Podcast. We are kicking off a new Advent series there, looking at the women in Jesus’ lineage in a God of Our Mothers series. In Matthew 1, we get a genealogy of Jesus’ family. Genealogies are put in place because the people matter to the story, and there are several women named in his family line.
WHAT DOES IT SAY?
“This is the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah the son of David, the son of Abraham: 2 Abraham was the father of Isaac, Isaac the father of Jacob, Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers,
3 Judah the father of Perez and Zerah, whose mother was Tamar…”
Genesis 38 – Who Is Tamar?
1. She is not an Israelite
2. She is unwanted
3. She is mistreated
4. She is seeking justice
5. She is shrewd
(Don’t forget how Judah’s mom came to have him--also veiled and in disguise)
Genesis 38:26 is the turning point in the story. Judah confesses his unrighteousness, and we see that Tamar is brought into his family and one of her twin sons becomes part of the lineage that leads to Jesus (Perez).
WHAT IS THE BACKSTORY
After Joseph is sold into slavery, we get this graphic story in Genesis 38. We see the wickedness of Judah as a foil to Joseph’s righteousness. But eventually, we’ll see Judah take a righteous turn. First, though, he marries a Canaanite, and they have three sons. One of these sons marries Tamar.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
1. God colors outside the lines.
2. We are never defined by our past.
3. God sees the marginalized.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR ME?
10 While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples.11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”
12 On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’[a] For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
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Blaine Hogan: Exit the Cave
On today’s episode we are joined by Blaine Hogan. Blaine is an actor, artist, director and author of Untitled and Exit the Cave. Blaine shares the stories that shaped him while exploring how our relationship to our past defines how we imagine the future and live in the present.
Blaine’s Website | Book Submissions Link
Katelyn Beaty: The Impact of Christian Celebrities
Are personas, platforms, and profits hurting the church? In light of the fall of famous Christian leaders in recent years, Katelyn Beaty reexamines the relationship between church and celebrity. In her book, Celebrities for Jesus (and this episode), Katelyn explores the ways fame has reshaped the American church, explains how and why celebrity is woven into the fabric of the evangelical movement, and identifies many ways fame goes awry.
Katelyn’s Website | Book Submissions
(3:22) Christian celebrities
(5:44) Fame vs. celebrity
(9:01) Celebrity pressures
(11:24) Dangers of marketing our faith
(14:10) Various church structures
(17:24) How to discern truth in this space
(23:42) Personal church life
(29:00) A word to Christian leaders
(31:55) What is bringing you joy right now?
Nicole Lynn Lewis: Teen Motherhood, College + Creating a Better Future For Young Families
We have the privilege of having Nicole Lynn Lewis on the podcast today. Nicole is a fellow William & Mary alum, but she did it with her three-month-old daughter in tow. Nicole now works every day to change the statistic that less than 2% of teen mothers will earn their degrees before age 30. Nicole has been featured on major news outlets including “Good Morning America,” CNN, “NBC Nightly News,” and The Washington Post.
Developing Leadership Resiliency
What does resilience look like? What does it look like to faithfully stay the course? Exhaustion and fatigue in leadership are so real. This episode dives into 3 key components that impact our ability to be fruitful for the long term.