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Have you ever felt betrayed by someone you thought you could trust?
It's a deeply painful experience that can leave you questioning not only the betrayer but also your own judgment. Trust, once broken, seems almost impossible to rebuild.
My guest today, Steve Carter, experienced a series of profound betrayals at a pivotal moment in his life. In 2018, amidst misconduct allegations against Bill Hybels, founder of Willow Creek Community Church, Steve made the difficult decision to step down from his role as a newly minted lead pastor—a position he once considered his dream job. Shortly thereafter, he faced yet another personal betrayal by his own parents.
Reeling from the loss of his job, his dream, and his trust in those closest to him, Steve entered a desert season guided by three words he sensed God gave to him: Grieve. Breathe. Receive. Steve's journey through loss is so powerful, so honest, and so deeply healing. Please do not miss this conversation!
Here’s what we cover:

2 essential ingredients for trust (12:40)

Why grief is the antidote to cynicism (22:28)

Confronting our attraction to patterns of narcissism (28:08)

The anger high vs. the peace of forgiveness (36:25)

How he hangs on to his love for the church (34:03)


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Episode 98: I Shouldn’t Feel Alone in My Grief—Why Your Grief Matters & the #1 Most Important Support For Those Who Are Grieving with J.S. Park
Episode 99: I Shouldn’t Feel Like My Spirit is Broken—Exploring a Broken Spirit & the Dark Night of the Soul with Christopher Cook
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
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Do you ever feel like your spirit is broken?
Do you feel like you can't put yourself back together despite your best efforts?
Please do not miss this episode. My guest, Christopher Cook, has such powerful words about a broken spirit and how it’s different from (but related to) depression and burnout. We also dig into a real time discussion of the dark night of the soul. This conversation connected so many dots for me, and I cannot wait for you to hear it. Here’s what we cover:
1. The painful circumstances that nearly broke Christopher's spirit (7:00)
2. Recovering from survival mode (12:59)
3. What is a broken spirit? (15:32)
4. Chris’s experience of a dark night of the soul (25:07)
5. The true meaning of surrender (30:46)
6. How to support someone going through a dark night of the soul (41:12)
Check out Healing What You Can't Erase by Christopher Cook
Find a list of resources from this episode here.
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Episode 97: I Shouldn't Feel This Anxious—Insights on Trauma & Healing with Monique Koven
Episode 98: I Shouldn’t Feel Alone in My Grief—Why Your Grief Matters & the #1 Most Important Support For Those Who Are Grieving
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
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What do you do when you're grieving?
How do you support others through grief?
Grief shows up in all of our lives—whether you’re grieving the loss of a person, a relationship, or a dream. We need each other to grieve well. It’s not something we were designed to do in isolation. My guest today, hospital chaplain, J.S. Park, is a powerful story teller and grief catcher. His viral posts about grief and death have revealed an incredibly important need. So many of us long to give voice to our grief in a culture that often rushes to push it aside.
If you're feeling grief, or if you love someone who's grieving, please do not miss this episode.
Here’s what we cover: 
1. Why parts of us fear grief (5:20)
2. Why naming grief is so important (9:50)
3. How sitting with loss impacted Joon's faith (23:56)
4. The prayer Joon says before walking into a room (26:20)
5. The #1 thing you can do for someone after a loss (30:56)
6. How to set grief boundaries (36:40)
7. How to support someone who is grieving & what *not* to do (41:07)
8. The one word Joon wants for all of us (48:46)
Order Joon's new book here.
Find a list of resources from this episode here.
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Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.
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Episode 97: I Shouldn't Feel This Anxious—Insights on Trauma & Healing with Monique Koven
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful story of healing from trauma. There is absolute gold in this episode for everyone.
Here’s what we cover:
1. The anxiety response she couldn't "logic" herself out of (8:50)
2. How misdiagnosis caused further harm (10:39)
3. The role of anger in her healing (21:21)
4. Exactly how she began to heal the anxiety response she experienced (32:03)
5. Separating God out from hurtful church messages (24:15)
6. How Ann Voskamp’s work showed her an example of glimmers (34:36)
7. Monique’s profound word for you if you’ve experienced trauma (38:13)
Find a list of resources from this episode here.
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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.
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Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
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Do you walk on eggshells with someone you love?
Do you sometimes feel like you can't have an honest conversation?
Signs of emotional immaturity are everywhere. In today’s episode, we dive into the signs of emotional immaturity and its profound effect on our relationships. You'll learn the difference between emotionally mature and immature responses so that you can improve your connections. Here’s what we cover:
1. Why emotional immaturity is so prevalent & how it showed up in me! (6:15)
2. Examples of mature vs. immature emotional responses (10:43)
3. The difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism (21:44)
4. The role of enmeshment in emotional immaturity (29:41)
5. Tips for how to navigate a relationship with an emotionally immature person (35:33)
6. Tips for growing in emotional maturity (37:42)
Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
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Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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If you’re human, you’ve encountered some toxic behaviors. We all have. And it’s not wise to be naive about them. I’m passionate about helping you identify these toxic behaviors—not to label people, but to name behaviors accurately. When you understand the nature of toxic strategies, you can protect yourself and move toward health. Here’s what you’ll learn:
1. A mistake vs. a pattern of toxic behaviors (4:59)
2. The root of toxic behaviors (15:14)
3. Examples of healthy communication vs. manipulation (16:40)
4. Identifying guilt-driven love (22:03)
5. The difference between constructive feedback & criticism (25:48)
6. Examples of triangulation (31:32)
7. The #1 antidote against toxic behaviors (36:17)
8. Examples of word & action boundaries (39:04)
Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
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Thanks to our sponsors:
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Episode 94: Should I Stay or Should I Walk Away? How to Discern When It’s Time to Leave with Emily P. Freeman
Episode 1: What Is Narcissism Really?
Episode 24: Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil
Episode 26: Types of “No” Part 2—How to Say “No” to Toxicity
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Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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