Sisters Gathering to Heal the Podcast DeBora M. Ricks

Eboni K.  Williams, attorney, multi-millionaire, TV personality, and podcaster told bestselling author, teacher, and healer Iyanla Vanzant that she would only date a bus driver if he owned the bus. 
 In episode S3 E13, newly barred attorney and educator, Perneita Farrar joins me in what I deem an important conversation for today's Black woman. We talk about Perneita's dilemma, the challenges of dating blue-collar men, and what I wished Iyanla had told Eboni K to do to improve her chances of attracting a provider and protector.

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It may be hard to hear, but truth be told many women are energetically more masculine than they are feminine. In episode S3 E12, I talk about how we hurt ourselves, repel masculine men, and damage our children when we lead with our masculine energy. I also offer ways we can, as we REDEFINE what it means to be strong, engage in self-care practices that will nurture our feminine essence, increase our magnetism and fuel our feminine power. Happy Mother's Day, Beloved!
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And remember to love yourself FIRST and love yourself FIERCELY! 

Episode S3 E11, was inspired by a conversation that I had with a classy, beautiful sisterfriend who finds herself smitten by a handsome, charming man who boomeranged back into her life. One night my friend called me and we talked into the wee hours of the morning about the "situationship" (her word not mines) that she's in. It's natural for a heterosexual woman to desire the attention and companionship of a man. But at what cost do we entertain a man? This is what I talk about in this episode. Btw, my friend granted me permission to share her story. 
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Go to Sisters Gathering to Heal and grab a copy of 13 Things Black Women Who Love Themselves DON'T Do 
And remember to love yourself FIRST and love yourself FIERCELY! 

If you're reading this, you still want more out of life. It's how humans are built. And it's also human to sometimes want something but find ourselves stuck or stalled because we're wrestling with fear. Can you relate or is it just me? In episode S3 E10, I explore what holds us back from being, doing, and having the things, experiences, and life that we desire. Listen to the end for what's coming up for the Sisterhood. Oh, if this episode blesses you in any way, do me a favor and leave a comment, rate the podcast, share it with a friend and subscribe. 
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Go to Sisters Gathering to Heal and grab a copy of 13 Things Black Women Who Love Themselves DON'T Do 
And remember to love yourself FIRST and love yourself FIERCELY! 
 

-     We properly wrap up our Stop Calling Me Strong Series with an always timely conversation about self-care and pleasure. In episode S3 E9, I sat down with Certified Erotic Blueprint Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, Tosh Patterson. 
Tosh, who teaches women how to simplify life so they can reignite their sensual/sexual self, shares how the strong black woman syndrome led to bouts of anxiety and drove her into a deep depression. Because her family and friends had held her in such high regard, she struggled in secrecy and silence. 
Tosh shares how she broke free and together we unpack: 
What causes the strong black woman (SBW) to stop hearing her own voice What keeps SBW from asking for support and receiving it when offered What it takes to become a woman who confidently asks for what she needs and wants  What the SBW is encouraged to do even when she's falling apart The link between setting better boundaries and vulnerability How perfectionism keeps the SBW bound  The impact of Black Excellence, i.e., striving for material success—cars, houses, clothes, degrees—on the lives of black women  What the SBW does that undermines intimacy in her most cherished relationships What are self-care and pleasure and why it matters so much How to build the prioritizing self-care and pleasure muscle  What it takes to heal the SBW Syndrome To work with Tosh on retreat or through 1:1 coaching, email her.  
Tosh co-authored The Path to Pleasure: A Black Woman's Guide to Healing Her Inner Goddess, Igniting Her Spirit, & Awakening Her Pleasure - Available on Amazon.
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Get copies of my books Love Addicted: One Woman's Spiritual Journey Through Emotional Dependency, Why Did He Break Up With Me? Lessons in Love, Loss & Letting Go, and Write That Book! How to Start or Finish the Book You're Meant to Write @ Amazon
Go to Sisters Gathering to Heal and grab a copy of 13 Things Black Women Who Love Themselves DON'T Do 
And remember to love yourself FIRST and love yourself FIERCELY! 
 
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I had so much fun recording and editing this installment of the Stop Calling Me Strong series with Advocate, DEI Facilitator, Healer, Teaching Artist, Activist, Playwright, and Stand-Up Comic Sheila Gaskins. 
In S3 E8, I talked to Sheila, who is the author of the forthcoming book of poetry and prose, A Whistling Girl and a Crowing Hen Never Comes to a Very Good End and Other Things My Mama Said, about:
why this series topic resonates so strongly with her the obstacles to black women being soft, sweet, and giddy  how she, like many black women, was forced into a masculine role how labeling black women strong benefits white supremacy   what her black male therapist said that changed everything what black women ought to give themselves permission to be  I had a load of ah-ha moments during this conversation. Listen, share with a friend or family, and leave a comment. 
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Do me a favor, if you enjoyed the podcast, please subscribe, share, rate & review. Thank you! 
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Get copies of my books Love Addicted: One Woman's Spiritual Journey Through Emotional Dependency, Why Did He Break Up With Me? Lessons in Love, Loss & Letting Go, and Write That Book! How to Start or Finish the Book You're Meant to Write @ Amazon
Go to Sisters Gathering to Heal and grab a copy of 13 Things Black Women Who Love Themselves DON'T Do 
And remember to love yourself FIRST and love yourself FIERCELY!