Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc Dr. Pamela Kreiser

In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the nuances between direct and indirect communication styles. Through personal experiences, expert insights, and practical examples, they explore why individuals might prefer one method over the other and how these preferences are influenced by cultural backgrounds. The discussion includes an analysis of Cynthia Joyce's article on communication impact, interactive quizzes, and valuable tips for bridging the gap between different communicative approaches. Whether it's navigating breakups, professional settings, or everyday interactions, this episode offers a comprehensive guide to improving communication and relationships.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Dr. Cynthia Joyce
Resources : 
Dr. Cynthia Joyce’s Chart:
https://conflictmanagement.org.uiowa.edu/sites/conflictmanagement.org.uiowa.edu/files/2020-01/Direct%20and%20Indirect%20Communication.pdf
Huffington Post Article: 
https://www.huffpost.com/archive/ca/entry/how-to-break-up-with-someone_ca_5cd50d35e4b07bc729744f20/amp
Breaking up:
https://news.byu.edu/news/delivering-bad-news-dont-beat-around-bush
Direct vs. Indirect Speech:
https://everydayspeech.com/sel-implementation/pros-and-cons-direct-communication-vs-indirect-communication/
Ending Relationships:
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/254376804_Strategies_for_ending_relationships_Two_studies
Links :
AFAF Episode #027: The Dance of Visibility (Part 1): How to Speak Up!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/1980a02db6d55a72c46cfe659ca2cb03
AFAF Episode #028: The Dance of Visibility (Part 2): How to Stop Over Explaining!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/7256cb9fd6ba3bb1893f130453818b47
AFAF Episode #027: The Dance of Visibility (Part 3): Strategic Alignment - How to be a Better Communicator!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/51e031a91f4867fad1d39e7929d4247a
AFAF Episode #018: Beating Around the Bush - How to Choose Your Words
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/d5be7964f269f49c542b588e21652c8a

In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo as they delve into the toxic dynamics of contempt in interpersonal relationships. Dubbed the "worst of the four horsemen" by renowned researcher John Gottman, contempt is a critical indicator of potential relationship demise.
Tune in as we unpack the verbal and non-verbal signs of contempt, its devastating effects on relationships, and its alarming impact on individual health, including heightened vulnerability to infectious diseases. Through engaging discussions, we highlight practical solutions and emphasize the importance of nurturing a culture of appreciation rather than criticism. Featuring real-life examples and personal stories, this episode offers listeners valuable insights into recognizing and addressing contempt in their relationships. Join the conversation and learn how to build healthier, more respectful connections. 
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In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of deception, exaggeration, and confabulations in our everyday interactions. We start by unraveling the mechanics of intentional deception, where people consciously mislead others to alter beliefs or obscure the truth. Our discussion then transitions to exaggeration—a widespread yet often overlooked form of deception used for storytelling, emphasis, or humor. Through relatable anecdotes, we expose how even harmless exaggeration can erode trust over time.
Next, we explore the realm of confabulations, where individuals unknowingly fabricate false memories or beliefs. These 'honest lies' can have profound effects on relationships and communication. By examining both scientific research and personal experiences, we shed light on the subtle yet significant impact of these phenomena.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we uncover the delicate balance between truth and falsehood in our interactions, offering insights and reflections that will make you rethink the way you communicate and build trust with others.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Brene Brown, Clifton, and Gottschall
Resources : 
Brene Brown’s Books: Dare to Lead and Rising Strong
https://brenebrown.com/
Clifton Strengths Finder 2.0
https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/254033/strengthsfinder.aspx
Jonathan Gottschall (2013) - The Story Telling Animal: How Stories Make Us Human
https://www.amazon.com/Storytelling-Animal-Stories-Make-Human/dp/0544002342
Strength Finder Tool: 
https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx
Links :
AFAF Episode 13 “The Stories We Make Up”
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/97368b3e753092d12a97c52d74b58cbf
Key and Peele Skit - Text Message Confusion:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naleynXS7yo

Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode as we dive into understanding the intricacies of healthy relationships. In this episode, we revisit essential topics covered in our previous discussions on spotting red flags (Episode 80) and green flags (Episode 82). We take a retrospective look at episodes 80 through 83, exploring how past experiences and family backgrounds shape our ability to identify warning signs and the role of compassion in this process.
Highlights include a robust discussion on the significance of green flags, such as experiencing genuine happiness and self-assuredness in the presence of a partner. We emphasize the importance of personal growth and boundary setting, underlining how self-awareness contributes to building fulfilling relationships.
Tune in as we stress the educational aspect of our content, offering practical insights aimed at enhancing communication and fostering healthy relationships.
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SHOW NOTES:
Links :
AFAF Episode 80: How to Spot Red Flags in Relationships and Dating
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04fba5aa22def91904d762e99f13460b
AFAF Episode 82: How to Spot Green Flags in Relationships and Dating
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/ee9c3bc999440ea80693b973303b7eeb

In this latest episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor embark on a deep dive into the intricate world of deception within human communication and relationships. Unveiling the staggering statistics that reveal an average of three lies every ten minutes in a conversation, the hosts unravel the multifaceted layers of lying.
From harmless white lies to intentional omissions and complex equivocations, the discussion uncovers the spectrum of lies we encounter daily, shedding light on the ethical dilemmas they pose. Through personal stories and compelling research, the hosts illuminate how lies often serve dual purposes—shielding feelings while also serving the liar's self-interests.
Tune in as we dissect the myriad reasons behind lying, dissecting its impact on relationships, and navigating the delicate balance between honesty and maintaining social harmony. This episode promises an engaging dialogue that challenges our understanding of truth and deception in the fabric of human connection.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Adler and Towne, Bavelas et al., Metts
Statistics on Lying - University of Wisconsin-La Crosse
https://www.uwlax.edu/currents/how-often-do-people-lie/
Lying Less Linked to Better Health by American Psy. Association
https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2012/08/lying-less
The Brain Adapts to Dishonesty by Garrett et al. (2016)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5238933/
Study on Sexual Rejection Messages by Metts, Cupach, and Imahori:
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10570319209374398
Resources : 
Adler and Towne’s Book: Looking Out, Looking In

Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode of “Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc,” where we revisit an essential topic covered in Episode 58: Keeping Your Cool: How to Control Your Emotions So They Don't Control You. We explore practical strategies for navigating challenging emotions, we draw from the insights of leading researchers like Marc Brackett and Brené Brown.
In this episode, we emphasize the art of recognizing and understanding the initial physical sensations that accompany emotional responses, a crucial step in preventing emotions from hijacking rational thought processes. Instead of trying to evade these feelings, we advocate for embracing them and employing mindful techniques to regain control.
Key techniques discussed include body awareness exercises to pinpoint emotional triggers, conscious deep breathing to promote relaxation, and leveraging the parasympathetic nervous system to lower cortisol levels and promote calmness. By tuning in to this episode, you'll gain valuable tools for managing emotions effectively, maintaining composure in stressful situations, and fostering healthier communication and relationships. Tune in for transformative insights and actionable steps toward emotional mastery.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Dr. Marc Brackett and Dr. Brene Brown
Links :
AFAF Episode #058: Keeping Your Cool: How to Control Your Emotions So They Don't Control You
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/e7556c93c8e574aa35cdcff0b649e66e