Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast Alyssa Zander

I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together.
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IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!


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This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationship.
👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
Codependency Alchemy Immersion- June 23rd-25th
I’m am so excited to hold a free 3-day immersion, where you can get a glimpse into what it is like in The Membership. Each day of the immersion we will be experiencing a different aspect of The Membership!
* Sunday, June 23rd: We will be coming together for a masterclass on Exploring Codependency and The Mother Wound.
* Monday, June 24th: You’ll get to expereince what our Monthly Meetups are like and receive hot-seat coaching, where I will guide you through shadow work and inner child healing for whatever you are presently expereiencing in your relationship.
* Tuesday, June 25th: You’ll get to join me for a private AMA chat (Ask Me Anything) where I will go back and forth with you on whatever you are needing or looking for support on! Think of this as a private chat room where you can be supported and witnessed.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!


This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!


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I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden.
I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in today’s podcast episode, Marcee was experiencing something very similar.
Please keep in mind when listening to today’s podcast episode that we will be discussing sexual abuse and trauma, so if this topic is sensitive to you please take care of your needs and check in with yourself before listening.

For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!


This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of.
What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!


This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe