Life Uncut Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne

Hey Lifers,

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas! 

Britt has some really exciting personal news about her sister Sheri and her husband Jay.Vibes for this week:Britt - Bodyparts on Nine Now Keeshia - Three Identical Strangers on NetflixLaura - No Filter Patrick Gagne is a sociopathThen we jump into your questions!


SHOULD I ATTEND THE FUNERAL?I was with my ex for 12 years. During the last 3 of those years my ex-Mother in Law (MIL) lived with us; I knew her very well. I'm now happily remarried with two kids and haven't spoken to anyone from my ex's family for around 6 years. Recently, I found out my ex-MIL has gotten very sick and it got me thinking about when she passes away. I would want to pay my respects to her given she was a huge part of my past life, but I don't know if attending her funeral and seeing my ex and his family for the first time since leaving him would only add to their pain. My question is: who do you attend a funeral for? Is it for the person who has passed away? Or their loved ones left behind?

I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY COWORKER

How do I let a work colleague know that I have no interest in being friends with them outside of work (or even at work TBH)? I really struggle working with this particular person, but that's clearly unbeknownst to her as she continually asks me to do things outside of work! I always come up with excuses not to go, but it's getting harder and harder. Also these are not big group things where everyone is invited, it's literally just the two of us and maybe one or 2 other people. Do I need to be more direct? Or just say yes and make it a really bad time so she doesn't want to hang out anymore? Or just keep putting up with it and coming up with excuses?



SHOWER ETIQUETTE

What is the etiquette when using someone else’s shower while staying with them? Do you bring your own shampoo/conditioner/body wash etc? Or is it acceptable to use theirs?



DO I CONFRONT/ASK HIM OR PLAY IT OUT

Last week my husband asked me to pick up a parcel for him from the post office and said it was a tool for work. When I picked up the parcel, I noticed it was from a silversmith so I googled them. I didn’t look any further as Mother’s Day was approaching and didn’t want to ruin my surprise. I didn’t get jewellery for Mothers Day. I looked on the website and it could be fingerprint jewellery but it’s way out of our budget.

I mentioned it to my best friend to see what to do. After naming the jeweller, she said our mutual friend is mates with the jeweller, maybe our friend is going to propose and use my husband and our address for secret delivery.

The 3 possible situations are:


My husband bought someone else jewellery
Fingerprint jewellery that will be back in a few weeks
My husband is in on our friend's proposal and is keeping it secret (fair enough).

My question is, do I ask my husband about the parcel or do I wait and see if something happens in the coming months? Clearly it’s bothering me haha.



You can watch us on Youtube

If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imagine yourself married to the person you love when they’re diagnosed with terminal cancer. You’ve been their carer and support during such an emotionally difficult time. But, then you find out that they have been cheating on you since your wedding day.Do you continue to care for them?Today’s guest didn’t have to imagine this scenario. She lived it.

Kerstin Pilz grew up in Germany and was working as an academic at Macquarie University here in Australia. She was married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turned her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale.

Soon after their runaway wedding, her new husband was diagnosed with cancer. Kerstin became his dedicated carer. But when she discovered that he had been cheating on her throughout their relationship, she was faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her. 

In this chat we speak about: 


Being faced with this emotionally charged conundrum
The complexities of loving a narcissist
Whether it’s better to find out about infidelity or not
How to heal after cheating
Whether infidelity poisons your memories and if they were ‘real’ moments
Forgiveness being radical self care
Kerstin’s choice to not have children and whether she regrets that 

Kerstin has written a book titled Loving My Lying, Dying, Cheating Husband and you can get a copy of it here

Kerstin’s instagram is here

You can watch us on Youtube

If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,

Today's episode has a lot of variation of light and shade. Britt has done something that could be one of the funniest stories of something embarrassing that she's ever told. Salt & pepper squid anyone?Laura and her family have been navigating a really hard time in their personal lives as her step dad has entered the last phase of his terminal cancer. They had a celebration of his life and today Laura shares what this experience has been like behind the scenes. Please if there is one thing about today's episode, it's to reach out to the men in your life who are over 50 and ask them when their last prostate check was.Footage of a horrific, violent assault by Sean 'Diddy' Combs on his ex girlfriend Cassie Ventura has spread over the weekend. He has now released an 'apology' video that completely contradicts a statement he made in December where he said that he was completely innocent and that the allegations made against him were by "individuals looking for a quick pay day".We speak about women not being 'reliable narrators of their own experiences' until there is video evidence of abuse. We speak about 'reputational apologies' and how different laws complicate this particular scenario. 

You can watch us on Youtube

If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.

ON THE SHOW


What did the cleaner find
Chat GPT is helping us flirt
Mitch's paying for goods and services
Ellie Cole - and same sex parenting books being banned 
Bumble really cocked up this billboard
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas!

The first dilemma of the day is that Marlie Mae (Laura's 4 year old) has been watching Taylor Swift 'The Eras Tour' and she's learnt some questionable dance moves...

We have an ask uncut aftermath from a question last week!! We absolutely love finding out what happened next.

Vibes for the week:

Britt: pretty lazy magic wand hair perfector

Keeshia: The Mel Robbins Podcast with Dr. Jen Gunter MD How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause

Laura: Mimi's haircare for kids

Then we jump into your questions:


GRANDPARENTS WANT WEIRD TITLES THAT WE HATEMy husband and I have a problem, we are 5 months pregnant with our first child and my in-laws have been thinking about what they want to be called. Now, I’m happy for it not to be the typical grandma and grandpa etc if they don’t want but they have just called my husband to let him know that my MIL wants to be called cougey and my FIL has picked Ockey. (I don’t know how they would be spelt but they sound like koo ghee and ock ee.) We don't like these names and think they are weird, and could be confusing for our baby when she grows up. We don’t want to hurt their feelings but we also don’t want to have to refer to them as these strange names forever. How can we approach this with them or is it something they have every right to choose on what to be called by our child?
DO I PRETEND IT'S GREAT?If a partner plans something for an event such as birthday, Mother’s Day, etc and you are disappointed, do you pretend it’s great? Or let them know you're disappointed? A couple of times I’ve expected a bit more planning from my partner and been disappointed but felt guilty for feeling this way. Are my expectations too high and is anything better than nothing? I should mention I’ve told him that I’m a sentimental person when it comes to milestones

DO I CALL BULLSHIT OR IS THIS ‘NORMAL’ THESE DAYS?

I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months (after his marriage of 2 years ago and 2 kids ended). Due to this I’ve given him space in anything too heavy about committing etc. About a month ago I asked him if he was on the apps and he said no, we haven’t had anymore “exclusive” chats. I’ve found out this week that he has liked one of my best mates pictures on hinge (who he’s met). He says it was an accident & he went on there because he was bored. Do I call bullshit on this? My male friend says that blokes need validation and until you tell them your boundaries and commit, it’s fair game. He wants to talk it through and get on the same page but I am unsure if I want to bother. I have been single for 10 years and had hopes for this. He has all the qualities that I’m looking for but he seems emotionally immature. He hasn’t told me his feelings for me yet but he clearly likes me. 

Is my bar too high or is this just what we would expect nowadays?



You can watch us on Youtube

If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

 
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Joining the podcast today is comedian, TV personality and camp mate from the South African jungle Stephen K Amos! Britt got to know Stephen in their month in Africa together and they formed a special friendship built on some very personal and impactful conversations. Stephen joins us today with some of the funniest accidentally unfiltered stories (yes, plural) that we have ever heard!Stephen is such a laugh and a half and as funny as he is, he is equally as deep and thoughtful. 

We spoke about:


Time in the jungle 
His life growing up in a Nigerian family in South London
Expectations and being a ‘role model’ when he didn’t expect to be
Always being labelled as a ‘Black comedian’ and eventually ‘Black, gay comedian’
Push back on political comedy ‘ruining’ comedy
Stephen’s encounter with the Pope and his unexpected response to Stephen’s sexuality 
Performing for the Royal family
Accepting himself and his body; wearing shorts for the first time EVER in the jungle

You can find more of Stephen K Amos and his tour dates here!

You can watch us on Youtube

If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.