Milking Good Things - A Change of Pace Rose Colored News

We have a tendency, due to past momentum of thinking negatively, to discard our positive feelings when they occur. Once you notice it you can’t stop noticing it. If you have been picked on, teased, or abused because of your looks, you may find it very difficult to accept a compliment on looking nice today. If you are used to meeting inconsiderate people, meeting someone who is considerate may be a nice change of pace. But rather than appreciate it, you’ll swipe it away with thoughts such as, “Maybe he’s playing games and trying to get something from me,” or, “It’s a shame most people are so inconsiderate, that this person stands out.”
Why Can’t You Be Happy?
Why can’t you let yourself enjoy the positive feelings when they occur? It is momentum as I’ve said. You have been thinking negatively about these topics for so long that when something doesn’t match your beliefs about a subject, it can cause cognitive dissonance. God-Source, the universe, your higher self, your inner being (however you want to think about it) is attracting positive situations into your life all of the time. But we have these blinders on (our negative, limiting beliefs) that keep us from seeing and appreciating the good there is out there.
Question Your Beliefs
Beliefs are thoughts you’ve continued to think over and over and usually started when you were a child and were simply trying to make sense of the world. Your parents, friends, or teachers may have told you something and then you start to see those patterns playing out and simply believed them, rather than question if there were examples when those beliefs were not true. The question, “Is it true?” is important to ask when you notice a negative, limiting belief of yours.
Milk The Good Experiences
If you have a belief that people are inconsiderate and you see someone being kind and thoughtful, rather than immediately re-membering (playing over your memories of people who are inconsiderate reinforcing your negative beliefs), take time out to focus on appreciating this person.
Your brain is experiencing cognitive dissonance and it is trying to get back to your normal pattern of thought. As Dr. Joe Dispenza says “neurons that fire together wire together.” In this example, you have created a link between people and inconsiderate acts. Your brain is not used to putting people and considerate acts together. But you can start to create new associations. It starts with appreciating that a person who is being considerate exists. Notice it.
When you first start to milk an experience like this it may feel like a fluke. That’s okay. It takes time for your brain to open and start to associate the opposite of something you’ve had a long habit of thinking.
Start New Affirmations
But if you do this enough, noticing every time someone is considerate, eventually you break your old belief that all people are inconsiderate. You can then start new affirmations for yourself such as, “I meet considerate people.” You should believe an affirmation when you say it or think it. You shouldn’t lie to yourself. But at this point, you should believe this affirmation because you’ve had experiences meeting them.
Other Examples
I gave a pretty clear example in thinking most people are inconsiderate and shifting that belief through appreciation and then affirmations. You will have to be mindful and check where you have specific negative, limiting beliefs and milk when you have good experiences that counteract those beliefs.
Another belief could be, “I don’t have enough money to buy that.” Remember, you should believe your affirmation, so this won’t work in circumstances where you don’t have credit, but here’s an example. You could ask yourself, “Is it true? Is it true that I don’t have enough money to buy it?” You may find out that you could buy it if you put it on credit. It isn’t wise to buy it on credit if you don’t have the cash to pay it off. But the be