Parenting Counter-Intuitively Josh and Tammy

What difference does it make what we do when our kids can't see us? In this episode, we take a look at the importance of consistent character and how building consistent habits make us better parents.

What's something that you do occasionally that would make you a better person and a better parent if you did it consistently? 

Your kids really will be able to tell the difference and it will impact who they are becoming.  

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In season 1 episode 4, Tammy and Josh talked about prioritizing your purpose and your marriage ahead of your kids so that you would be equipped to be an even better parent.

This time, for the first time, we’ll have an episode without Tammy and instead Josh is joined by his longtime mentor and friend Tim.

This topic is specifically for the guys, so ladies, you can tune out for this one and just recommend this episode to some of the men in your life.

This is a podcast about parenting, so why would we dedicate an episode to how to be a better husband? That’s certainly counterintuitive!
Kids need their mom to be at her best, and it’s a big part of our job as dads to make sure that she has what she needs and that we’re on the same page.

We talk through 5 ways that husbands can equip our wives and do our part to equip our kids to develop into successful adults:
She’s for you, not against youYour wife is the most beautiful woman that has ever livedIf you work hard to meet her needs, then she will be freed up to meet your needs better than you can yourself (security, stability, provision)Ask her once in a while if she would marry you (and treat her in a way that you’ll get a ‘yes’)What kind of man do you look up to? A selfish cheater or a selfless supporter?This is far from an exhaustive list, and even these 5 can seem overwhelming, but you can pick one and take one consistent step to enjoy your wife more and more every day.

As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that these concepts are correct or are right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.

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While most of us would say that truth-telling is intuitive, sometimes we still tell "little white lies" or worse, and by our reactions, we as parents can unintentionally incentivize our kids to bend the truth. In this episode, we'll expand the definition of a lie and advocate for the idea of being absolutist in modeling and insisting on truth-telling.

We'll unpack this counterintuitive topic, provide some examples, including an interview with our 14 year old grandson, and leave you with some practical ideas for putting this into practice in your own family.

As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.

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Aren’t strangers supposed to be avoided for real safety reasons?  Yes and no. Kids definitely need to be wary of strangers handing out free candy from a van a half a block from the school, but saying that kids shouldn’t accept rides from strangers or that they should be wary of anything that seems too good to be true is different from not TALKING to strangers.

We'll unpack this counterintuitive topic, provide some examples, including an interview with our 30 year old entrepreneurial daughter, and leave you with some practical ideas for putting this into practice in your own family.

As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.

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Don't set rules for Dating?!?  That sounds disastrous! If we don’t set rules, they’ll do all kinds of crazy out-of-bounds stuff, won’t they?  Yes, without any rules, it would be crazy, but we don’t say there shouldn’t BE rules, but that as parents there are big questions like when to start dating that we need to coach them into creating their OWN rules for.

Our guests in this episode are the authors of "Protecting His Workmanship", a practical interactive and thoroughly Biblical study through which you can allow the Lord to speak His standards of sexual purity into your child’s life. http://www.searchforthetruth.net/store/books/protecting-his-workmanship/ 

This episode isn't just about sex and dating, but has broad application in helping your kids to develop the wisdom and autonomy to be able to set and stick to their own rules for important life decisions.

Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice today.

As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.

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Aren't we supposed to provide the things our kids want and need?!? How are they going to be good kids if we don't manage their finances for them?
In this episode we unpack some of the difficulties and benefits of setting up our kids to make their own economic decisions.

Our Son and his wife will join us as a guest on this episode, and discuss how principles of economic responsibility have benefited them as adults and as a married couple.

Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice today.

As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.

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