Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

Beth Hillman | Parent Coach for Parents of Struggling Teens

Your guide to parenting a struggling teen or young-adult, whether they’re home, transitioning home, or presently in treatment. Parents, say goodbye to exhausting confusion, overwhelm, panic and the unhelpful patterns that keep you and your family stuck. Learn how to develop healthy responses and set healthy boundaries with your teen instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. Experience the relationship-changing power of focusing on your own behavior instead of futile attempts to control your teen. Your guides to Parenting Post-wilderness are Beth Hillman, a life coach for parents of struggling teens and mom to a post-wilderness teen, and part-time co-host Seth Gottlieb, a wilderness therapy guide turned teen and young-adult recovery coach. Their unique combination of experience and training yields candid conversations chock full of practical, actionable tips and tools to smooth the challenges both parents and teens experience surrounding treatment.  Every week, you can expect conversations around: Parenting a struggling teen or young-adult;Setting healthy boundaries with your teen;Treatment options for your struggling teen or young adult;Bringing your kid home from treatment;Parenting skills to support your struggling child;Teen substance abuse, drug addiction, gaming addiction, suicidal ideation, or other teen mental health concerns;How to end power struggles and instead foster healthy communication with your teen or young-adult;And much more.Listen in to discover how parents like you have learned to influence equanimity in the home and rebuild connections with the teens they love. Connect with Beth on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or find more information about working with Beth at www.bethhillmancoaching.com.

  1. 1 dag geleden

    209. Talking to Your Kids About Porn: Prevention Isn’t Enough With Jarrod Hoffman

    🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there! Prevention isn’t going to protect your child from seeing porn. You might think that if you set parental controls, keep devices out of bedrooms, and have the “right” conversations about online safety, you can protect your child from porn, but prevention simply isn’t enough. The reality is that porn can find our kids long before we expect them to encounter it. (Jarrod even shares that the average age of the first encounter is 6!!) Sometimes it comes through a friend. Sometimes an algorithm puts it in front of them. And sometimes, they stumble across it without looking for it at all. That can be a scary thought as a parent. You may worry about what your child is seeing, whether they're becoming exposed too young, or whether bringing up the subject will somehow introduce an idea they haven't encountered yet. You might also feel unsure about what to say, or even embarrassed to start the conversation. In this episode, I’m joined by licensed professional counselor Jarrod Hoffman, who brings both professional experience and his own deeply personal experience with unwanted sexual behavior to this conversation. We talk openly about why shame can make it so difficult for kids to tell their parents what’s going on, and why our relationship with our kids can be one of the most important forms of protection we have. We also talk about why blocking access and setting technology boundaries still matter, but they can't be the whole strategy. If exposure is inevitable, our goal has to be bigger than simply keeping the water out of the boat. We need to make sure our kids know that when something uncomfortable, confusing, or shame-filled happens, they can turn toward us rather than hide from us. And that means talking to your kids about porn, not just once, but regularly, calmly, and in a way that leaves the door open for them to come back to you. In this episode on talking to your kids about porn, we discuss: Why porn can find kids even when they're not actively looking for itHow young kids can be exposed to porn and other sexualized contentWhy prevention and technology boundaries are helpful, but aren't enoughThe role of shame in keeping kids from talking to their parentsWhy connection is such an important part of protecting your childHow to start talking to your kids about porn in a developmentally appropriate wayWhy these conversations need to happen repeatedly rather than just onceHow to create an ongoing invitation for your child to come to you if they need helpWhat parents can learn from kids about the pull and power of sexual contentHow unwanted sexual behavior can be connected to deeper experiences of shame, pain, or disconnectionResources that can help you continue the conversation More about Jarrod Hoffman Jarrod is a licensed professional counselor.  He believes that teens are resilient and that parents are valuable.  He was a teenage boy himself from 2004-2011.  He loves reading books and is still on the fence about Messi or Renaldo.  He's experienced many life-changes like his parents divorce when he was 10 and his dad's death when he was 28.  He strives to help others find healing from wounds and triumph through suffering. You can contact Jarrod at jarrod@jarrodhoffman.com Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  2. 18 aug

    208. Teaching Emotional Resilience to Teens and Young Adults With Dr. Jerry Weichman

    🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there! Teaching emotional resilience isn't about making your teen's life easier. On the contrary. t's about helping them discover they're capable of handling life's hardest moments. If you're parenting a struggling teen or young adult, that can feel almost impossible. Every setback, relapse, or difficult season can trigger fear, making it tempting to step in and protect your child from pain. But what if those challenges are exactly what help build the emotional resilience they'll need for the rest of their life? In this episode, I'm joined again by clinical psychologist and parenting expert Dr. Jerry Weichman to explore what emotional resilience really looks like and how parents can foster it, even if their child is already a young adult. We discuss why resilience can be learned at any age, how overprotecting our children can unintentionally hold them back, and why setbacks or recidivism are often a normal part of lasting change. Whether your child is currently in treatment, transitioning home, or finding their way after treatment, this conversation offers hope and practical guidance for navigating the ups and downs of recovery with greater confidence and trust. In this episode on teaching your teen or young adult emotional resilience, we discuss: Why it's never too late to teach emotional resilienceWhat prevents teens and young adults from developing resilienceHow parents model emotional resilience through their own behaviorWhy protecting your child from every struggle can backfireThe role of adversity in building confidence and resilienceWhy setbacks and recidivism are a normal part of recoveryHow to trust your teen while letting go of what you can't controlThe difference between influence and control in parentingWhy community and honest conversations help parents build resilience tooResources from Dr. Jerry Weichman to support your family More about Dr. Jerry Weichman Dr. Jerry Weichman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist, adolescent mental health specialist, and parenting expert, is the founder and creator of Raising Families, a free-to-access platform and trusted go-to resource for pro-active parents that provides real-life tools, systems and solutions for navigating today’s most common mental health challenges impacting children and families.  Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  3. 11 aug

    207. Don't Wait for a Crisis: Building Support Before Your Teen Needs It

    When your family is in crisis, the last thing you want to do is start the orientation process of finding support. You need help - ASAP.  So that time when things feel a bit calmer, and your teen seems to be doing okay, might actually be the best time to build the support system they'll need for the road ahead. In this episode, Seth Gottlieb joins me to explore why waiting until your family is in crisis often makes it harder to get the right help in place. We discuss the unique roles of therapists, mentors, and parent coaches, why they aren't interchangeable, and how creating a strong support system before problems escalate can make all the difference for both you and your teen. If you're looking for support for parents of struggling teens, we’ll help you think beyond crisis management and toward proactive, long-term support. Whether your teen is returning home from treatment, resistant to therapy, or simply navigating a difficult season, building the right team early can create stronger relationships, better communication, and more sustainable progress. In this episode on support for parents of struggling teens, we discuss: Why it's better to build support before your teen reaches a crisisThe differences between therapists, mentors, and parent coachesHow mentors help teens discover their own goals and build independenceWhy many teens respond differently to mentors than to therapists or parentsWhen to introduce additional support during or after treatmentHow proactive support can reduce the likelihood of future crisesWhy parents often wait too long to ask for help, and how to recognize the signs soonerThe importance of continuing support, even when things seem to be going wellHow parents can shift from crisis management to long-term growth and healthier family dynamics Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  4. 4 aug

    206. What's Behind Your Teen's Behavior? Looking Beyond the Lies, Anger & Power Struggles

    Your teen’s behavior is never just that. They’re not lying because they want to, they’re not missing curfew because they want to annoy you, and they’re not pulling you into power struggles because they enjoy it. There’s always something underneath the behavior, so let’s try to understand. As a parent, it's natural to react to the behavior that's right in front of you. After all, being lied to hurts. Anger feels personal. Deception feels like a betrayal. But when you stay focused on the behavior alone, you can miss what's happening underneath it. In this episode, Seth and I explore how behaviors like lying, manipulation, anger, and avoidance are often protective strategies rather than the root issue. Because even when you've worked hard to become a calmer, safer parent, your teen may still struggle to be honest with you. Creating emotional safety doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long game. You'll also learn why you don't have to address every behavior in the moment, how timing can make all the difference, and how curiosity can open the door to deeper connection instead of another exhausting power struggle. If you've ever wondered why your teen keeps repeating the same behaviors despite your best efforts, this conversation will help you look beyond the surface and respond with greater understanding and intention. In this episode on what's behind your teen's behavior, we discuss: Why lying, anger, and other challenging behaviors are often symptoms, not the real problem.How to look beyond your teen's behavior to understand what's really going on.Why your teen may still hide the truth, even when you're working hard to create a safe relationship.The difference between reacting to behavior and responding with curiosity.How to avoid getting pulled into power struggles that distract from the real issue.Why timing matters when addressing difficult behaviors.Practical ways to create emotional safety and invite honest conversations with your teen.How patience and consistent connection can strengthen your relationship with your child over time. Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  5. 28 jul

    205. Your Teen Has ADHD... Now What? With Lisa Miller & Tatiana Guerreiro Ramos

    Receiving an ADHD diagnosis for your teen can bring a mix of relief, confusion, and a hundred new questions. What does it actually mean? How does ADHD show up beyond the stereotypes? And perhaps most importantly: how can you best support your teen without unintentionally making things harder? In this episode, I'm joined by ADHD and executive functioning specialists Lisa Miller and Tatiana Guerreiro Ramos to unpack what every parent should know about parenting a teen with ADHD. We explore why ADHD looks different from one child to the next, why a diagnosis is only the beginning, and how understanding your teen's brain can completely change the way you parent. Together, we talk about moving beyond shame and labels, recognizing the strengths that often come with ADHD, and making simple but powerful shifts that help your teen build confidence, self-awareness, and lifelong skills. As always, we come back to the idea that, parents, the change begins with us. In this episode on parenting a teen with ADHD, we discuss: Why an ADHD diagnosis is only the beginning, not the full pictureThe different types and presentations of ADHDHow ADHD often looks different in boys and girlsThe strengths and "superpowers" that can come with ADHDWhy parents often receive a diagnosis with very little guidanceHow changing your own parenting approach can transform family dynamicsThe importance of emotional regulation and distress tolerance as a parentWhy curiosity works better than criticism when your teen is strugglingPractical questions that help teens build self-awareness and problem-solving skillsHow reducing friction can make everyday tasks feel more manageableWhy apologizing to your teen can strengthen your relationshipThe value of meeting your teen where they are instead of where you think they should beMore about our guests: Lisa Miller Lisa is a certified Transformational Coach and Director of Classroom Matters, specializing in supporting neurodivergent individuals and their families. With over 20 years of experience in education, she helps people build executive function skills and achieve personal, professional, and academic goals. Tatiana Guerreiro Ramos As the other Director of Classroom Matters, Tatiana works alongside Lisa Miller as an educational advocate, consultant, and certified Transformational Coach. Tatiana works with Bay Area schools and organizations to offer customized professional development for teachers and administrators to better support all students, especially those with learning differences. Tatiana also works closely with families to help them access support and services for their students at school through the 504 plan and IEP processes. Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  6. 21 jul

    204. Parenting a Child With Autism: The Small Moments That Shape a Lifetime With Brittany Moser & Brady Esham

    When your child is diagnosed with autism, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by questions about their future. Will they be okay? Am I doing enough? What actually helps? The encouraging truth is that it often isn't one big breakthrough that shapes your child's future. It's the small, everyday moments of consistency, belief, acceptance, and connection that leave the biggest impact over time. In this episode, I'm joined by Brady Esham, an autistic entrepreneur, mentor, and neuro-affirming systems architect, alongside Brittany Moser, an autism educator and co-founder of the Synchrony app. Brady shares the parenting choices that helped him grow into the confident, driven young adult he is today, while Brittany offers practical insights from years of supporting autistic students and their families. Together, we explore why believing in your child without lowering expectations can make all the difference, how focusing on strengths instead of deficits builds resilience, and why parents deserve just as much support as their children. If you're parenting a young child, teen or young adult with autism, this conversation is a powerful reminder that your presence, your consistency, and the way you show up every day matter more than you may realize. In this episode on parenting a child with autism, we discuss: Why the small moments of parenting often have the biggest lifelong impactHow acceptance and high expectations can exist togetherThe difference between supporting your kid and creating learned helplessnessWhy challenging behaviors often point to lagging skills instead of defiancePractical ways to build resilience, confidence, and a growth mindset in your child with autismThe importance of supporting parents alongside their autistic childHow mentors, community, and belonging help autistic teens and adults thriveResources that help neurodivergent young adults build meaningful connections More About Today’s Guests Brittany Moser Brittany Moser is co-founder of Synchrony, the Director of Learning Design in the Higher Education space and a respected Autism Specialist. With a Master’s degree in Autism Studies and extensive experience in NYC schools, she has dedicated her career to developing innovative tools and resources that enhance the lives of the autism community. Her diverse experience spans from direct support work in NYC schools to transforming organizational practices through her consulting work. Her commitment to understanding and meeting the diverse needs of this population, combined with her expertise in learning design, has established her as a trusted voice in both educational and corporate settings. She consistently seeks out opportunities to develop new resources and methodologies that better serve the autism community and create more inclusive environments across all sectors. Brady Esham Brady Esham, founder of Albus NeuroPolicy Solutions, LLC and Neuro-Affirming Systems Architect at Synchrony is an autistic published researcher, advocate, trainer, consultant with a focus on developing systems that allow all people who have a stake in the Neurodivergent community to feel validated and supported in their work through systems that highlight and honor cognitive differences and reduce cognitive load.  Albus NeuroPolicy Solutions as a company works to center the strengths of organizations and work with them to align their mission with their processes to optimize impact. Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  7. 14 jul

    203. Navigating Your Teen Driver's New Freedom and Responsibilities

    Handing your teen the keys to a car can feel like a huge milestone, for them and for you. It's exciting to watch them gain more independence, but if your teen has struggled in the past, it can also bring up a lot of fear. Can you trust them? Are you giving them too much freedom? What if something goes wrong? The truth is, there isn't one right answer. Every teen is different, every family is different, and every situation deserves its own thoughtful approach. But what if, instead of seeing a car as something you simply give your teen or help them finance, you viewed it as an opportunity? An opportunity to teach responsibility, build trust, practice healthy boundaries, and prepare your teen for adulthood.  When expectations are clear and consequences are discussed ahead of time, a car can become much more than transportation. It can become a valuable learning experience for your teen. In this episode, Seth and I unpack the many decisions that come with having a new teen driver. We talk about how to think through ownership versus borrowing a family car, why responsibility should always come before freedom, and how to support your teen's growing independence without letting fear or anxiety take over your parenting. In this episode on teen driver responsibilities, we discuss: How to decide whether your teen is ready for the responsibility of drivingWhether it makes sense to buy your teen a car, share a family vehicle, or have them earn one themselvesWhy responsibility should always accompany greater freedomHow to set clear expectations and boundaries before handing over the keysWays to rebuild trust if your teen has made unsafe choices in the pastHow to reduce power struggles by letting natural consequences do the teachingWhy your own fears matter and how to make decisions from a place of wisdom instead of anxietyHow to create the right amount of support and independence for the unique teen in front of you Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: → Leaving a review → Subscribing to the show → Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

  8. 7 jul

    202. Why Does My Teen Lie? Understanding the Behavior Behind the Lies

    Before your teen can tell the truth, they need to feel safe enough to do it. When your child lies, it's easy to feel hurt, betrayed, or even disrespected. But what if their lying isn't about manipulating you at all? What if it's simply their brain's attempt to avoid pain, shame, or consequences? In this episode, Seth and I unpack one of the most frustrating challenges parents face: lying. Drawing from our own experiences as both, believe it or not, former teens, and adults working with struggling young people, we explore why lying is such a normal human behavior, why taking it personally often makes things worse, and how the way you respond can either create more defensiveness or open the door to honesty. Instead of focusing on catching your teen in a lie, we invite you to shift your attention to building the kind of relationship where accountability feels safe. Because while you can't force honesty, you can create the conditions that make it much more likely. In this episode on answering the question ‘why does my teen lie?’, we discuss: Why your teen isn’t lying out of disrespect, but a much more sensible reason.How power struggles, lectures, and accusations can unintentionally encourage more lying.The difference between creating accountability and trying to force a confession.Practical ways to respond when you know, or strongly suspect, your teen isn't telling the truth.Why curiosity and emotional safety are far more effective than proving you're right.How changing your own responses can help build more trust and honesty over time. Looking for support? 🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan! 🧘Learn how to respond in hard moments, without losing your cool, the relationship, or yourself, inside my 6-week Boundaries Masterclass. 🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens. Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com You can support the show by: Leaving a review Subscribing to the show Sharing it with another parent! And remember parents, the change begins with us. 🍁 Small GROUP COACHING program starting October 6th & 7th, 2026 🍁 How to Influence Change: Small-group program for parents of struggling teens & young adults. Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups  I hope to see you there!

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Your guide to parenting a struggling teen or young-adult, whether they’re home, transitioning home, or presently in treatment. Parents, say goodbye to exhausting confusion, overwhelm, panic and the unhelpful patterns that keep you and your family stuck. Learn how to develop healthy responses and set healthy boundaries with your teen instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. Experience the relationship-changing power of focusing on your own behavior instead of futile attempts to control your teen. Your guides to Parenting Post-wilderness are Beth Hillman, a life coach for parents of struggling teens and mom to a post-wilderness teen, and part-time co-host Seth Gottlieb, a wilderness therapy guide turned teen and young-adult recovery coach. Their unique combination of experience and training yields candid conversations chock full of practical, actionable tips and tools to smooth the challenges both parents and teens experience surrounding treatment.  Every week, you can expect conversations around: Parenting a struggling teen or young-adult;Setting healthy boundaries with your teen;Treatment options for your struggling teen or young adult;Bringing your kid home from treatment;Parenting skills to support your struggling child;Teen substance abuse, drug addiction, gaming addiction, suicidal ideation, or other teen mental health concerns;How to end power struggles and instead foster healthy communication with your teen or young-adult;And much more.Listen in to discover how parents like you have learned to influence equanimity in the home and rebuild connections with the teens they love. Connect with Beth on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or find more information about working with Beth at www.bethhillmancoaching.com.