The Free to Be Show Cordelia Gaffar

Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)
Why did I begin the Free to be Show?
What makes you feel that are not free to exist?
For the final episode of my podcast, I am speaking freely about the most normalized form of narcissistic abuse and how you alchemize it.
When you experience narcissistic abuse your personality splits into your authentic self and your representative, your mask. It is clinically called Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder, is a complex psychological condition caused by many things. These include severe trauma during early childhood (usually extreme, repetitive physical, sexual, or emotional abuse). It's also known as split personality disorder. Reference 
Interestingly there exists a normalized version of this that may lead to a mental health issue over time for BIPOC in general but especially Black women. The first capture of this phenomenon was in the 1903 book, “The Souls of Black Folk,” written by the late civil rights leader W.E.B. DuBois spoke about Black people surviving by highlighting the need for Black Americans to recognize their double-consciousness, or the two parts of their identity: their Blackness and their “Americanness” — or how they were viewed by white Americans. DuBois talked about double-consciousness, and that’s what code-switching is now,” Dr. Barlow adds. “You had to, for your survival, exhibit that double-consciousness.” Reference Jodi Ann Burrey talks about showing up as your “authentic self” at work as a Black woman is the same as not wearing a custom to a Halloween party in her TED talk The Myth of bringing your full authentic self to work.

This is the beginning of generational trauma or taught imposter syndrome. Because you are always proving to the world that you are someone you are not. And I say all of this to say that the greatest form of narcissistic abuse that occurs is institutionalized racism. Although the “official” dots have not been connected in the American Psychological Association publication created on September 1, 2021 and last updated January 24, 2023 Psychologists are working to develop more effective ways of promoting Black men’s mental health
 
“Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper. Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper while keeping a distance from my brother because I don’t trust him further than I can see him. It’s believing the cops don’t care about you. It’s learning how not to doubt yourself because when you’re born everyone else already does.”
—Poet Prentice Powell, written following the fatal police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, in 2014

“We should place less emphasis on whether Black men are resistant to therapy,” said Stevenson, “and more on understanding the contexts in which they already feel comfortable talking about their feelings and traumas. If a Black man is able to find a treatment that is culturally responsive, that he understands, and that embraces the uniqueness of his difference, he is more likely to use that service.”

And my work is to heal the souls of Black women because they are the pillars of society, the Black crumbling family. As you can see it is a cellular recalibration that has to...

This is an excerpt from my series published now as a course, 13 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Aging. This is day three about your choices and understanding the power of that.
Listen as I share how I chose to create my first birth story. In my ignorance I chose body -mind wisdom over fear. Reflect on your birth story if you have had a child. Mostly listen for the power and gifts of honoring choices that elevate your each and every heartbeat and breath.
#bodywisdom #replnishme #detachedlove #multiorgasmicaging #multiorgasmic #cordeliagaffar #intimacy #selfnurturing #selflove
Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and  CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.
Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research.
This transformative methodology empowers women to be fully expressed and completely embodied in her natural leadership merging ancient wisdom for total well-being. Cordelia's approach builds on her Replenish Me (™) process, featured in "Detached Love" (2020), promoting self-nurturing through food, movement, and sleep.
Now, she offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate group coaching and retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

This is the audio version of my recent LinkedIn article Soul Love vs Carnal Ravaging.
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At the end, I make an invitation to join the 29 day challenge to leap into your intimacy. On my website https://cordeliagaffar.com/, I share all the details of this 29 day DIY experience.
I am here for YOU! Reclaim your Ultimate-Joy! You may not realize it but your body wants you back. Be present in your body like never before.
It’s leap year, which means that we get 29 days in February!
Vibration matters and the vibrational meaning of 29 is
(2) Harmony
(9) Transformation awakening
and in calendar format you get to experience your intimacy transformation with harmony and balance.
There are also journal pages included to capture your experience and voice memos are also highly recommended. Also you may chose to join my private LinkedIn Group (https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12966627/) to enhance your experience.
Mindlessness is the Real Issue: Let’s Make Distinctions

There is sex. And then there is great sex.
There is being orgasmic. And then there is being multi-orgasmic.
Everyone who has sex is not having great sex.
Everyone who has an orgasm may not have more than one.
Most women do not have orgasms. Not even one.
Most men don’t know that they can have more than one orgasm.
Most people don’t know that sex is sacred.
Most people don’t know that when you reach orgasm that is a form of enlightenment.
My call is back to soul love.

#intimacy #soullove #enlightenment #leapyear #healing #medicine

Do you feel shame around money? Is it the same for sex? Or is it more for one than the other?
This episode is for YOU!
In just over 30 minutes you will hear the solution to your internal drama. It is my joy to introduce you to a new friend of mine, Joanna Doiban. 
She teaches the three pillars of wealth - wealth mindset, money organization, easy-bake-oven “investing” to busy women and moms revolutionizing this male-dominated industry from telling you what to do to educating you on how to utilize money intentionality. With a Bachelors in Finance and a Life Insurance license in dozens of states, Joanna is a trailblazer and thought leader in Financial Self-Care and Wealth Education for women. She is a trailblazer and thought leader on wealth energy and wealth planning for women.
She loves to teach female founders adopt wealthy habits (energetically + strategically) so they will always be supported by money throughout their lives
Wealth Activator for Women
Connect with her Want to talk money?
  Let’s grab coffee
https://calendly.com/joannadoibanagency/let-s-grab-coffee  
We can connect on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/joannadoiban/

Join my Private FB group to learn how to be a Money Master here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mamamoneymasters 

Website: www.joannadoiban.com  
#moneymatters #wealthactivatorforwomen #sexandmoney #moneyandsex #womenhelpingwomen #moneyempowerment #wealth #joannadoiban #theulimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #thefreetobeshow

It's a revolution of the heart, a reclamation of the divine feminine within you.
Happy #freetobe #friday

Here are the Deep Dives and Discoveries you will experience listening to the Free to Be Show #podcast today👇🏽

💎Integrate and normalize your sexuality as a core component of mental and emotional well-being.
💎Explore the synergy of nutrition, movement, and spiritual practices in supporting your journey.
💎Uncover your authentic self, free from societal conditioning and limiting beliefs.
💎Understand your unique responses and experiences in intimacy, and how to channel this knowledge in all facets of your life.

It is about:

🧘🏾‍♂️How humans can transcend your slave mind
☮️The importance of giving yourself permission to be free
🥰The importance of beginning within
🎉The power of reinventing yourself 
💎Embodiment is the the truth and the light 
👀Misogynoir 
👉🏾it’s your choice to have sex or hip surgery. 

Listen here 

https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1dc97cc4-48b5-4ecb-b111-d9f5e09a0182

I welcome your questions and comments 👇🏽 below or at hello@cordeliagaffar.com

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc. As a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast, Cordelia guides women on a transformative journey to normalize great sex resulting in being Multi-Orgasmic!!. Her unique methodology, The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022, empowers women to embrace a Multiorgasmic existence through ancient wisdom. Cordelia's holistic approach, including the Replenish Me (™) process, documented in "Detached Love" (2020), invites women to nurture themselves with food, movement, and sleep. Explore joy, enlightenment, and transformative wisdom with Cordelia on The Free to Be Show!​

The Language Maven, Eva Arrissani, on Reinventing Yourself
Today Eva shares her story through her word of the year Reinvent. Listen closely to how she restructures her thinking with every reinvention. Listen to how she creates her choices creatively. Most of all listen for your own story within hers.
She is the creator of three podcasts most recently:
The Word Play Show - learn where to tune in and subscribe! https://www.linkedin.com/events/thewordplayshowwiththelanguagem7153023114556121089/theater/

Allow yourself to be kind to yourself and this conversation gives you a step by step on how to do that!

Originally from Libreville, Gabon, residing permanently in Pretoria, South Africa, Eva ARISSANI is an entrepreneur at heart and a creative thinker. 
She is the Founder and Director of Transcentral Pty Ltd, a South African-based company  specializing in language services and coaching programmes. She is also the Initiator, Co founder, and Executive Director of She Phoenix Femme Phoenix(SPFP), a South African-based NPO which aims at empowering and inspiring the Girl Child, young women, teenage girls,  women of all walks of life. 
She is the Published Author of New Moi New Life: Five Ways to Build a New 'You' and Live  an Extraordinary Life. She is also the Published Co-Author of Intuitive Living: A Practical  Guide for Women Who Want to Deeply Trust Themselves – her chapter is entitled She  Phoenix Femme Phoenix: The Rise. She is currently authoring another book. 
She is the Host of The Language Maven Show.  
She is married and mom to 3 daughters.  
In a nutshell, Eva is a multidimensional global woman juggling business, family, spirituality,  philanthropy and much more, striving to live a balanced life and impact the world in a positive manner.  
Her motto is: “We all have a past. But how it influences our present and our future is up to us.”
Connect with her here https://www.linkedin.com/in/eva-arissani-translation-expert-b539a658/