The Holy F*ck Podcast Krista Kim, Katherine McClelland

Can you make a plan and still be okay if it completely falls apart?
Which one of our Two Gals used to put too much pressure on having the perfect plan? Or is it both?

Happy Holidays, Happy Holidays! Jingle Bells! Christmas trees, holiday decorations, and family get-togethers. That’s so 2019!

We all know 2020 has been a year when we’ve been forced to really see that life is out of our control. Let’s face it. . . most of us pretty much know this year is that we don’t know sh*t!
Will we travel? Will we be in Lockdown? Will we be released to the wild? Nope, no idea!

We’re all in the same boat. It’s just some of us are rowing in circles.
The question remains since we’re so aware we don’t know what’s happening, can we make plans at all? Can we let go of them at the same time?

Sometimes you just need to stop gripping so hard, release and then go deeper and deeper so that you can open up and be flexible. Wait? Are we still talking about making plans?

Find out what’s dirty, who’s rowing through life gracefully, and who might be headed straight for the Titanic.

Listen as the Gals explore Letting Go & Letting God.
As always, Spread the Love.

Xoxo
Katherine and Krista

Have you lost that lovin’ feeling?
Oh, oh that lovin’ feeling!
Bring back the flowing juices, cuz they’re gone, gone, gone.

Hot little topic today! Want to take a guess at which of the Two Gals is juicy and which one is dried up?

You know how it goes…
Sitting in a tree.
K-I-S-S-I-N-G.
First comes love, then comes marriage,
then comes the baby in the baby carriage.

Don’t worry, no baby making over here. How many of us have heard that being “In Love” is short-lived? There’s a difference between being “in love” and loving someone. You need both to keep the juiciness flowing!

Real life stuff happens. Projection. Blame. Fear.
One day you can’t get enough of the juice and the next day you’re ready to throw the juice back in their faces!

Just where does the breakdown happen?
What’s the common denominator when you’re IN LOVE?
What’s the one thing that happens and instantly kills the loving and/or dries you up?

Listen as the gals explore the secret to bring back that lovin’ feeling, how to remain easy + flexible, and how to keep the insurrections low so that the erections will stay high!

As always, Spread the Love.

Xoxo
Katherine and Krista

Are you giving or receiving the mother wound? ... the stepmother wound .. grandmother... where are you in this journey?

As the Gals get into this topic, they look at all the places where the mother wound breaks through. Krista has been working on this for awhile so she’s schooling Katherine and asking some, shall we say, probing questions...

When Krista looks more closely at her own life she has a surprise... How is all this double trouble for Krista?

As the gals stick with the Mother daughter perspective…Krista turns to Bethany Webster’s work to inform this conversation.

We begin to see how we have been only given a filtered version of the women who have gone before.

Sacrifice and Serve: Mainstays of the woman’s role in supporting the patriarchy. In that system, if a woman can’t be the “perfect mother” then she also can’t be a “good person.” Mothering was all about achievement of a good mother status, then, and only then could you do something else. Women subjugated by this wound had to
live up to superhuman standards ...and they are suffocating. Shame guilt and obligation are the results of this type of life. And they pass those on to their children.

The Gals wonder.., How do we get stuck in another century with our mothers and how do we get out of it?

Where is your mother wound landed? In which 4 areas does yours land: Nurture, Protect, Empower, or Initiate? Krista and Katherine have completely different wounds... Listen to find out where that take them.

Empowering only within her reality... mother wound swings generation to generation.

How do we defeat the mother wound?

As always, it’s up to us to take responsibility for our own healing, love ourselves more and dive deep into our own generation wound.

This is not about blame and shame. It’s our work to do now.

On that journey, here are some signs of the mother wound...
Comparison
Shame
Remain small
Sense of guilt for wanting more than I have
Co-dependency
Uncertainty about relationship .. can it be lost?
Protecting sharing caring for your mother
Not being your full self
High tolerance for poor treatment from others
Emotional care taking

This is the time to reparent yourself, not waiting for everyone else to initiate you forward. to be behind me initiating myself forward.

We are the grown ups now and that means we can start bringing this to our kids.

Love yourself, heal this Muther of wound... we love you

Spread the love.

Xoxo
Katherine and Krista

Are the stories about your family really true? Listen as the Gals expose the roots of the Family Tree. Episode 17 has the Two Gals feeling the Earth move under their feet, but is the sky tumbling down? Piggybacking off of last week’s Episode 16 when Krista announced a big thing she might do! Subscribe to our podcast, Link in Bio, to hear what that big thing was!

With so much uncertainty in the world, the Two Gals find themselves looking for solid ground or a safety net. Turning themselves into pretzels to make safety out of something that perhaps wasn’t.

Krista & Katherine think it’s pretty safe to say we all have our stories. Stories we let define us, trigger us, shape us, mold us. Stories that gave us our worldview. Or so we thought! What happens when those stories start to dissolve?

For one of our Gals, it’s meant digging into the roots of her Family Tree. Unearthing her lineage in a way that she wasn’t able to see before! Think about a tree. It grows up and out. Its roots grow down and out. Spreading to create stability, growing unseen and on their own, the roots support us. They give us our core values but can only be sustained if we find them and nurture them.

Do you know your lineage? Do you know who your Grandmother and Great-Grandmother were? Do you know what they were involved in, were they politically active? Do you know if they were like you? Were these stories true? Did they affect your life’s choices?
Sometimes searching means digging for more roots.

Tune in for stories about wild women and legendary men. Hear which of the Two Gals is ready to tap into her Backwoods Background and which is owning her Aristocratic Ancestry!

We’re always here in support of your journey, to share our experience so that you can find confidence to level up your life. We’ve seen amazing results, in and out of the bedroom, and so can you. Reach out to us via DM @kristakimcoaching @katherinemcclellandcoaching.

As always, Spread the Love.

In episode 32, The gals discuss the disappearance of feminine energy in many partnerships and how divorce rates have soared to nearly 70%. The Gals are stepping out on a limb here and boldly suggesting that the divorce rate is due to the absence of the feminine.

Katherine suggests that because everyone is working (even stay at home mom’s have long lists of work to do), no one is holding the feminine energy in partnership anymore. Due to that, relationships have become a battle for resources, (time and money) and power between two masculine energies. While we fight, who is holding the spacious, energetic, patient and kind power of the feminine?

For those who are in the more masculine role in a working or stay at home arrangement, wouldn’t it be nice to come home from work welcomed by a joyful, dancing naked in the kitchen type of person rather than the cranky, bitch-ass, sweats wearing, mope? As both partners learn to honor the self-care needs and practices of the feminine, everyone can start living the life they’ve dreamed of! This is a good thing, right? So why does Krista joke that “We are all fucked?” Listen and find out.

Does the absence of the feminine sound like a joke or, as the gals ask, is it possibly THE First World Problem we are facing today?

As usual, Katherine and Krista are looking for the ultimate holy fuck! Listen as they dive into the mystery of “Where is the Invisible Feminine?” and wonder where the entry point is. The Gals decide not to beat around the bush… but perhaps, truer to themselves in their feminine energy, tickling around the bush is where this energy lies…

Who are you letting swipe your Happy?

Where does your Happy come from? It’s no secret that the Two Gals find their Happy in being silly, going deep, and getting juicy!

Everyone has a different relationship with their Happy/ness. Have you ever had a moment of Happy and want to share it with the world, or chirp it like Katherine did with Mr. Delicious, only to be shut down?

In our culture, people have such a hard time with Happy. As if they can’t believe it to be true. There always seems to be something else going on (Hello, 2020!) that we could make excuses for NOT being happy. Or maybe it’s guilt around being Happy in these days and times.

One thing’s for sure, Krista & Katherine are good at stimulating their own Happy! It’s when other people try to cock-block their Happy that has them worked up.

If we lean into the words of David Whyte, “the world was meant to be free in,” can we accept people for where they are and who they are and still keep our Happy?

How do we stay in our Happy place when the shit is hitting the fan and splattering all over the walls? How do we tell others, as the kids in the 70’s used to say, “don’t harsh my mellow!” (who out there knows this reference?).

Listen as the gals flirt around with this one! There might even be some Marilyn Monroe styling skirt blowing going on!

We’re always here in support of your journey, to share our experience so that you can find confidence to level up your life. We’ve seen amazing results, in and out of the bedroom, and so can you. Reach out to us via DM @kristakimcoaching @katherinemcclellandcoaching and don’t forget to subscribe to our podcast.

As always, Spread the Love.