The Kids or Childfree Podcast Keltie Maguire

In this episode, Keltie is joined by her husband, Chris, for a candid discussion about their decision to be childfree, and namely, how choosing childfree has been for Chris as a man.

The two of them discuss:

Chris's personal journey from ambivalence to confidently childfree

The role of personal and relationship development in their decision-making process, and how they navigated their decision as a couple

The challenges and potential resentment that can arise if one partner wants children more than the other

Topics such as societal pressures, financial considerations, and the desire to maintain their current lifestyle

How societal pressure and expectations around having children are different for men than women, plus Chris's personal experience with nosy questions and naysayers 

Chris's feelings about getting a vasectomy and why he's chosen not to have one

The love they share for their childfree life together, and how they find and create deeper meaning and fulfillment

As mentioned in the show:

Find Christian on:
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christianhaefele/
Instagram: instagram.com/chris_ongram/

Episode 10 with Ruby Warrington on Women Without Kids

Episodes 5 and 6 where Keltie shares her personal journey to being childfree 


About Christian:

Christian Haefele is a mountain enthusiast, dog lover, and avid traveler who lives in Munich Germany, with his wife, Keltie, and dog, Shira. His hobbies include ultra-trail running, hiking, and stand-up paddle-boarding. When he's not adventuring, Chris loves enjoying a craft beer or two and cooking up delicious vegan dishes. Chris has previously lived in Vancouver, Canada, and he works in tech sales providing digital solutions to Germany's largest retailers. 

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Julie Lythcott-Haims — New York Times bestselling author, TED speaker, former Stanford dean, and lawyer — is here to share her wisdom with us on living an authentic life, the impact of helicopter parenting (and how we can break free of this trap, should we choose to become parents), and her experiences as a mom of two adult children.

Hear her and Keltie discuss:
The importance of defining one's unique path in life — and how we can break free of the pressures that surround us.

Julie's personal path to motherhood — including its challenges and rewards.

What Julie is seeing and hearing from young people about the decision to have kids or not.

The danger of today's culture of intensive parenting — and how we can choose to do things differently. Why couples should and can prioritize their own well-being, and take time for themselves to maintain a healthy relationship. 
The challenges of maintaining friendships when one person becomes a parent — and the different values and priorities that can arise.

The profound learning experience of having children.

...and so much more!
As mentioned in the show:

Find Julie online at julielythcotthaims.com.

X: x.com/jlythcotthaims
Instagram: instagram.com/jlythcotthaims
Facebook: facebook.com/jlythcotthaims/

Julie's books:

Real American: A Memoir

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kids for Success

Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

About Julie:

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, public service, and activism. She is a New York Times bestselling author of books on human development, a TED speaker, a former Stanford dean, and a lawyer, and she holds degrees from Stanford University (BA), Harvard Law (JD), and California College of the Arts (MFA). She serves on numerous nonprofit boards whose work focuses on equity, education, youth, wellness, and the arts. Julie lives in Palo Alto, California with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. She is a member of the Palo Alto City Council.

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In this conversation, we hear from Katherine Ripley, a licensed clinical social worker and somatic therapist, about how difficult childhood experiences can influence and shape the decision of whether or not to have children. 

Keltie and Katherine discuss:
The role of anxiety as a defense against emotion and how it can prevent us from connecting with our bodies and core emotions. The importance of curiosity, compassion, and listening to the different parts of ourselves when making decisions.  How childhood trauma can shape our desires and fears around parenthood.  The concept of parentification and how it can influence the decision to have kids or not. Emotional regulation and taking ownership of our emotions when considering parenthood. ...and many other topics related to difficult childhood experiences and the Kids or Childfree decision.

As mentioned in the show:

Find Katherine on:
Instagram: instagram.com/therapy.with.katherine/
Tiktok: tiktok.com/@therapywithkatherine

Get the details on Katherine's upcoming "The Practice of Presence" course, here:
katherineripleytherapist.com/online-course

About Katherine:
Katherine Ripley is a licensed clinical social worker, offering both individual therapy and group coaching programs. She works with adult survivors of child abuse and childhood emotional neglect. She uses primarily somatic methods to support people in processing their emotions through their bodies. Her work is also based in attachment theory.
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Join us for a conversation with Dutch writer, illustrator, and artist, Marloes de Vries. We discuss her book 'Kinderen krijg is optioneel' (Having Children is Optional) and Marloes' decision to be childfree.

You'll hear about:
The pressures Marloes' felt from society and how she took time to reflect and be alone to solidify her decision.

The importance of being true to yourself and finding contentment in your own company. The process of writing and illustrating her book and the need for more accessible and humorous resources on the topic of being childfree.  Why women need to make conscious decisions about motherhood and to consider the impact it will have on their lives.

The freedom and opportunities that come with being childfree, such as pursuing a career as an artist, as Marloes has done.

A discussion about regretting your Kids or Childfree choice — including the messages she receives from parents ...and so much more. 

As mentioned in the show:

Find out more about Marloes and her work at marloesdevries.com/en.

Get Marloes' book, Kinderen krijgen is optioneel at kinderenkrijgenisoptioneel.nl

Find Marloes on Instagram: instagram.com/marloesdevee/

About Marloes:

Here's Marloes in her own words...

"Artist and author, and a freelancer for over 25 years. Based in the Netherlands, in love with the UK. Been with my partner for almost 9 years (who's also childfree). In 2016 I wrote an article about not wanting to have children for a Belgian magazine, which went viral online. I got asked to write a book on it but wanted to wait a few years until I understood how I felt exactly, and I wanted to do a lot of research on this topic. I had already been reading up on the topic for quite a few years by then, but dove in deeper since then. I questioned over 250 people (mostly women) about being childfree, and did in-depth interviews with 12 women for my book. I've read pretty much every article I could find online on this topic, and researched sexism and feminism related to child bearing. Since my book was published in November 2023 (Kinderen krijgen is optioneel / Having children is optional) I've done many interviews, and am contacted regularly by the Dutch media as a consultant on the childfree topic. My main viewpoint is that everyone should be free to make the decision of becoming a parent, but I strongly believe everyone should mindfully think about it before making a decision. I also believe you should consider the life of your unborn child before getting pregnant, because this is a choice that goes beyond 'do I want kids?'. It isn't about you, it's about the human you're putting on this earth."

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In this conversation, we hear from Jane van Dis, M.D., an OB-GYN who specializes in women's/maternal health and its intersection with reproductive justice — both in terms of Jane's personal experience of motherhood and how her professional insights and expertise can help inform your own choice. 

You'll hear about:
The idea of informed consent in understanding the potential effects of pregnancy and childbirth on a woman's body and overall well-being.

The impact of environmental toxins, such as plastics and chemicals, on women's health and the potential risks they pose to pregnancy. Climate change and its potential consequences on future generations when making decisions about having children.

The complexities of ethical decision-making in today's world. Global population growth and declining birth rates, alongside the possibility of mandated motherhood

...and many more fascinating areas of discussion.
As mentioned in the show:

Bumpin’ and Fertility Rules by Leslie Schrock (Medical Editor, Jane van Dis, M.D.)

Under The Sky We Make by Kimberly Nicholas

Generation Dread by Britt Wray

Eve by Cat Bohannon


About Jane:
Jane van Dis, MD is an Assistant Professor of Obstetrics & Gynecology at the University of Rochester and faculty in the Institute for Human Health and the Environment. She lectures nationally and internationally on the intersection of the climate crisis and women's/maternal health. She Co-Founded OBGYNs For Sustainability and TIMES UP Healthcare and Co-Admins OB Mom Group. Dr. van Dis is an Editor at the Journal of OB Hospitalist Medicine and is a single mom to twins.
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In this episode, Keltie reflects on the insights and takeaways from the first season of The Kids or Childfree podcast. 

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