WTF is 'the Authentic Self' Anyway‪?‬ Spicy Fat

Have you ever been sold a course or experience that promises to connect you to your authentic self? In this episode, Carlen reflects on the grifting culture that can often convince you that you aren’t good enough and need to be more authentic. She discusses the concept of "finding one's authentic self." While exploring her own journey, she reflects about authenticity in society; it is not just about when we feel happy or powerful. She concludes that when it's implied that people aren’t authentic in their everyday lives, it can negatively impact our mental health. Carlen explores some common themes that seem to be recurring in recent sessions within her psychotherapy practice. Carlen challenges the idea that authenticity is something to be sought after, emphasizing that we are already authentic in our responses and experiences. She encourages listeners to embrace all aspects of themselves and make choices that align with who they are. Carlen leaves listeners with a few exercises for embracing your already authentic self.
Takeaways

Authenticity is not something to be sought after; we are already authentic in our responses and experiences.

Embrace all aspects of yourself, including the uncomfortable and vulnerable parts.

Make choices that align with who you are and what you truly want.

Normalize discomfort and make room for the tough stuff in relationships and personal growth.

Practice self-compassion and acceptance in times of uncertainty.


In this episode, Carlen mentions her book: https://www.carlencosta.com/thelovebook