Awesome Marriage Podcast Dr. Kim Kimberling

Today we answer some of the most frequently asked questions we hear about sex. Dr. Kim and Christina covered this on an episode in 2021, and we’ve distilled their conversation into the most timeless and practical answers to common sex questions. 
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  
Episode highlights include:  
How often is “normal”?
Dealing with dead sex drive 
Is oral sex ok in marriage? What about anal?  Is there such thing as too much sex when trying to conceive? 
How to start talking to your kids about sex 
What do do if your spouse withholds sex
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 
QUOTES 
“Guys, you have to continue to be romantic.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 
“I wanted my kids to talk to me about sex before they went to a friend or read it on a bathroom wall or a magazine. You want that door to be open.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 
“You need to honor each other and respect each other’s body to honor God in marriage.” - Christina Dodson
“Guys, if you please your wife first, does it really matter when you orgasm? There's this unspoken pressure.” - Christina Dodson 
“There’s always an answer. I’ve never had a couple we couldn’t figure out an answer for.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Stay at the comfort level of the one who is least comfortable. If you do that, you’re going to be ok.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 
 
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
Sign up HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode 
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Resources we recommend for starting the sex conversation with your spouse
Celebration of Sex
Lovemaking Survey
Resources we recommend for talking to your kids about sex: 
Don’t Mom Alone Podcast Ep 328 
Full Set - God's Design for Sex Series: Revised and Updated Edition by Stan Jones, Brenna Jones 
We’re delighted to partner with The Sex Talk, an excellent online course to help you navigate this topic well 
 

Trust in marriage is not one-size-fits all. There are many areas where your marriage needs trust in order to thrive, and some might matter to your spouse more than they do to you, and vice versa. So today we’re talking about how to navigate any trust gaps you may have with your spouse, how to start the conversation about it, and rebuild what’s been broken so you both feel more connected and secure in your marriage.
 
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 
 
Episode highlights include:  
Several types of trust marriages need, and why they matter
The side effects of missing trust 
Simple steps to catch a trust slip-up so that trust is not broken
Specific trust-killers you need to avoid 
How to build trust - and keep it
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 
 
QUOTES 
“It helps to build trust if you accept me as I am, not as you wish I would be.” - Lindsay Few 
“I may not even be aware if I did something that affected the trust, and I want to know.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling 
“If it’s important to her and it keeps coming up, I want her to tell me about it.” Dr. Kim Kimberling 
“I’d be so offended when he didn’t trust me, but when I think about the reality, I wasn’t trustworthy.” - Lindsay Few 
“Trust is between two people. It’s not just your perception of yourself.” - Lindsay Few 
“It’s not like we quit making mistakes, it’s just that we handle them differently now.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling 



MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
What would happen if you took the next 4 weeks to reframe your spouse and your marriage with a biblical approach? Cultivate a better perspective – and a better marriage, with our Reframing Challenge
Sign up HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode 
Does your sex life need a reboot? Improve your sex life with our Locking Lips Kissing Game! 
If your marriage has been damaged by p**n, the Marriage Undefiled Online Course provides a path to rebuild trust and repair your marriage.  
Click HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode! 
The free printable Weekly Check Up is a simple way to keep short accounts and keep building trust.

Does lust have a place in marriage? What sets it apart from sexual desire? Today we’re working through the reasons this question matters for your marriage, and how to have a marriage that glorifies God in every aspect, including how you steward your sexual desires. 
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 
Episode highlights include:  
 Defining the difference between lust and desire, biblically 
The godly purposes for sexual desire in marriage
Specific reasons why misused sexual desire is destructive 
How to maintain purity in marriage 
Why porn affects your marriage even if your spouse doesn’t know you use it
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

QUOTES 
“Lust is more about what you see, what you’re attracted to and what it can do for you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“In the Bible, it’s not like they lived in a Puritanical culture at that time. No, it was probably every bit as bad…we just access things in a different way now.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“If we look at Scripture, lust was never mentioned in a positive light.” - Lindsay Few 
“We won’t ever clear that bar, but he’s taken care of it through his life, death and resurrection, so there is grace and forgiveness.” - Lindsay Few 
“The best sex is within the context of a Christian marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“If it’s reduced to that ‘just get it over with’ kind of situation, whoa. Red flag. The goal is not just to satisfy the urge, the goal is mutual enjoyment, pleasure, connection and building of the marriage.” - Lindsay Few
“Vulnerability is uncomfortable, but it can lead you to prevent something a lot more painful.” - Lindsay Few 
 
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  
If your marriage has been damaged by porn, our free  5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar with Dr. Kim is a great first step toward healing
Our Marriage Undefiled Online Course with Matt Cline takes a deeper look at ways to heal and restore your marriage 
Sign up HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode 
Getting Your Sex Life Off To A Great Start by Cliff & Joyce Penner
The Gift of Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner
The Best Way to Affair Proof Your Marriage (Past Episode) 
Does your sex life need a reboot? Improve your sex life with our Locking Lips Kissing Game! 
 

Most couples are not going to be completely aligned with sex drive. There are a lot of factors that  can cause this, but there are also a lot of solutions!
Today we want to equip you to have a productive approach to making your sex life the best it can be in marriage. 
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 
 
Episode highlights include:  
Why is it so hard to have a productive conversation about sex? 
Should the lower-drive spouse “just do it” for the spouse’s sake? Why or why not? 
Why respecting your wife’s drive level helps her feel sexy 
Ways to respect your spouse’s drive 
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 
 
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
What would happen if you took the next 4 weeks to reframe your spouse and your marriage with a biblical approach? Learn how to have a better perspective – and a better marriage, with our Reframing Challenge
Does your sex life need a reboot? Improve your sex life with our Locking Lips Kissing Game! 
If your marriage has been damaged by porn, the Marriage Undefiled Online Course provides a path to rebuild trust and repair your marriage.  
Click HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode! 
 

Do you hope to break generational patterns of pain? Are childhood hurts haunting your marriage? Today’s guest Kristen Hallinan is a writer and speaker, and today she helps you see how to identify and break generational patterns to find hope, healing and redemption.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 
 
Episode highlights include:  
 How your past trauma can affects your current reactions 
What makes it so hard to break cycles 
Red flags of unhealthy family dynamics 
How to work with God to find his redemption 
Steps to making a redemption plan for your marriage 
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 



QUOTES
“It can be easy to say, ‘Why didn’t I know better?’ You didn’t know better because that’s all you knew.” - Kristen Hallinan 
“The more I’ve gotten to know who God is, the more I understand who I am.”- Kristen Hallinan 
“I used to believe if I just tried hard enough, I could grow up and create this perfect family.” - Kristen Hallinan 



MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
Sign up HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode 
Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar 
Dr. Kim recommends the book, The Body Keeps the Score 
Grab Kristen’s book, Legacy Changer for more great info on the topic
Follow Kristen on Instagram and check out her website

Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward. 
 
Don’t miss the conclusion to Kathy’s story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 
 
Episode highlights include:  
Reasons that abused spouse don’t trust their own judgment
Steps to get out of an abusive marriage
Is it ever appropriate to intervene if you believe someone is being abused? 
What the process of healing looks like after you get safe
 
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 



QUOTES
“One of the hallmarks of an unsafe relationship is confusion.” - Kathy McAtee Young  
“God sees you. He cares. And he is faithful.” - Kathy McAtee Young 
“We don’t want your pity. Compassion, yes. There is a difference.” - Kathy McAtee Young
“Healing is a lifestyle, not a finish line.” - Kathy McAtee Young 
“When you can name it, then you can process it.”  - Kathy McAtee Young


MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/
Visit Kathy’s website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers 
Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram 
This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse
Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541