In The Refined Collective podcast, host and author of Sexless in the City, Kat Harris creates a safe space to have honest conversations around faith, sexuality, relationships, politics, identity, Christian culture, deconstruction, and more.
*What does the Bible really say about sex?
*How does our faith impact our politics?
*Is Christianity at odds with science?
*Is the Bible still relevant?
From purity culture, to deconstruction, dating apps, and LGTBQ+ issues—there’s no topic that’s off the table.
In this podcast Kat doesn’t pretend to be an expert, or to have all the answers about faith or Christianity. And though it’d be more convenient to have easy black-and-white answers, she invites you to discover God in the grey and unexpected spaces. Her hope is to look doubt in the face, be curious, seek God, and ask meaningful questions to address any ‘elephant in the room’ with openness, nuance and grace.
Ask Kat: How to Be an LGBTQ+ Ally, Interfaith Relationships, and Bridgerton
Welcome back to another Ask Kat episode! If you’re new here, I answer questions on IG stories every Monday but it’s so hard to answer them in 15 seconds! So I created a podcast series where I can give more in depth answers to your nuanced questions. You can listen to the first Ask Kat episode here. This time around, I’m talking all things Bridgerton, being an LGBTQ+ ally, interfaith relationships, and my own physical boundaries in dating.
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My Egg Freezing Experience
If I did things ‘God’s way’, wouldn’t God bless me with the partner + kids I have always longed for? It never occurred to me to learn what other options were available to me. It felt heart breaking to even begin to research my fertility options at age 34—because it felt like an admission of being in a place that I never wanted to be in: single + childless. In this podcast episode, I’m sharing my process of choosing to freeze my eggs, the logistics of the actual procedure, the results, costs, and…is it worth it?
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Meditation for Gratitude
For mental health May–I did something new! I created three meditation podcast episodes under 10 minutes! If you missed the first two, check them out:
Meditation for burnout (listen here). Meditation for anxiety by Jackie Viramontez (listen here). Now, I’ll be leading you through meditation for gratitude. Use code REFINED for 20% off sitewide at SmileBrilliant.com.
Meditation for Anxiety with Jackie Viramontez
I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three episodes of TRC will be guided meditations. First up was meditation for burnout (listen here). This week, my friend Jackie Viramontez will be guiding us through a meditation for anxiety.
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When You Feel BURNED OUT
How do you seek God when you don’t know if you believe the way you used to?
How do you move forward in your faith when it feels like it’s in shambles?
How do you experience God outside of Sunday church?
I’m no expert, but I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three episodes of TRC will be guided meditations. First up: meditation for burnout.
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Deconstruction Part III: What Would Jesus Do?
This is Part III of a series on deconstruction. In Part I, we ask “What exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it?” In Part II, we ask “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Christian?” This week, we’ll be asking “What would Jesus do? How then shall we live?”
What has your relationship to doubt been? What would it look like for you to replace certainty with faith? Did anything resonate with you in the ocean + boat metaphor? If so, what?