Boy Girl Mom & Dad BoyGirlMom.Com, Lauren & Nick Mulenos

Our first episode in the Dear Mama series is with Haven Weits of the Haven! Podcast. Enjoy our candid conversation on how everyone can be a cool mom. Haven takes us on a journey with her free range / lighthouse parent parenting style. This episode serves as a great reminder and resource for all parents and caregivers, especially helicopters!
 
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Haven! The Podcast Website: https://www.havenpod.com/
Haven! The Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haventhepodcast
Haven! The Podcast Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@haventhepodcast
Haven! The Podcast Email: Hello@Havenpod.com
Pete’s Dragon (1977) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0076538/
Circle of Security: https://www.instagram.com/circleofsecurity/
Yes Day Book: https://amzn.to/44n5D0o
Yes Day Film on Netflix starring Jennifer Garner, Jenna Ortega 
Haven! The Podcast: Gentle Parenting-ish: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2xC7QWZoXh9EuQdWTgJ08S
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Haven! The Podcast: The Mentor Mentee Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ed2BS9N1j4mEm92zAjJPk
Dr. Becky Kennedy's Book Good Inside: https://amzn.to/3omB4Yf
Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish: https://amzn.to/3pMqRoS
Tips and Etiquette for Visiting Families with a New Baby Part 1 Episode 23: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3DIhpu3meVj2cRbImYhFe0
Tips and Etiquette for Visiting Families with a New Baby Part 2 Episode 24: https://open.spotify.com/episode/06QnTxhozCPTocP5dE7ZFHf
Super Kitties: https://disneynow.com/shows/superkitties
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Haven the Podcast! Why are you People Pleasing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0OwnRvLDSFWswEsVjovV5n
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey: https://amzn.to/3XMRkPX
Sissy Goff and David Thomas Library
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: https://bit.ly/3QCdUZl
The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff LPC-MHSP: https://amzn.to/47AGdx4
Raising Worry Free Girls by Sissy Goff MEd, LPC-MHSP : https://amzn.to/3q5BG5M 
Radical Candor by Kim Scott: https://bit.ly/3yavKw8
Thoughts on the word perfect:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4AM8gGZ2WTxw9i7APxPiQp
 
00:00:24 - Intro
00:02:08 - Tiff - Forks
00:06:55 - Disneyland
00:09:20 - Free Range Parent
00:18:21 - Hardest Part about Being A Lighthouse Parent
00:25:16 - How To Be A Cool Mom
00:27:28 - Yes or No
00:31:36 - It's Not Fear Based
00:34:03 - Managing or Enabling?
00:37:59 - Treating Kids Uniquely
00:42:58 - Siblings Without Rivalry
00:49:56 - Commercial - Lunya
00:56:11 - What Do You Hope to Pass To Your Kids?
00:56:58 - Super Kitties Affirmations
00:59:09 - Weits Family Roll Call
01:00:04 - Boundaries Are Love
01:04:14 - Hurt or Injured?
01:11:39 - How Are You Feeling?
01:14:41 - It Takes Two: A Special Book for Twins
01:16:12 - Favorite Free Range Parenting Books
01:16:29 - Haven! The Podcast Book Club
01:22:23 - Favorite Parenting Advice
01:27:10 - How To Contact Haven
01:28:03 - Closing

A short and sweet episode discussing the Nick’s solo episode, perfectionism, and the Dear Mama series we are starting this May, in honor of Mother’s Day!
 
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Episode 41: Mom Rage is a Dad Problem: https://open.spotify.com/episode/31hSyy02FuSjSsmLBIJysR
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself by Dr. Morgan Cutlip: https://amzn.to/3LusGyH
Hey Mama Co: https://bit.ly/3Na597m
For The Moms by Katie Dickens: https://www.forthemoms.online/
Episode 4: Mother’s Day and Miscarriage
Episode 10: Do Mom Friends Exist IRL: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ucrXHj0JY1NrEPip3biTo
Episode 25: The Supermom Myth: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2546JxFM48hTMno8QCtRhH
April was Financial Literacy Month:
Bunny Money by Rosemary Wells: https://bit.ly/3UoN5cg
I am Money by Julia Cook and Garrett Gunderson https://bit.ly/44nQ6hx
 
00:00:37 - Intro
00:01:45 - Tiff
00:08:29 - Are We Pursuing Perfection?
00:15:55 - Commercial - Lunya
00:23:49 - Closing

It’s just Nick this week! We’re diving into WHY Mom’s anger can be justified and HOW we as Dad’s / equal partners can step UP to share the beautiful burden of parenting. We’re all in this together, and our kids NEED equal partners. Join me this week as I take over the podcast and talk through how we can be better partners, ALL of us.
 
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Product References
It Takes Two: A Special Book for Twins - https://a.co/d/iU87t0c
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/45B1gPT
Fair Play Deck: https://amzn.to/3P08Mg5
The Productivity Problem Episode 29: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yAHaLrE8uvswPo8S7UB2n?si=767870ca0b9142ea
Episode 21: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mOYwZpsWc5BK4fU86Yv7a
Episode 22: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1nICZEqeKUq5O64CrpmxGR
 
Articles References
Mom Rage is a Dad Problem - https://sarapetersen.substack.com/p/mom-rage-is-a-dad-problem
Why Mom Dismisses Dad’s Help - https://www.moms.com/why-mom-dismisses-dads-help/
Parenting as a Mom vs. Parenting as a Dad - https://www.zawn.net/blog/parenting-as-a-mom-vs-parenting-as-a-dad
Tension with our Kid’s Mom Deeply Affects Our Fathering - https://fathers.com/blog/topics/your-marriage/tension-with-our-kids-mom-deeply-affects-our-fathering/
 
Chapters
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:53 - Aggressive Podcast Title
00:04:51 - Understanding Mom Rage and Dad Privilege
00:16:08 - Why Moms dismiss Dad's Help
00:31:23 - Commercial - It Takes Two: A Book for Twins
00:33:35 - Parenting Perspectives between Mom & Dad
00:43:32 - Navigating Parenthood Together
00:51:23 - Quotes from the articles

A relaxed conversation looking back over the last 365 (366?!) days of boy girl mom (and dad.) We chat about our favorite (and least favorite) parts, as well as some other topics we have been meaning to discuss, but haven’t found the time along with what we think success (in a podcast) looks like, imposter syndrome, money, and more. Thank you for being on this journey with us!!
 
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Personal Blog: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/
Episode 39 Hey Toddler Parents, How Y’all Doing? https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VhtO6lm3R1Q01cb6FAfye
Boy Girl Mom & Dad Podcast AFTER DARK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWWCfQE0xbo&ab_channel=BoyGirlMom
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Episode 36: Travel to Europe with Toddlers?! https://open.spotify.com/episode/5aowQukDjXsP1J7DWrEOJ5
Episode 29: The Productivity Problem: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yAHaLrE8uvswPo8S7UB2n
Episode 25: The Supermom Myth: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2546JxFM48hTMno8QCtRhH
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/45B1gPT
Fair Play Deck: https://amzn.to/3P08Mg5
Episode 21: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mOYwZpsWc5BK4fU86Yv7a
Episode 22: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1nICZEqeKUq5O64CrpmxGR
Why Gender Matters, Second Edition by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3pmBH54
Episode 12: Girl Mom vs Boy Mom Culture: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f0WKo844LNty2I5paR4mq
Episode 16: Boys are from Mars, Girls are from Venus: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TXUeHI0fNm56XKBdZpeVJ
Primally Pure Spa: https://primallypure.com/pages/spa
Trash Truck: https://www.netflix.com/title/80234731
Cabinet Lock Magnet Sets: https://bit.ly/4d2KME3
Adhesive Strap Locks: https://bit.ly/3W0Gabp
Favorite Bottle with a straw for toddlers: BKR Teeny with straw lid and straw: https://bit.ly/4cRw0Qu
Burts Bees Baby Beekeeper Sleep Sack up to size XL: https://bit.ly/3JmoAr1
Episode 25: Potty Training Twins: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4htHGyQSBWKxeusiwgm6LD
One Proud Toddler Potty Seat: https://bit.ly/3JkSCLN
Toothbuds Pediatric Dentist: http://www.toothbuds.com/
Traveling to London with Twin Toddlers: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/blogfeed/travel-guide-london-with-twin-toddlers
Uber with car seats: https://www.uber.com/us/en/ride/car-seat/?city=wichita
Alto Car Service: https://ridealto.com/dallas-fort-worth
Are Actually Moms Coddling Their Sons: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL8wMwnw/
Nurtured First Account: https://www.instagram.com/nurturedfirst/
Don’t make drastic decisions the first year of birth https://www.instagram.com/p/C4Lyg2Fvh0L/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
 
00:00:05 - Intro
00:02:00 - Tiff
00:05:49 - Structured vs. Unstructured Podcasts
00:14:58 - Favorite Episode We Recorded This Year
00:16:12 - What Has Been The Hardest Part Of Podcasting This Last Year
00:21:39 - Is Doing The Podcast Worth It To Lauren?
00:26:26 - BGMAD Dad Hats
00:27:38 - What's Your Favorite Thing You've Learned During This Past Year?
00:32:00 - What Is Your Favorite Moment From The Past Year?
00:39:39 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:41:10 - 'Random' Things On Our Minds
00:41:35 - Screen Time
00:44:15 - Toddler Sleep Issues
00:45:33 - Drawer and Cabinet Protectors
00:47:22 - Dropping Pacifiers
00:49:06 - Transitioning Off Of Bottles
00:50:59 - Transitioning Off Of Sleep Sacks
00:51:39 - When Did We Begin Potty Training?
00:57:03 - Asking 'Are You Going To Have More Kids'?
01:00:00 - Did We Bring Our Car Seats To Europe?
01:05:53 - Are Mom's Coddling Their Sons?
01:07:52 - Nurtured First Social Accounts
01:09:00 - Don't Make

An honest conversation around the joys and challenges of raising a toddler (or two) so you know you’re not alone… unless you want to be! We chat not only about the hardships of these transitions in regard to parenting, but also how it has affected us as partners and husband and wife. Also, can someone tell us the key for getting stains out of clothing? We assume keeping them stain free is not an option. Ah, the joys of childhood!
 
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Boy Girl Mom and Dad uses affiliate links. By clicking on certain hyperlinks and/or buying a product, you may help us make a small commission off your purchase. It's links like this that help keep us going. Thank you for your support!
 
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Milk Street Baby Branch Crib: https://bit.ly/3LXBttb
Milk Street Baby Toddler Attachment: https://milkstreetbaby.com/collections/toddler-bed-conversion-kits/products/branch-toddler-bed-conversion-kit
Colgate Kids Mattress: https://bit.ly/3MdK7Do
Mushie Fitted Cribsheet: https://bit.ly/3vLVUV6
Hanna Andersson Baby Blanket: https://bit.ly/3VTuZBn
Makemake organics toddler quilt : https://bit.ly/49B7Yq6
Makemake organics toddler pillowcase: https://bit.ly/3JbFRmz
Parachute Home Toddler Pillow: https://bit.ly/3TQayms
Hatch Sound Machine: https://bit.ly/3VUS1Ik
Episode 35: Potty Training Twins: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4htHGyQSBWKxeusiwgm6LD
 
00:01:01 - Intro
00:01:17 - Tiff
00:06:02 - Toddler Parents... Are Y'all Okay?
00:07:01 - Why Did No One Prepare Me For 2s?
00:08:23 - Toddlerhood Questions From The Audience
00:08:36 - Favorite Parts of the Toddler Phase
00:10:37 - We Took A Much Needed Trip
00:14:54 - We Had A Few Fights...
00:21:31 - Self Care Saturday
00:30:30 - Time Is Compressed with Toddlers
00:32:37 - We're Both AT Capacity
00:38:31 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:39:26 - What Would You Tell Your Pre-Toddler Self?
00:41:31 - Get Ready To Submit
00:47:17 - Favorite Parts Of The Toddler Phase
00:49:40 - Least Favorite Parts Of The Toddler Phase
00:54:23 - When Did We Transfer To Toddler Beds?
01:00:52 - Closing

Part two of a conversation about body knowledge regarding our children in both the mental and physical space. Special guests author Kayla J.W. Marnach and body neutral personal trainer + coach entrepreneur Kami Blease discuss SA prevention, body positivity + neutrality, resisting societal norms like diet culture, food consumption, exercise, and more. Tune in to see how you can retrain your (adult) brain and unlearn body negativity and trauma, so you can try to not only limit your child's exposure to them, but build a foundation that can withstand it. 
 
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Kami Blease: https://www.instagram.com/kamiblease
Kayla J.W. Marnach:
https://www.kaylajwmarnach.com/
The Can Do Kids Series:
My Body’s Mine: A Book on Boundaries and Sexual Abuse Prevention: https://bit.ly/3TBmBnt
Mi Cuerpo Es Mío: Un Libro sobre Límites Personales del Cuerpo y Prevención de Abuso Sexual: https://bit.ly/4cx59sQ
I’ll Always Remember: A Book on Grief and Loss: https://bit.ly/3Tq19BK
I Can Do That: A Book on Self-Regulation: https://bit.ly/3IUh2eK
My Actions Matter: A Book on Life Values: https://bit.ly/3xdLNsD
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 2: Please Don’t Say That To My Children: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5m1WSKGTR0auaBOhTAG3qL
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Don’t Hug Doug by Carrie Finison: https://bit.ly/3SG510T
Before the age of 7, the brain doesn’t have the ability to reason:  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL2QL3Bn/
Daniel Siegel: https://bit.ly/4a8lL8N
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
The Help by Kathryn Stockett: https://bit.ly/3TzueuH
How to talk to your kids about their bodies (don’t): https://www.instagram.com/p/C2NEl4kuI6u/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ%3D%3D
Sleepover monsters don’t look like monsters: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLYSL74v/
Engine Plates for regulating kids’ emotions:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo4Ec1V8yoM&ab_channel=4KIDSUS
Emotions Posters for Kids: https://bit.ly/4a4AIIS
Quiet on the Set documentary: https://www.vudu.com/content/browse/details/Quiet-on-Set-The-Dark-Side-of-Kids-TV-Too-Close-to-the-Sun/2994229?cmp=OrganicSearch~Vudu~GoogleWatch
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by: Lindsay C. Gibson: https://bit.ly/3uV6uc7
Good Moms have Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman: https://bit.ly/49h6bGp
Birds and Bees Course: https://bit.ly/3pDR9to
Teach kids their anatomically correct body parts: https://www.tiktok.com/@nashvillepodcastnetwork/video/7339203374354533674?_r=1&_t=8kgJ9RRqVkR
PANTS rule 4 kids: https://www.instagram.com/p/CywvWBaIkRl/
Killer Bee Tactical: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34
Killer Bee Tactical Kid Phone Work arounds: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34/video/7241953274612501802
Bark Phone: https://www.bark.us/learn/the-bark-phone/
Bark Phone Monitoring App: https://www.bark.us/?
Why Gender Matters, Second Edition by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3pmBH54
Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/46WR2tY
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://amzn.to/3OckOUL
The Party Freeze Dance song: https://open.spotify.com/track/5n5IxMcG2oV8IOzklsW6Vd
Triggering things you may be saying around food: https://www.instagram.com/p/C4t2JNwAvyA/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
I Love My Body by Mother Moon: https://bit.ly/493lUJa
There’s a Yeti in my Tummy by Meredith Rusu: https://bit.ly/4ctgyKj
What do you say when someone says they need to earn their brunch: https://www.threads.net/@medafounder/post/C4tjkKQACSt/?xmt=AQGzQFoRhXtnkDkj9zr0AQUVsPeHmW5fSU2GmV7QBu_mIg
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