Erasing Shame Christian Asian Mental Health

Gracie Joo is a 2nd generation Asian-American and daughter of a Korean pastor. She illustrates and magnifies God’s heart for specific burdens that pastors' kids are born into with stories about her upbringing. These illustrations involve and are not limited to Dollar Tree Christmases, hand-me-downs from church eonnies, car misfortunes, a gifted and personalized Lexus, and the Holy’s Spirit's timely providence of friendship and perceptive reflection.

God’s heart for pastors’ kids goes beyond the rebellious-or-faithful-pastors’-kid spectrum. The Church has a special opportunity to demonstrate God’s compassion and not merely take from a pastor’s family. Church members often place Pastors’ kids on high and unwanted pedestals with a scrutinous gaze, as if the kids’ behavior measures the faith of their parents. In this conversation, Victoria Cheng and Gracie Joo peel back a few personal layers and dig into socialized legalism and their Asian immigrant church experience.


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Dr. Brian Licuanan is a licensed psychologist in Orange County, California, and shares about how shame, and other factors, keeps people from getting help and treatment for their mental health challenges. Plus, he reveals a reason that goes beyond shame that causes someone to resist treatment.

We believe treatment can truly help someone experience a better quality of life and health, even though sometimes finding the right treatment or doing the hard work of recovery could take quite some time and effort. And, living well is worth it.

• Connect with Dr. Brian Licuanan https://drbrianlicuanan.com and Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drlicuanan

• "How to Get Your Resisting Loved One into Treatment: A Step-by-Step Plan for Mental Health and/or Addiction Crisis" https://amzn.to/4aJkSTx

• Book signing at Barnes & Nobles in Huntington Beach on Saturday June 22nd at 11am https://www.instagram.com/drlicuanan/p/C8HtL81pZ1N/



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Victoria needs your help.

What is our response as we bear witness to the micro and macro sufferings in our personal lives, communities, and in the world?

Where and how might Biblical lament fulfill its purpose in the modern church? How can churches be better at holding space for people grieving, processing trauma, struggling with their faith, or facing mental health challenges both short term and long-term?

How do we unlearn a self-centered and religiously infused savior complex?

Disclaimer: Victoria’s ponderings are asked within context as a 3rd-Generation Chinese-American in the USA.

Please submit your ponderings to us at erasingshame.com/contact

Show Notes at erasingshame.com






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Faith Chang, author of "Peace over Perfection: Enjoying a Good God when You Feel You're Never Enough," joins Erasing Shame for a conversation about a more nuanced perspective about perfectionism, especially for Christians, how it's related to performance anxiety, and what we can do with Matthew 5:48.

Show Notes at https://erasingshame.com/how-could-perfectionism-be-a-good-thing-surprising-insights-with-faith-chang/


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Most of us, if not all of us, have experienced pain and shame for being singled out, feeling lonely and isolated. And, some people have even survived violence, emotionally or physically; we do encourage people get help to have safety, quality of life, and renew a sense of hope through those challenges. We have a conversation with Prasanta Verma, author of "Beyond Ethnic Loneliness: The Pain of Marginalization and the Path to Belonging," about all that and more.

Show notes at erasingshame.com/the-pain-and-shame-of-loneliness-with-prasanta-verma


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In 2016, high school Victoria met high school Christin. Somehow, Christin thought Victoria was cool- an adjective Victoria did not believe about herself to be true until 2024 when cool adult Christin met cool adult Victoria. Their current subjective definition of “cool” is equivalent to “weird- the good kind”.

Listen to the story of how the two met during one pivotal transition period for Victoria. Consider their following questions: When you are in a temporary season of life (e.g. a new school for education, a foreign country for language learning, a different state for employment) is it worth investing in new friendships? What is your general definition of a “good” friend? How do you maintain long distance friendships? What do you do when friends drain your energy or you face conflict?

Submit your answer to our bonus question at the end and your reasoning!

Show Notes at erasingshame.com/seasonal-and-long-term-community-part-1-s7e03




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