33 min

Unlearning Shame: How to Reject Self Blame Culture That's Helpful with Ed Stott

    • Self-Improvement

So often our focus here is on things that we can do as individuals to improve our lives and those of people around us, but there are some things that cannot be fixed by the individual.
Regardless, society tells us that we are responsible for massive global crises like climate change, marginalised people are responsible for their own oppression and people living in poverty just need to work harder.
Whilst many of us rationally know these things are not true, we struggle to let go of systemic shame.
Social psychologist Dr Devon Price is on a mission to help us with this very unhelpful feeling & he’s the author of Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power.

Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com
CONNECT WITH US
Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram.
Find Devon on Instagram⁠ & via his Substack.
BOOKS
Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power
TIMESTAMPS
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:00 - Devon’s own experience with shame
00:03:32 - Personal shame Vs. Systemic shame

00:06:00 - How systemic shame manifests
00:08:15 - Signs that we might be dealing with systemic shame
00:10:21 - The behaviours we display when we’re dealing with this shame
00:13:11 - How did we get here?
00:16:15 - How guilt fuels this sense of shame
00:18:00 - Shame as a distraction
00:19:15 - Systemic shame is not an effective tool for change
00:23:48 - The alternative to systemic shame
00:26:58 - How to ease shame on a personal level
00:30:46 - Letting go of perfectionism
 

So often our focus here is on things that we can do as individuals to improve our lives and those of people around us, but there are some things that cannot be fixed by the individual.
Regardless, society tells us that we are responsible for massive global crises like climate change, marginalised people are responsible for their own oppression and people living in poverty just need to work harder.
Whilst many of us rationally know these things are not true, we struggle to let go of systemic shame.
Social psychologist Dr Devon Price is on a mission to help us with this very unhelpful feeling & he’s the author of Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power.

Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com
CONNECT WITH US
Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram.
Find Devon on Instagram⁠ & via his Substack.
BOOKS
Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power
TIMESTAMPS
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:00 - Devon’s own experience with shame
00:03:32 - Personal shame Vs. Systemic shame

00:06:00 - How systemic shame manifests
00:08:15 - Signs that we might be dealing with systemic shame
00:10:21 - The behaviours we display when we’re dealing with this shame
00:13:11 - How did we get here?
00:16:15 - How guilt fuels this sense of shame
00:18:00 - Shame as a distraction
00:19:15 - Systemic shame is not an effective tool for change
00:23:48 - The alternative to systemic shame
00:26:58 - How to ease shame on a personal level
00:30:46 - Letting go of perfectionism
 

33 min