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A conversational style podcast by The Bachelor Australia Season 7 Runner up Abbie Chatfield, aiming to be just like having a thoughtful conversation while having a wine with your friends. Abbie and her guests will answer listener questions, doing the best to give her advice about dating, friendships, sex and all other facets of life and then do a deep dive into a topic of interest. Guests will include personal friends of Abbie's, people she admires and experts in fields that she thinks we could all learn from.


For Q&A questions, topic suggestions or corrections email Abbie at itsalotpod@gmail.com
Follow Abbie at @abbiechatfield and follow the podcast at @itsalotpod on Instagram

It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield Abbie Chatfield

    • Self-Improvement
    • 4.7 • 38 Ratings

A conversational style podcast by The Bachelor Australia Season 7 Runner up Abbie Chatfield, aiming to be just like having a thoughtful conversation while having a wine with your friends. Abbie and her guests will answer listener questions, doing the best to give her advice about dating, friendships, sex and all other facets of life and then do a deep dive into a topic of interest. Guests will include personal friends of Abbie's, people she admires and experts in fields that she thinks we could all learn from.


For Q&A questions, topic suggestions or corrections email Abbie at itsalotpod@gmail.com
Follow Abbie at @abbiechatfield and follow the podcast at @itsalotpod on Instagram

    28: EBTIL (Part 1)

    28: EBTIL (Part 1)

    It's the highly anticipated messy, dramatic episode about Abbie's ex, lovingly known was Ex-Boyfriend That I Love or EBTIL (as members of the now archived FB group called him)


    Abbie is joined by Georgie who you have met before, who has known both EBTIL and Abbie for years. They try to analyse the first 9 months of the relationship which will hopefully resonate with some listeners, and entertain others.


    Abbie and Georgie discuss "Love Bombing", and here is the link to the article quoted: https://www.wellandgood.com/love-bomb/


    If you have any questions, topic suggestions or comments about It's A Lot, email Abbie at itsalotpod@gmail.com
     
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    • 1 hr 2 min
    27: ABBIE CRIES ABOUT HER VULVA w/ Ellie from Comfortable In My Skin

    27: ABBIE CRIES ABOUT HER VULVA w/ Ellie from Comfortable In My Skin

    TW: In this episode we talk a lot about vulvas, being two cis women who have only slept with cis women, our language defaulted to binary and cis language. I just wanted to say that we both acknowledge that not all women have vulvas and not all vulva owners are women, and we still have work to do in fully converting our language. 


    This week Abbie is joined by her friend Ellie who is the founder of Comfortable In My Skin. Comfortable In My Skin is a project started by Ellie in which she photographs vulvas whenever and wherever she can to help with vulva acceptance. Her website, https://www.comfortableinmyskin.com.au/ is an amazing resource. 


    Abbie and Ellie discuss how to pleasure a vulva, how to ask your partner for oral, the nightmare that is Bacterial Vaginosis and how we can grow to love our vulvas, and be "Comfortable In My Skin" (ha ha ha). 


    Contact Ellie at @comfortableinmyskin_ or via her website
     
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    • 1 hr 10 min
    26: HABITUAL NUTTER w/ Flex Mami ( Lillian Ahenkan)

    26: HABITUAL NUTTER w/ Flex Mami ( Lillian Ahenkan)

    HABITUAL NUTTER


    This week Abbie is joined by Lillian Ahenkan akaFLEX MAMI!!!! Flex is an absolutely glorious human who has made critical thinking *cool* again with her card game REFLEX along with her incredible IG stories full of reddit threads, and her two podcasts (Bobo and Flex and Whatever I want).  
    Flex and Abbie play REFLEX, asnwering a question each, then go on to answer a listener's question about her consistently lack lustre sex life (which inevitably leads the girls down a path comparing porn watching habits, duh.)


    They then chat about Flex's career, her journey with sexuality and how she got to the place that she is today and finish off with some quick fire questions from the podcast group! 


    If you like It's A Lot, remember to rate and review on Apple Podcasts and share with a friend!




    You can find Flex at @flex.mami on Instagram, and all things Flex related can be found https://linktr.ee/flex.mami  
     
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    • 1 hr 34 min
    LOCKDOWN DAY 13: You don't need to be in a relationship!! Nice guys dont finish last! You probably just have attachment issues!

    LOCKDOWN DAY 13: You don't need to be in a relationship!! Nice guys dont finish last! You probably just have attachment issues!

    Abbie dissects a tweet that says the following: I'm the kind of girl that says I want a boyfriend but any time a guy tries to get to know me I'm like "nah not you"??? I'm the reason I'm fucking single".


    Lotsa issues but nothing we can examine!
     
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    • 14 min
    LOCKDOWN DAY 11: How to deal with slut shaming from an ex

    LOCKDOWN DAY 11: How to deal with slut shaming from an ex

    Grrr!! This one is full of anger. A listener DMd Abbie a message asking how to deal with her D-Bag of an ex who is attempting to slut shame her. Gross.
     
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    • 14 min
    LOCKDOWN DAY 10: GHOSTING, GLUGGING AND GIRLS

    LOCKDOWN DAY 10: GHOSTING, GLUGGING AND GIRLS

    It's been a couple of days because Abbie needed a mental health break. Today Abbie rants about anti-vaxxers and conspiracy theorists in a very niche facebook group she is in. She gives advice on how to deal with being ghosted, how to just be "better" in bed (and how to deal with someone not being able to c*m or get hard) and how to deal with being bisexual... even though she doesnt really know yet either. 


    Here is the link to the Ask Abbie mentioned: 
    https://www.popsugar.com.au/love/how-do-i-ask-for-what-i-really-want-in-bed-47723030 
     
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    • 27 min

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