The Gender Knot Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

2021 is giving 2020 a run for it’s money… sorry we’ve been away, but want to point you to a investigative podcast Nas put out recently for BBC Radio 4.

It’s called The Orgasm Cult and looks at a Californian wellness company focusing on female sexuality called One Taste. Gwyneth Paltrow and Tim Ferris were fans. Except there are allegations it may be a sex cult. And the FBI is making enquiries.

The podcast goes into questions about why women turn to wellness, the search for community and purpose in a secular age, and where exactly is the line between healing and harm.

It’s on all major podcast platforms, or get listening right now here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p08xzk5h

We’re back with a bonus hiatus episode and we’re talking about victim blaming, especially as it pertains to sexual assault. This is when a victim of an alleged assault is blamed, ranging from being asked what they were wearing, if they’d drunk alcohol, all the way to people not believing their story. Sometimes friends also don’t know how to handle the situation so either engage in victim blaming or simply disappear.



Nas recently made a documentary exploring the reasons behind victim blaming, and interviewed the NY Times’ Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor, who broke the Harvey Weinstein story, as well as Gender Knot favourites Dr Mithu Sanyal and Dr Jackson Katz. Check it out here for background: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3csyv0q



In this episode Nas and Dan talk about ways we can help victims instead. We’d also like to know your experiences if you’ve been in this scenario, as either a victim or someone being told of an assault, and any tips you have for how to help victims.



We also talk about an excellent podcast from Slate you should check out called Man Up... check it out here: https://slate.com/podcasts/man-up



We’re on hiatus and will be back with a new season in March. Keep writing to us until then.





Hosts:

Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll



Producers:

Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell



Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com



https://www.thegenderknot.com/





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We close season 6 with journalist Liz Plank. She’s just written a book about mindful masculinity and tells us about the general scripts we have about men and if these help or hinder our wider conversations. We then delve into her thoughts more.

We will be back with a new season in March 2020, and will pop up for some bonus episodes in January and February – share the show, leave reviews and write to us until then! And happy 2020!

Guest:
Liz Plank, journalist and author of ‘For the Love of Men: a vision for mindful masculinity’ http://www.elizabethplank.com/

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com

https://www.thegenderknot.com/

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We revisit this important topic just once more to really hammer out the purpose of an apology and some dos and don’ts.

We get some tips and insight from Harriet Lerner’s book ‘Why won’t you apologize?’ https://amzn.to/38hWsBz

As well as some wisdom from Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s powerful twitter threads which you can delve into further here http://bit.ly/344bnMg and here http://bit.ly/38nOszc

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.com
www.thegenderknot.com

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We talk a lot about what men can be doing right now, but we revisit a chat with Esther Perel on what women can be doing right now, and how we can all best be allies to one another.

Guest:
Esther Perel, therapist, author of ‘Mating in Captivity’ and ‘The State of Affairs’, host of the podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s work?

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Co-producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Additional links:
Write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.com
www.thegenderknot.com

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Everyone’s talking more about consent but where does this start? Educator Ellen Frederichs joins us to chat about how consent starts with kids and why we all need to be more specific about our experiences.

Guest:
Ellen Frederichs, educator and author of ‘Good Sexual Citizenship: how to create a (sexually) safer world” https://www.sexedvice.com/good-sexual-citizenship

Hosts:
Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel Carroll

Producers:
Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com

https://www.thegenderknot.com/

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